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Female Bosses = B*tches?

I just had an infuriating experience at a NEPA office that makes me wonder if people who say they prefer male bosses to female bosses are not just being biased. 

So my situation is, no meter at home. Paid for a meter since June but they have refused to give us one so every month its one outrageous arbitrary PHCN bill after the other. Some months it runs into 70,000 or 80,000 and there's nothing you can do about it, and no, the power supply is not great! What this means is that on some months one might have to pay part of the money and carry the balance over to the next month. I learn this is quite a normal procedure and so far this has been fine with the man in charge, provided I pay more than half the amount and the outstanding is not so much. I never knew how tough things could be till I found myself alone in August with all bills on my shoulders, so this part payment has been my recourse on some months. This month the bill (outstanding inclusive) is simply outrageous, the kind that makes me say (rich) Husband, come soon!

I went to the office to pay about half the amount (outstanding inclusive) and when I got home I saw that they'd come to cut my electricity supply. I went back to the office to explain that I'd paid but I was told that there's a new sheriff in town as Mr xxxx has been replaced with Mrs yyyy.
I went to try to reason with Mrs yyyy but she said she's not having any of it, no light until all outstandings are paid. So I tell her we paid for a meter months ago, showed her the receipt and said if we'd been given our meter we wouldn't have to receive such crazy bills and I wouldn't have a problem paying them. She said she don't care, and no amount of begging, pleading or entreaties could soften this woman. 

Her subordinates told me I was only wasting my time as Madam would never budge. 

As I Left the office I began to wonder if women placed in positions of authority feel they have something to prove and inadvertently or inevitably become cold and bitchy... 

Anyways enough of my rant, let's find out what you think; would you rather work under a male boss or a female boss? Reasons please!

(Oh, I know a lot of us are or aspire to be our own bosses, but don't let that stop you from sharing your thoughts). 

...Anyone else care to rant about PHCN bills? Plus the bigger issue of why they outrightly refuse to give a tax paying citizen a meter that's been paid for months ago, and thereby get away with charging ridiculous sums and stuffing their coffers...


  1. I'd prefer a Female boss.

    I just get along with the opposite sex more. I feel comfortable around them.

  2. Women in positions of authority are always difficult, even female airport staff. They are mostly rude and have such a nasty look on their faces. Its not a Nigerian thing, I've noticed the same in Dublin.

  3. Most female bosses I know gat issues, I no I'm an exception though. If I do say so myself.

  4. NEPA/PHCN is story for another day#refillsfueltank.
    Female bosses?Never dress better than your female boss if you wanna last long in her company.dazol

    1. Bloggitup, you are absolutely right. Never ever dress more than you female boss. I was opportuned to work with one years back and I'd say I saw h'll. I would chose a male boss to female anyday

  5. Sai feminism...#Changi lolz

  6. I would rather work with a male boss a million times than to work with a female boss once. I had this very wicked witch named Emise Nonso onwunibe as a boss sometimes back and she made life a living hell for all her subordinates. She was never happy, always insulting people. everyday she made sure gives us a rough and gloomy start. Thank God I have being freed from that shackles.

  7. When I was with GTbank, there was this female boss that won't let me be, she wasn't even my direct supervisor, but she would make it a point of duty to come inspect my shoes, hairstyle n dressing. Apparently she tot I was just a girl with good looks and that's how I got the job. We had a small kitchenette where we use to all eat, it could only take 5 persons at a time, but when she's in there, no junior person could eat there, I always made sure I went in there about 3 to 5 mins before her. She felt I was being rude, mbok, I no send her, she had to wait for me to finish eating (lolz).

    One of those annoying days when she was ranting about my hairstyle, she tried to insult me in yoruba not knowing I understood the language ( her words " all these ond graduates that will be feeling like beauty queens, with noting in their heads"). That day I was ready to walk out on the job, cos I was vexed, I stopped in my tracks and said:

    "Excuse me Mrs. Xxx, I am a first class graduate of computer science from the university of Benin, best female graduating student in my set, just so you know"

    Then she went: eeehen, mo so fun yin pe ko jo awon ond rara. (lolz).

    Apparently she and her click had been gossiping about me. The sad part is that this babe isn't fine o, but frustrates her subordinates.

    By the way, na 2:1 I make o, but I just wanted to oppress. I left the bank a few weeks later.

    1. Lmaooo! Correct babe! She kuku won't find out! Loooool!

  8. Nepa or PHCN is a wacko establishment. Applied for the card meter over a year ago, even visited their office to give the unusual usual but still yet no meter. Worse part of the all matter is their charges, Its like am paying for designer light and no matter how much you complain they dont budge. I pray the President restructures PHCN and infuses some new blood.

  9. Male boss all.the way,If it was a man uwere explaining to,I bet u he would have reasoned along with u,I bet u female bosses are something else, though we still have d nice ones but the bitches are more.

  10. I used to think male bosses are better than female bosses, in fact after one nasty experience on my first job, I prayed for a male boss. I have had 4 female bosses and one male boss and I can tell you that only one of my female bosses gave me serious issues and she didn't last a month on the job cos everybody complained about her until she misbehaved to our director.

    Now, at my current job, we have two departments under one group and each department has different units under them. Our group head is male, my department head is male and the other department head is female. All the guys in my department are relatively cool guys but my HOD? That guy is a pain in the ass. He's officially the worst boss I've ever had. He's difficult, uncultured, uncouth, and grossly disrespectful. His mouth has no censor at all, he insults all his subordinates openly and put them down every opportunity he gets. He's the absolute worst!

    The woman on the other hand is the best boss ever! she's so cool with her subordinates, only raises her voice occasionally when she's super pissed(which is not often), seriously coordinated et al and still manages to get the job done. Her department makes way more profit than other departments but you won't know. On her birthday, the amount of gifts she received from eternal people who work with her was just wow! Cakes kept coming in, different gifts including a Prada bag. You would think no other person celebrates birthdays in our group. She's just a very incredible person and everyone wishes to be under her. Did I mention she's incredibly smart and great at her job too?

    The point of this story is, whether or not a person makes a great/bitchy boss is dependent on their character as a person. An uncultured disrespectful person will make a terrible boss. (s)he will feel like (s)he has to show that "I'm a boss" like my HOD does. He just likes to show you, he won't let you close on time, anything you give him to sign must stay on his table overnight for no reason, anyone who wants to see him must wait in the reception for at least 20 minutes even is he's not doing anything whatsoever. Everything is just difficult with him.

    He's the only guy I have met who is like that. Its just bad. Anyway, like I said, the person's character, upbringing and education(yes!) matters. Male or Female, they can all be terrible and good..


    I will say it is neither here nor there. As there are female bosses who are bitchy, there are male bosses who are assholes too. It all depends on the individual in question. I have a male boss. Believe me, I'm not finding it funny at all.


    IF you are SURE that the charges are not commensurate to your energy consumption; write them a letter of complaint asking them to review the exponential charges levied on you. IF after 15 working days nothing happens, that is to sayn there is no reply and no visible reduction in the charges; write a letter to the Chairman, National Electricity Regulatory Commission (N.E.R.C) Forum Office in your state complaining about the arbitrary charges. Attach the previous letter as an annexure to the letter to N.E.R.C. Thereafter, the N.E.R.C. Forum Office in the State will take it up from there.

    1. See I'm facing exactly the same issue with NEPA no headway

  12. I'd rather work wt a male boss biko!! Female bosses have power issues... From experience.

  13. You say this but are you any better? Check yourself very well and see if you aren't as bitchy and nasty.

  14. The disposition/ demeanor of the female boss/staff most times is influenced by the state of their relationships. Sexual satisfaction plays a great role in women's moods/temperament.


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