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Drawing The Disloyalty Line.

Mercy and Francess have been best of friends for almost thirty years. They've been in each other's lives, seen each other through challenges, exams, failed relationships, bridal showers, weddings, baby showers and practically everything else. Their bond is so strong and has only grown stronger through the years, the two are closer than sisters.
      During the elections Mercy's husband ran for office and was very popular within his party, so his chances are rather good. However the opposing candidate belonged the then ruling, thus more popular party in the state. As such they had more backers and more resources. One of these resources was in the form of one of the greatest influencers in the state, who also happens to be Francess. Francess has a large platform, a cult-like following and a great track record as an influencer so anyone she endorses is likely guaranteed success. 
       Prior to the election campaigns Mercy had always taken it for granted that when the time comes, she and her husband would have Francess' backing. Partly because her husband is not only very credible, transparent and well qualified, but mainly because of their friendship. However it seems the opposing party favours Francess' business more and is not only paying her and her company extremely handsomely, but can also further her own career goals. 
      Francess, as is expected of her during a campaign period, is very vocal about her candidate on all media platforms and while she hasn't slandered the opposing party; Mercy's husband, Mercy feels a sense of betrayal. Mercy is also particularly unhappy because most people know how close she and Francess are supposed to be. She worries that this might affect her husband's image and chances as people might begin to question his credibility; seeing as the very close friend of a family publicly is supporting the opposing candidate...

Mercy understands that some might think she's petty and unrealistic but that doesn't stop her from feeling hurt and betrayed. Is she wrong to feel this way? Where does one draw the disloyalty line? Can their friendship ever be the same after this? If her husband won the election should she accept Francess back as her bestie or cut her off completely? Is Mercy being unrealistic? Is Francess merely doing what she has to do?

What do you think? 

Have you ever found yourself in a similar position, where you had to blur the lines of loyalty and put your career, advancements and personal prospects firsts. Please share. 

(Post Inspiration: @conniegirlswag)


  1. Frances is a snitch. Simple.
    She should have let Mercy and her husband know of her financial gains from the opposing party and ask them to match it after they win the election and chopped small Govt money. Isnt that simple?


    1. Snitch? Do you even know the meaning of snitch or you just want to use that word by fire by force?

  2. No friend in politics.

    1. Honestly, no friend in politics.
      What I think is Frances should have spelt all that's involved out to her friend, so that they know what game to play.

  3. If I put my interest first before my friend's it is not betrayal aka being disloyal.In Mercy's shoes, I will be grateful if my friend stands by my husband but if she chooses to stand by the other party for her own obvious interest it will be selfish of me to call that disloyal.

    Why does Mercy feel entitled to getting her friend's support to the detriment of her friend, Is that friendship???J

    1. Thank you J.

      Since they knew that Francess was always a major force in the political hemisphere, they should have taken her blessing even before contesting in d first place. Not after.

    2. You are right Uyi. See finish syndrome and loads of assumption messed Mercy up. There is no permanent friend in politics but permanent interest. NK

  4. For Frances, it's just business, sometimes you have to put you first.

    Beyond friendship, boils down to principles.
    It's a tough one. Until you walk in those same shoes and do the exact opposite, you can't judge no one.

  5. Well, Frances comes first, not her friend, not anybody and that is how it is supposed to be,She has to think of herself first. However, Mercy has the right to feel betrayed or bad, who wouldn't? If their friendship still goes on after this then they are very mature.
    If i was Frances, I would just be confused on what to do.

  6. "I belong to everybody; I belong to nobody"

  7. I dont understand - because they are friends she is not entitled to put her own needs first? The person running for office didnt he put his own needs first? Have people gone crazy looking for loyalty where it shouldn't be an issue?

  8. This is a none issue, every body is entitled to their emotions, opinions and what have you so Mercy has a right to feel however she likes but Frances's decision was a business decision. Its wrong to assume that because she's your friend, you don't have to pay your dues or go thru due process. In fact, I think Mercy took their friendship for granted. She should have discussed it extensively with Frances and given her time to pick sides or at least prepare her for the shock she was going to receive.

    Business is business. Friendship is friendship. I shouldn't have to sacrifice my daily bread for our friendship.


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