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The 40s Red Flag!

When it comes to relationships there are some red flags that should not be ignored. There are a number of them, but this particular one?...

"Oh, he's really nice o! We have a good time together. He's really tall, fine guy, nice job, nice ride, comfortable lifestyle, nice crib, good christian, really interesting, fun to be with... He's from a good home too, Sagittarius, 42..."  
"FORTY TWO???" My friend blurts, cutting in. 
"Are you sure he's not married?" She asked. 
"He's not"
"He's never been married?" She asked
"No children?" She asked
"Not married, never been married, no children, and 42? That's not normal". 

This is what you get at any mention of a love interest in his forties. 

But here's the thing, a lot of women in my age bracket are meeting men in their 40s who claim to be single, and we have no reason not to believe them. But for the rest of the world they seem to think this raises a huge red flag. 

So what do you think, is there anything strange about a guy in his forties who's not and has never been married? Does this signify that there's something wrong with the guy; some ugly character flaw or a deep dark secret? Does he represent a burning red flag we should steer clear of? 
     Or could it be that he's just not been ready? Too busy with career? Hasn't found the right person yet? Just hasn't been lucky in love?
     What do you think, is the single 40-something year old guy a red flag?


  1. My baby is 41 and I'm almost 30. I mentioned this already on a previous post that we are dating for the second time. It worried me a lot cos i expected him to be married with kids by now after we broke up 3yrs ago. Sometimes I'm worried that one day he will just call me up and revealed that he is married with kid and I'll just faint. It worries me a lot althou I have done investigations to my best of knowledge.
    He travelled to the east a while ago and came back saying his people called him for meeting to talk about him getting married and even suggesting his town babes.
    So to my best of knowledge he isn't married but the thing can like to bother me sha. What is he waiting for??

  2. Would be a red flag for me.

  3. The red flags will come when his behavior is different from what he says......

    I know some never been 40year old men who don't even has a job talkless of to get married. Not everybody would get married early.

  4. Sometimes it's not a red flag, some guys don't make it early in life, some don't want to marry on time and some have not met their choice, hence their being single to that age.
    But some are just mischievous.

  5. Atink we are talking about 40 something year old men who are rich and have good jobs and from good and wealthy homes and supposedly have everything going well for them, biko it is very abnormal, am not saying its not possible. Look very very well something is wrong somewhere, maybe behaviour or some physical defect or he's still carrying a torch for some old flame that broke his heart or died or whatever and as a result doesn't want to marry

  6. At 40+ there must be a concrete reason for not being married or have kids. Not just the 'I wasnt interested, blah blah blah' so why r u interested now? Suddenly maturity stepped in?
    It may be so but they are so rare that meeting one is even a red flag.


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