Good morning hunnays!
I've been awol since Friday, it just couldn't be helped. I sincerely hope you had a swell weekend?
During some down time over the weekend I watched reruns of Devious Maids. Below is a dialogue between wealthy socialite, Mrs Delatour and her maid of over 20 years Zoila. Mrs Delatour is going back to her ex husband who not only cheated on her severally with no regard, but did so even with her friends and her own sister.
Mrs Delatour: we're going ahead with the wedding
Mrs Delatour: I love him
Zoila: Love someone else!
Mrs Delatour: I have... But when I'm alone at night, he's the one I think about
Zoila: he will continue to cheat on you
Mrs Delatour: I wouldn't be the first wife that learns to look away...
Zola: I don't understand you. Where's your dignity?
Mrs Delatour: What's dignified about growing old alone?
Shortly after this scene I happened upon a mail supposedly sent to Joro Olumofin by a 52 year old woman who's been married for 30 years and I read her advise for younger wives.
The conversation between Mrs Delatour and Zoila is an apt depiction of marriages today. You get cheated on left, right and centre but you know, you might as well deal with it. Besides the alternative is much more dreadful than infidelity; being alone. The chances of a woman finding love (or companionship) once she reaches a certain age are very veeeeery slim, so...its best to sit your ass down and look the other way.
And then not long after I read that mail and once again, the words of another older woman who's been married for the length of my life advices young women like myself to look the other way, just like Mrs Delatour is doing.
I'm not sure what to make of all this. In my past relationships the thought of my man cheating was something I couldn't quite deal with. Yet I'm being told that in marriage I would most likely be cheated on, and I would have no choice but to accept it and continue to love and support my husband while he philanders.
Nna nawa oh, this marriage of a thing isn't for the faint-hearted...
My people, what do you make of the mail sent to Joro Olumofin. Do you think it's good advise or nah? Are you currently in a relationship/marriage with an unfaithful man, how have you handled it so far?
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