Hey guys!!! How have y'all been? This crib has been usually quiet, anyone care to tell me why? It's just as well as I've been swamped myself. Yesterday my family was blessed with a new addition. After several hours in labour my sister was finally delivered of a buriful baby boy.
Naturally my family is elated, and relieved, as it got to a point she was too tired to push and said she wouldn't push anymore. To make it worse, she was alone. Her hubby had to go to work and then stay at home with the two other kids. My mum would go, but in a couple of weeks, so she had to go through it all by herself, but since she was later given epidural we were able to chat and talk during the "push process".
So, baby came around 5pm (Nigerian time) and later last night I asked what name she'd chosen. She told me the name and I personally thought they could have, you know, done better, picked one of these funky new-age igbo names or something... She says well it's not in her hands, it's her husband and his father that choose. I'm like but they chose for the last one, and probably the one before. When do you (WE) get to pick the baby's name??????
I could feel her shrug.
This morning I came to my parents' to congratulate them on their newest grandchild and to eat mama's cooking. I raised the name issue with my mum and she practically shushed me. She says it's not for us or my sister to choose. I'm like HOW? WHY? She says it's tradition, his family picks the names (we can choose the secondary ones that nobody ever knows or remembers)... While we're talking, my sister calls from the U.S. and raises the name issue. My mum says please just go with whatever they want, it's they that get to choose, it's tradition, you have no say. Best you can do is modify the name the way you want; if for instance they choose Chukwuemeka you can decide to call him that or Chiemeka or Emeka, but if they don't agree just go with what they want.
Aaaaaaaaarghhhhhh! I wanted to pounce on my mum! How does someone carry a child for nine months, go through 27 hours of labour and eventually be cut open, and not get a say in what the child is called? In what universe is that okay???
Still mummy says it's tradition and we don't get a say.
Please is this what applies where you're from? Are mothers allowed to pick their children's names? Did you pick your kid's names? Who gets to choose? Tell me please because I'm so picking my kids' names, I already even have their names sef!
I hope my sisters' in-laws don't read this and come at me ooooh. Lol.