You know some times it's really wise to keep things under wraps. That's a concept that's beginning to elude more and more people in this age of social media; over sharing and over sharers. Oh, no judgement there, I've done my fair share of oversharing but even in days of naïveté I've never really shared anything truly personal on social media (giving myself some credit here).
For some, it's that inability to contain their excitement; look at me, i'm travelling here! I'm flying first class! I'm getting that oyel job! I'm dating Mr Big! I just got engaged!... For some it's not about containing excitement but just rubbing it in other people's faces; look, my life is so much better than yours! And for some it's just a way of life, if they haven't shared something on IG then it feels like it didn't really happen.
Of course things like engagements and weddings shouldn't be kept under wraps, well unless you're marrying someone else's spouse. Like that little scandal we saw on Bella Naija yesterday which made me think that just maybe, just maybe some people should keep things hush hush until it happens. BN put up a post by Mariam Adeyemi's Caucasian Fiancé's purported ex wife Petia (Pheew, that was a mouthful!) saying that they (she and Mariam Adeyemi's fiancé; John Trimmer) are still very married and there's never been any talk of divorce or separation. The wife said her angst was triggered when the lovebirds; Mariam and John had their pre-wedding photos posted on Bella Naija.
So you see, sometimes it's necessary to keep things under wraps. Keeping things off social media and away from the public eye is sometimes necessary and even advisable. But have you ever had a friend that kept things secret from both social media and you? A friend who never shares important things with you or anyone until it's happened? For instance, last week we were talking about a certain former "runz chic" who got married to some "island big boy". It was a big wedding as the duo are both very popular, individually. Yet popular as she is, her friends didn't know about this wedding until two weeks to the traditional marriage, when she gave them the Aso Ebi. As in, her close friends didn't even know she and the said guy were dating, much less engaged!
People said, well knowing her kind of friends you can't blame her. Yeah, I think that was wise. Likewise some years ago my friend *Tola didn't tell anyone she was getting married until after the court wedding. For close friends this can be pretty offensive, it could get you feeling like am I the winch that will stop your wedding from happening?... Or stop you from getting that job?... Or stop you from making that trip?
I'm not sure what their reasons are but I'm learning from them and keeping things private, even from close friends (LOL. Let's all keep our plans secret nau. Can't be telling you 'every' while you tell me nada). However I'm not very sure why. I understand the need to not share certain things with people until said things happen, so that, just in case they don't happen you don't look stupid or worse yet, begin to answer questions here and there. But I hear most people just don't share their plans or hopes so that it doesn't get jinxed!
I'm not sure guys, should I be offended by that friend who tells us about the job - only after she's gone for the interview and got a callback, about getting her masters - only after she's began the program, about her wedding - only when preparations were well underway, about her travel plans - only when she's boarded the plane and strapped in her seatbelt ready for take off (yes I'm talking about an actual friend)...
Or should I understand, because sharing your plan with people could jinx it?
What do you think? Are you the type that talks about things with whomever and whenever, disregarding all unsubstantiated beliefs? Or are you like my friend that keeps things tightly under wraps until it's happened? Oooh, have you ever had an unpleasant experience which you think resulted from sharing your plans with someone? Do tell, do tell, ooooh please tellll!