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Why Are We So Thirsty?





Hey guys. So that's how last night my friend Niran heard I was in town and asked if I'd like to go clubbing. I certainly did but I insisted that we go somewhere there's a blend of different races. You see, earlier yesterday I went to the beach and my friend and I were the ONLY black people there. We stuck out like a sore thumb. I tried to ignore it and enjoy myself but the stares made that impossible. We got stared at like the most unlikely thing one was expected to see there was a black person. The beach was lovely but that ruined my experience so I certainly didn't want a repeat at the club. 

Niran assured me that he knew a place that I would enjoy as there were loads of Africans there and they played african music too. Niran couldn't have been more wrong! First off it cost an arm and a leg to get into the club; almost $100 for the both of us, then the drinks cost an additional head. LOL. It wouldn't have been so freaking annoying if I had fun but once again I saw my friend and I being the only Africans in the entire club. The DJ alternated between American music and Indian music and when I couldn't take it anymore I begged to leave and Niran was only too happy to oblige. 

On getting back to my hotel I saw someone having a cigarette, this was about 3am. He courteously said good morning to me and when I heard his accent I realized he was Nigerian. Finally! I told him what just happened and he laughed and said I should not have gone to that club. He listed a number of cool clubs to visit then suddenly said; "that's a great one but unfortunately your sisters have been banned from entering the club". I looked at him and said "I have only one sister and she's not in Dubai". After politely chuckling he explained to me that the number of Nigerian girls prostituting over here is so alarming that some clubs now feel the need to ban Nigerian women. 
     That's not news, I've been wanting to visit Dubai for a while with a particular friend but everytime I'd suggest it she'd nervously say "Nwando people will think we went to prostitute, let's go somewhere else" and then I would let it go, until I decided that it was rather stupid to live my life based on what people think, but I do see her point...

And that was how the man and I launched into this whole other conversation of Nigerians giving Nigeria a bad name. My new friend (If we can call him that) seems to be a very cultured man. He's a northerner but told me dispassionately that he has no ties to Nigeria. His parents were diplomats so he grew up in several different countries around the world. He got his first degree at Imperial College and his post graduate at MIT (pretty impressive, yes?). He said while growing up, when they spent years in the US his diplomat father forbade him and his siblings from having Nigerian friends, as 9 out of 10 Nigerians seemed to be up to no good. 

He lamented that if its not Nigerian girls prostituting in Dubai, it's Nigerian boys doing Internet scams in Malaysia, or Nigerian boys robbing in SA, or Edo women prostituting in Europe, or Nigerian boys doing tax scams in the USA, or boys in Nigera scamming the whole world through the Internet or something. 

This isn't news to any of us but what I can't quite figure out is why we are so "thirsty". The hunger and poverty in Nigeria isn't worse than many other African countries yet we're the ones willing to do almost anything for money. Why do other Africans have a sense of contentment, content to have enough to get by and live happily but we, we're filled with greed? We can just never have enough! Is it something in our blood, something in the air? What gives? Why are Nigerians so thirty???

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  1. Wow! Never looked at it from that angle, are we that thirsty ?

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    1. Ur comment just cracked me up,we are really thirsty trust me,am not surprised though.

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  2. We don't know contentment and are devoid of empathy. That's why a director earns N2 million a month, makes at least N10 million through shady office deals but he will scuttle a plan to pay drivers an extra N2,000. That is if he can't corner the money for himself. It will take him weeks to pay his N10,000 plumbing bill. Because he doesn't see why he should pay him so much money.

    I don't understand our greed. It can't be explained.

    Mallama
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  3. We are thirsty for wealth cos of the need to oppress or "belong". The society we live in have made affluence a yardstick in determining ones Achievements.

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    1. Nkem I think you're right, we have very terrible oppressive mentality in Nigeria. That's why you hardly see even friends help one another make money, a friend would rather give you handouts than show you the source of the wealth. Because the want to be one that's hailed as the chairman when you guys are out. Another reason might be cos we tend to listen more when rich folk talk but the not so rich are ridiculed. Everyone wants to feel important and respected, and in this country money buys you respect.

      There was a time we went to a club and my friend drove his older brother's sclass, while I was in my tuke tuke, when we got to the club they opened the gate for my friend to drive in but I was asked to park outside. Lol, and I was the one gonna pay for drinks, I just quietly asked my friend that please we should go somewhere else. That's the kind of fake reverence money gives Nigerians, and most are thirsty for it.

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  4. Wow... #deep sigh#.. The love for money & greed...


    I love the way you write...

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  5. Thelma, I keep asking myself the same question, why are we just so discontented.

    Its so pathetic, so sad.

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  6. The one that annoys me that after all the scam,prostitution and all,majority of them spend the money on clothes, ladies and clubbing.

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    1. Exactly, no achievement, I used to be close to a Yahoo guy back in 2010,there was a time he hit billions of naira,he was going to celebrate it with his friends in a club on the island, but first they had to pick up someone at surulere, there is this popular roundabout/bend around lere,can't remember the name cos am not familiar with lere,that's where he had the accident that saw him spending that money on four different operations to make him walk again, now he practically has no choice than to pick up a decent job to feed but one of this legs is never gonna be like before,maybe if he hadn't plan to go squander that money at d club, the accident would have been postponed or never happened. I just pray we realise our quest and thirst for money before it totally rubbishes our names.

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  7. Nigerians are sick as a collective with a disgusting sense of entitlement. Out selfish- greed is what leads to a lot of what you have described above....it explains why most people believe they deserve more and are better than the next...

    We are an emotionally bankrupt nation with a ln intellectual challenged populace - how else can you explain it?

    No one wants to earn what they getand no one wants to pay others what they have rightfully earned...

    www.pynk360.com

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  8. My opinion is this, we are all part of the problem. See as how everyone on here is being 'self-righteous'(no offence). This 'system' has been corrupted since the military era and it transited into the Democratic system seamlessly with the same people still in charge.

    The glorious part of all these is that we now have a government committed enough to at least infuse some dignity into system. Obviously it won't happen in a year what was destroyed in decades. Lets just stay hopeful and keep hopes alive that we are on the right track to redemption.

    First step to a solution is admitting we(not they) are the problem.

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    1. It's good that you have faith in this government...

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    2. Oga speak for yourself o, first of all I don't share that your faith in this government at all. 99 out of 100 doesn't mean that everyone is the same. I speak for myself now, I am not part of the problem because I don't act like the typical Nigerian, sue me.

      Yesterday I queued for hours to get fuel and just as I got to the pump on policeman came to the front of the gallon queue with a keg and said the attendant should put fuel for him, everyone kept quiet, I said oga, didn't you see people queueing here? He said I'm a policeman, I said that I noticed but so what? He said that he wants to get fuel to go and protect lives, just laughed and said oga sorry but there's no way you're buying fuel before me and he didn't. I said if the other people allow you then that's their business. I refuse to be intimidated by your uniform.

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    3. Hmmmmmmm,Steele u get mind ohhhh,anyways that served him right. Uniform men always thinking they are above the law and can ride on anyone anyhow.

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  9. I agree with Nkem! We just want to show off.

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  10. People are thirsty because they can, and then throw away self-restraint, self-respect and integrity out of the window.

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