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How Do You Handle a "Stubborn" Sidechick?

This mail was sent to @joroolumofin who said he was very reluctant to post this because of its sensitive nature, but the wife sent it to him about 6 times. For those who don't know "abooku e ba wa to ju oko wa" means "Die hard wife help me take care of your husband for me".

Now where does a wife begin with an issue such as this?


  1. Her first problem is that she has not identified the issue. The issue is not the side chick (she has no power over this person's behaviour and this person owes her nothing) the issue is the cheating husband. If she tackles the issue her problem will disappear.

    If you eliminate this side chick,there is no guarantee there won't be a replacement in the nearest future. But if you eliminate the cheating nature of your husband your problem is solved. J

    1. Exactly what J said, no addition, no subtraction.

    2. True. She's in their lives because of the husband. Apart from the spiritual implications, cheating brings in STIs, STDs, hepatitis, HIV etc.

      For three years?! That one has become second wife.

  2. With all the scary stories, personal experience and all. I am beginning to think marriage may not be for me.

  3. My dear u are not alone.

  4. What J wrote....

    For the side chick to disrespect her in that regards the hubby must have really degraded her(wife) in front of the side chick.......just negodu the level of insult all because of a man. Tufiakwa.!

  5. Imagine the height of disrespect. This lady has to seat her husband down and show him the post. Then she should proceed to tell her husband how hurt and insulted she feels. A husband with a little bit of conscience will accord his wife some respect.

  6. As in just negodu!!! Just when u think u v heard it all!

  7. This ain't no side chick but a 2nd wife . She should do her findings o. Cos as e be, she don enter wan shance+her hubby is the driving force of the said lady.

  8. OhMahGad! Like my mil would say, this disrespect is on another level, this is the highest, imagine the nonsense, am just thinking what I would do in her shoes God! Her husband is a very useless man, he doesn't deserve her. I dont have solution for the woman sha but I know exactly what I would do in her shoes

  9. Her husband has no respect for her...thats what the problem is...its never the other woman. She needs to figure out how to take her respect either through, peace, force or fire.

  10. Men will cheat at some point and I'm not saying all men cheat 'if you're lucky yours won't' but what these men need to understand is that these chicks aint smiling and will go extra miles just to get what they want, they use jazz!. This I know for a fact. On the face of it people will advise this woman to talk to her husband if possible fight him but, personally I don't think that will do cos some girls even after the husband has ended things will still persist nd obviously the sidechick in question has something she's falling back on hence her boldness.


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