Good morning Thelma, please help me post this. I'm currently facing a situation that's making me have to make a decision concerning my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for six years this year. We are both in our 30s, we have good jobs and we're both comfortable financially. I've had the marriage talk with him several times and he always says that we will get married but at the right time. I never put pressure on him because we've always had a very good relationship. I know he loves me very much and everybody that knows us knows this. His family welcomes me as one of them and my family loves him too. We're both very passionate and ambitious people ad he is my best friend and I believe that he is my soul mate because he is everything I want in a man, he has a very good heart and he treats me like a queen so I always believed that soon we will start to plan our wedding until three days ago when I got a pregnancy scare. I missed my period so I decided to buy pt strip and it came out with two lines so I thought I'm positive. Do you know I was so happy because I'm about to have a baby with my bestie, I was not even thinking about marriage or anything. When I told Bae, I have never in our six years of dating seen him behave how he did. His immediate reaction was that I need to see a doctor to remove it, I was so shocked. I decided to give him time to understand maybe he was in shock but the next day he had become very cold towards me and he said that I should go and have an abortion and he started saying things like I thought ur on the pill? Why did you become careless? He even asked me am I sure he is responsible? Thelma this one hurt me very much because in 6 years I have NEVER cheated on him. Also I have never seen this side of him before, I am very surprised and disappointed. I now realize that I don't know him as well as I thought I did, and also if he was so adamant about an abortion, does he even plan on marrying me? Please I need advise, although he says he loves me and he will break down if I leave him, do you think I should stay or go? Is this a red flag please? I'm so scared because after 6 years in this relationship I don't know where I will start from, also I still love him very much.
Ps. I'm not pregnant.