Hey guys, I would really love to know what you think. So I'm being approached by this guy in his mid-late 30s for a relationship. So far he's seemed ok, however last night he called me on his way to my place. A couple of his friends were in the car with him and I'm not exactly sure what happened but he complained to this friend to drive well. Immediately the two other men in the car started to abuse him, like very serious abuse o! They said he is very stupid and annoying and he should just shut up and focus on the call he is making. He too was shouting back and they continued to shout him down. At some point one them said if you don't shut up we will park and throw you out of this car, fool!
Hmmm, it was not playful banter or jibes among friends, it was a very serious exchange of harsh words and when it became too much he quickly cut off the call. He called me about ten minutes later and said he was almost here but I told him I'd gone to bed and suggested we see tomorrow.
The thing is I became so turned off by everything that had just happened. First off, I don't want a relationship with a man who exchanges words like a market woman. One that still trades words with his friends like JS1 QC girls would do. But my main concern is the way his friends insulted him without any bit of respect, not even caring that he was on the phone with a lady that he's trying to woo (most friends would at least wait till you're off the phone to "finish" you, but these ones sounded like they even wanted the chic to know that the guy is a pant! Biko I'm not calling him that o! That's just how it all sounded). In fact it not only sounded like they have zero respect for him, but like they hate him and barely tolerate his presence.
While I have not developed any sort of feelings for him, I was willing to give him a chance and see if we could work. Now I don't think I want to date this person anymore, I believe I am a dignified person and I want to be with someone worthy of respect, at least from his own friends!
Am I overreacting by not wanting to date someone that is the butt of jokes and the subject of mockery and disdain among his friends? Do you consider it important or necessary for your partner to be respectable and respected by others, or do you consider this a non-issue? Please tell me what you think.