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Hush-Hush & Jinxes!

You know some times it's really wise to keep things under wraps. That's a concept that's beginning to elude more and more people in this age of social media; over sharing and over sharers. Oh, no judgement there, I've done my fair share of oversharing but even in days of naïveté I've never really shared anything truly personal on social media (giving myself some credit here). 

For some, it's that inability to contain their excitement; look at me, i'm travelling here! I'm flying first class! I'm getting that oyel job! I'm dating Mr Big! I just got engaged!... For some it's not about containing excitement but just rubbing it in other people's faces; look, my life is so much better than yours! And for some it's just a way of life, if they haven't shared something on IG then it feels like it didn't really happen. 

Of course things like engagements and weddings shouldn't be kept under wraps, well unless you're marrying someone else's spouse. Like that little scandal we saw on Bella Naija yesterday which made me think that just maybe, just maybe some people should keep things hush hush until it happens. BN put up a post by Mariam Adeyemi's Caucasian Fiancé's purported ex wife Petia (Pheew, that was a mouthful!) saying that they (she and Mariam Adeyemi's fiancé; John Trimmer) are still very married and there's never been any talk of  divorce or separation. The wife said her angst was triggered when the lovebirds; Mariam and John had their pre-wedding photos posted on Bella Naija. 

So you see, sometimes it's necessary to keep things under wraps. Keeping things off social media and away from the public eye is sometimes necessary and even advisable. But have you ever had a friend that kept things secret from both social media and you? A friend who never shares important things with you or anyone until it's happened? For instance, last week we were talking about a certain former "runz chic" who got married to some "island big boy". It was a big wedding as the duo are both very popular, individually. Yet popular as she is, her friends didn't know about this wedding until two weeks to the traditional marriage, when she gave them the Aso Ebi. As in, her close friends didn't even know she and the said guy were dating, much less engaged!

People said, well knowing her kind of friends you can't blame her. Yeah, I think that was wise. Likewise some years ago my friend *Tola didn't tell anyone she was getting married until after the court wedding. For close friends this can be pretty offensive, it could get you feeling like am I the winch that will stop your wedding from happening?... Or stop you from getting that job?... Or stop you from making that trip?

I'm not sure what their reasons are but I'm learning from them and keeping things private, even from close friends (LOL. Let's all keep our plans secret nau. Can't be telling you 'every' while you tell me nada). However I'm not very sure why. I understand the need to not share certain things with people until said things happen, so that, just in case they don't happen you don't look stupid or worse yet, begin to answer questions here and there. But I hear most people just don't share their plans or hopes so that it doesn't get jinxed!

I'm not sure guys, should I be offended by that friend who tells us about the job - only after she's gone for the interview and got a callback, about getting her masters - only after she's began the program, about her wedding - only when preparations were well underway, about her travel plans - only when she's boarded the plane and strapped in her seatbelt ready for take off (yes I'm talking about an actual friend)...

Or should I understand, because sharing your plan with people could jinx it? 

What do you think? Are you the type that talks about things with whomever and whenever, disregarding all unsubstantiated beliefs? Or are you like my friend that keeps things tightly under wraps until it's happened? Oooh, have you ever had an unpleasant experience which you think resulted from sharing your plans with someone? Do tell, do tell, ooooh please tellll!


  1. T, these days you can't trust anyone oo. Someone like myself when i would be getting married i won't make so much noise at all cos i got burnt from my last experience (broken engagement). I have had my fair share of this even to the extent that my younger was planning her wedding and i was the last person to know about it (sad face) but i just left everything in the hands of God.

    PS ( any BV around surulere that wants an exercise companion please, ejo, mbok indicate under my comment) ese gan

  2. Nne, biko me I donno...

  3. I share out of excitement though someone told me recently that I should stop sharing things on my blog about my hubby and kids because the world is wicked, to that I just tire, I am not private as such,my hubby is however private but I have things I keep private

  4. T,I really don't like sharing personal information with anyone(even family),its just who I am..Truthfully I haven't experienced any form of friends backstabbing or betrayal,disloyalty or whatever,I just love to deal with my thing alone,by myself,I really don't know how this trait came about,probably from peoples experiences or stories I've heard.
    I would only tell you if it has anything at all to do with you,if not,I don't say..

  5. People ain't loyal anymore...fake friends and fake family members needs to be extra careful abt everything cos we r nt even sure of who to trust anymore...your best friend is another's best friend!"Ogbon laye gba"


  6. They say when u get pregnant, u shldnt spill. even when the bulge starts to show, never tell how far gone u are....

  7. Moderate what you share and make sure the sharing doesn't control you. Over sharing is the for the timmergate story- somehow it seemeds to simple to be true.

    Folks who are quick to give you a full frontal of their lives often have a lot more going on in the background - I don't mean this in a good way either.

    Some people are justified in not telling folks what they are doing- sometimes you want something to be a success first before you share, not necessarily because of evil eyes...

  8. Me I share to see the other person's view of what am sharing and learn..I don't need to fear about your reasoning or thoughts, if God said its mine,its mine and nothing can change that.But when some family members don't share am like "O gini ne eme zi oya"..Still console myself that people ain't the same and always remembering that perfect Love cast out fear

    1. Perfect Love cast out fear, Word!

      I've learnt to cultivate a whole lot of wisdom in choosing my friends, hence most times I'm super comfortable sharing my life and its details with friends. Because I trust them and I also strive to keep their details and secrets intact. Apart from being modest with any success I accomlish (If any), I'm mostly extroverted hence I need to talk and oftentimes share, but most times I tend to act wisely in knowing what amount to share and to whom to share to.

  9. And all my comments dissappeared

    Oh well

  10. I recently discussed possibility of moving to another firm with a colleague of mine who used to see me as his arch rival. I wanted to beat myself afterward but I had to tell him because I needed a second (informed) opinion and he happened to be the best option I had. When I mentioned to another colleague that I told this 'my former rival-colleague', he said I shouldn't have because he is not straightforward and could back-stab me. Oh well, I just had to take my chances because at the end, he gave me the needed encouragement and some useful tips with which I prepared the presentation I made to the firm.

    When you speak about things, carefully selecting who you speak to, it may be advantageous. Moderation is key....


  11. It is better to keep it wrapped until it happens. Thanks for sharing. You are really thinking

  12. Some people choose to talk about stuff so as not to jinx it whilst, for some others, it's just uncommon wisdom.
    Like my mum will say, ' obi di anwuo"- the heart is tricky- it might not even be in a person's nature to want to hurt you or to hate another 's success but it could just creep into their minds.


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