Good mooooooooooorning guys!
How has it been? At my end its been all sorts and I know my blogging game has been off point... Apologies...
So that's my new nephew right there. Isn't he the cutest? This right here is a reminder of why I must marry a hottie, we need to do it for the kids. LOL.
The last few days have taken me all over the place, I've crossed borders, reconnected with my most loved ones and basically just learnt to breathe slow and appreciate life.
So please bear with me for the erratic posting, I'm really working on getting back on track.
Guys, I was asked to post this by someone in the situation. Your views would be appreciated.
Tobi was given a contract worth several millions. He executed it but was yet to be paid by the government for a very long time, well over two years. Initially he was relaxed about getting paid as he had other sources of income and his regular 9 to 5 job. In order to pursue other businesses he needed to leave his 9 to 5 job and focus. However, as is quite normal with new businesses, there was a teething period.
Unfortunately this particular teething period was unduly long and terribly challenging. Tobi then remembered once again that the government was owing him several millions. He made threats, bribed some staff in the organization, begged and pleaded, all to no avail.
Sometime during this period Tobi started dating Nkem, and when Nkem learnt of his troubles she took it upon herself to pray for her man. She did novenas, attended Father Mbaka's Adoration severally, fasted a number of times and continued to encourage him. Not long after, Tobi was paid by the government and was given a few millions for compensation for the long delay.
Tobi was overjoyed. Nkem was ecstatic; now her man can take care of her like a real man should.
Tobi wants to inject all this money into his business, that's after paying his house rent, settling debts, buying Nkem and few gifts and sorting his family out. Nkem however has other ideas. Besides these little gifts he's promising, she's demanding a car and money for her rent in Agungi, Lekki (about 800k). She would also like him to take her on a vacation to Zanzibar or Dubai, but this can wait. Tobi thinks these demands are outrageous and says the best he can do is give her 300k which she can spend at her discretion.
This has led to great issues with Nkem constantly bickering and Tobi constantly irritable. The fights are vicious; filled with name calling, insults and accusations. Nkem says she's willing to break up but not before she gets what's rightfully hers. After all had it not been for all her prayers and sacrifices Tobi would still not be paid, she particularly believes that it's her prayers that caused them to give him the compensation as well, which ordinarily he would not be given. Tobi appreciates all her prayers but doesn't believe her owes Nkem anything besides gratitude. After all the money he was paid was money he was owed for a contract he executed with his own money, equipments and manpower.
Is any one here right or wrong? Do prayers come with a price tag? Does Tobi owe Nkem anything? Can this relationship, with this bickering and fighting over money and entitlement lead to (a good) marriage or should they call it quits?