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To Call The Wedding Off Or ...?

This mail sent to @DerrickJaxn got me feeling some type of way. My first reaction was to roll my eyes and ask "What do women really want?". Second reaction was to call her friend a witch. But my third reaction... Hmmm, what if there's an actual valid concern here? What if there's a real self control issue to be contended with? Is he implying that if he had to stay with the friend in the house he would have had to get frisky with her? No woman wants to knowingly wed a philanderer so is she justified in wondering if she should call it off? 



  1. That babe needs to be flogged!

    There's no issue here. First, he didn't leave because he doesn't trust himself, he left because he didn't want to "cause any confusion". I interpreted that to mean that he didn't want any body waking up one day and insinuating that he slept with her friend that night they were alone...peeps can be really funny you know..

    Second, even if he has self control issues, he has sense enough to remove himself from the temptation. A wise man is not the one who stares temptation in the face, he's the one who is wise enough to get himself out of the situation by any means possible. I think she has a good man, he's a man who's ready to take responsibility. He could have stayed, probably fallen into temptation and blamed it on the infamous konji and that would have been the end of the story but he didn't. He removed himself from a potentially dangerous situation.

    That shows respect for his lady and yes, self control. The babe had better borrow herself brain and stay with her man.

    Women sef! They never know what they want...smh

    1. like button!! where is the like button?!!!! u want to throw away a man that obviously respects you and cares about what you think of him enough to leave his house to a hotel room (not even sleepin on the couch ooo).. please throw him abeg let me catch him... and that ur friend that is agreeing with you.... her way no pure o.. she's just waiting for you to end it and either join her in being #singletostupor, or kuku "pick the hurt man up".
      please be wise...

    2. Thank you Sunshine... Bulls eye!

      The celebration of Breakup is now a thing of pride more than being in Union.

    3. like button!! where is the like button?!!!! u want to throw away a man that obviously respects you and cares about what you think of him enough to leave his house to a hotel room (not even sleepin on the couch ooo).. please throw him abeg let me catch him... and that ur friend that is agreeing with you.... her way no pure o.. she's just waiting for you to end it and either join her in being #singletostupor, or kuku "pick the hurt man up".
      please be wise...

    4. Plenty likes for Sunshine's comment.

    5. Couldn't have "typed" it any better my "Sun-chine"

      Very apt!!!

      Woman, receive brain now.

  2. U re a fool... Call off an engagement cus he left ur friend to avoid stories dat touch??? Call it off and watch ur friend get married to him to think dat she even accepted u calling it off... guess u don't ve eyes to see she doesn't mean well for u... Asides dat ,don't blame d man here cus who knows how hard dis so called friend has tried seducing him..

  3. Even if the guy is having self control issues, at least he z trying . Again, I think the man understands perfectly that women are unpredictable, he z probably just tryna be careful .
    The lady calling off her wedding, has she considered the fact that her 'friend' could have bn making advances at her fiancee and the guy left that night to avoid any episodes. Her thoughts shouldn't be one-sided, there are a thousand and one reasons that wud av made d guy leave that night.
    She should please talk to her fiancee and find out why (to clear all doubts).... And, emmm that her friend is no friend at all.

    1. I totally agree with u dear! D gal de mumu

  4. Jokes. What really happened is that the hotel story is the distraction. The guy stayed in the house and had sex with the friend. The friend is patiently waiting for the wedding to be called off so she can jump in. Why would your single friend want to sleep in the house when you are not there sef


    1. So see the kids, Kon. To see the kids...

    2. Good question!

      Why did the friend stay late while her friend was not around?


  5. Friend has an ulterior motive for (1) staying late up till it was too late to go home. What on earth was she doing with another woman's man that she "lost track of time that much?"
    (2) agreeing that the friend should let her man go for such a flimsy reason.

    If girlie o cannot wake up and smell the coffee, then I really don't know what else to say. If the man really left for a hotel then she should be proud of her man and marry him in a heartbeat. He had the good sense to remove himself from a situation to avoid stories that touch... or has she forgotten how Portiphar's wife in the bible accused Joseph falsely of rape just because they were alone in the house?

    There is more to this story than what we have been told. Someone somewhere has something in the closet. I just hope the scenario painted above by "Kon" isn't the true story.

  6. This lady needs a slap to reset her sense,ur boo had a chance to have sex or be tempted by ur friend,blood runs through his veins,he not a stick,so he applied d prevention is better than cure formula and u are complaining.

    Mz indomie says so.

  7. I understand her concern and I think the guy leaving the house was not a smart move, so are you saying when we get married and a friend sleeps over and maybe I am not around, you would sleep in the hotel. It like saying you cannot be left in a jewelry store because you may steal "control yourself man"
    On the other hand, if her friend has made a move before and he never told her or she has a questionable character, then that could be a reason to sleep in the hotel.
    I don't think there is a valid reason to call off the wedding sha, afterall you did not just meet him

  8. Hmm, ah. Men don suffer. See better man and bitches are still complaining and contemplating. If Na me I ain't going to no hotel oh, I love d temptation. I go chook d girl my prick for her eye. Fuck every hole in her body. Blind d bitch.

    1. Lmao! Alfarsi is not well... I swear

  9. Assuming the story is for real and not Kon's "conspiracy theory"

    Me thinks the man has a valid reason why her may have left the woman @ home, so the theory of being left in a jewelry shop may not apply.

    Also, what the heck was she be doing there till it got late, mind you "late" in this case is very relative.

    She put herself in that situation jor, what kids was she checking on, did she make lunch n dinner n tucked them to sleep.

    Anyway, the "court is in her ball"

  10. Haha, she should break it off and let somebody else be with him joor....she is obviously not ready yet..if not she would have borrowed a brain.


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