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Mr "Not Really Married"

Jules met Ikenna at the bank months ago. Right there in the banking hall they exchanged numbers and soon became really good friends. Jules noticed they had chemistry and knew that Ikenna liked her yet she wondered why he was being slow about asking her out. They started to spend long hours on the phone and went on a few dates where they shared hungry kisses, still no relationship talk. This drove Jules crazy, she was quick falling in love with him, worse yet, he was crazy about her too but just wouldn't say a thing. 
     The first time Ikenna visited Jules at home they had sex, very good sex, which made Jules adamant about having this man to herself. Boldened by this desire, she broached the topic and after an awkward silence Ikenna admitted that he was in love with her, but... he's married. 

This threw Jules off. She was mad at Ikenna for not saying anything all this while, leading her on and now making her sleep with a married man. He pleaded and pleaded with her to understand; he realized that he'd fallen for her and might lose her if he came clean about being married. His pleas fell on deaf ears as Jules threw him out nonetheless. 

Love, unfortunately, seldom dies an instant death and the heart wants what it wants. Jules was going crazy missing Ikenna and was failing miserably at forgetting him. It didn't help that he didn't relent in his pleas and often bombarded her phones with calls and texts. She eventually gave in. 

...It's been eight months of a whirlwind romance. Everything has been perfect besides Jules being the 'other woman'. Meaning that, she can't see him everytime she wants, she can't call him late at night, they can't go on certain dates, and other normalcies inherent in such relationships. 

Even in blissful moments, Jules wasn't pleased with Ikenna's jealousy. Understandably he wouldn't want to share her but she expected him to also understand that a girl of her age would want her own home, she needed to be able to date other people as she would like to get married and have her own family soon. After all, Ikenna was happily married with two kids, why should he stop her from doing same?

Jules who had borne the guilt of being a side chic all through the relationship desperately wanted her own husband and her prayers are about to be answered. 

One night Ikenna called her and said they needed to talk. He told her to meet him at one of the nice restaurants in town. Jules was excited and a bit confused. That restaurant was very popular, the kind of place one is certain to run into someone they know, the kind of place she and Ikenna never visited together. 

Yet, it was his idea so she wore a little black dress with killer heels and headed for the spot. 

Ikenna seemed rather fidgety and distracted and halfway through dinner he suddenly blurted "Marry me!"

"Huh?" was all Jules could say. 

"I love you Jules. Please... I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I've never felt this way about anyone else. Please say you'll marry me"

"Babes, have you forgotten you've got a wife at home? Besides my parents would die first before giving me away as a second wife" 

Ikenna's hand twitches as he takes a sip from his glass. 

"See, Jules, I'm not really married... When we met I was not ready for a committed relationship. I knew at your age you'd want a relationship that would lead to marriage but I wasn't sure I could give you that, so... I lied. I told you I was married so I wouldn't have to make any promises I knew I couldn't keep. I showed you my nephews' pictures and said they were mine... I've never been married, I have no kids.

"A lot has changed since I met you and now I'm not only ready to commit, I want to marry you! I've told my family all about you and my mum has been dying to meet you. I've been eager to meet your family too... Babe, I know it may sound farfetched but even in all those months I told you I was married I was faithful to you. I've not been with another woman since I got with you, and I have no desire to. I love you Jules, without you even expecting or demanding it I've stayed loyal and faithful to you. 

"Please, please marry me". He pulls out a small box from his pocket and opens it to reveal a beautifully cut diamond ring. 

In Jules' shoes what would you do?

This is inspired by real life events and "Jules" would love to know what you think. In addition to her other concerns, Jules feels that if she says yes, Ikenna might one day judge her for dating a "married man" and act on it...



  1. Very tricky. I think she should take her chances. There are many other things a man could use to judge a woman and act on it, this is just one of them so she shld take a breathing space and decide.

  2. Awww...*sobs emotionally*
    Biko marry the nigga and let the "future" take of itself...loll

  3. Yup! My thoughts exactly. That dating "a married man" ish is sure going to come up in the future and it most likely won't be a "laffin sturvs" then.

    To the question, if I were Jules, I'd throw that ring in his face and run out. I will eventually forgive him seeing as I love him already but I'll hate him for a while for putting me through all that nonsense just cos he wasnt ready to commit(who does that by the way?).

  4. This is not even an issue. Its simple. All Jules has to do is INVESTIGATE!!!

  5. My exact thought. Will that guy ever trust you?

  6. If she loves him, they should both go ahead, she equally has her ace to play.

    He deceived her as well. This love thing is complicated, as long as they re both happy, what's the point seeking for more wahala. Let the future worry about itself, enjoy your here and now biko.

    But that guy sha, he deserves some slaps. Bfor she says yes,

  7. The guy sounds unstable and childish. So he cant open his mouth to tell the simple truth? Mbanu some shit isnt worth it at all.

  8. Xo wat is d issue here?? Mscheeeeeeewwww

  9. If I were Jules, I would give him a slap after the explanation... u don't joke with a girls heart like that jor... then might say Yels if the ring to too Omo after then I don turn Secret Service ooo.... must investigate wella. "The heart of man...". a guy that can tell that i'm married lie can also lie to tie a babe down. Jules darling ya love has got to wear glasses so that I no know no go dey ooo

  10. What is Jules feeling like sef? To me she did worse than Ikenna. All Ikenna did was lie which is totally bad but she went ahead and had an AFFAIR with an 'pressumed' married man being fully aware of his made-up status. Mehn gerrarahia Jules, ur crime is inexcusable. I'm surprised the guy even wants to marry you after that. You better marry him before another woman does. If you want be feeling high and mighty.
    Better still, turn down his proposal and just send Thelma his details so I can get it. You neva hala!!! Imagine!!

  11. If he should ever judge her for 'dating a married man'; then she should hold him out as someone who could cheat on his wife. Simple! #Casedismissed #Nextcaseonthecauselist

    1. hehehehehehe.... #registrarcallthenextcase#

  12. He is a psycho o, he is twisted.Run Jules, Run!

  13. Both of them have issues! Jules best blive he will keep bringing up this sleeping with a "married" man thin for the rest of your lives..


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