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You Don't Know What You're Missing!





Sex. That's one powerful thing/tool/noun/verb... But really what makes sex so seemingly ultimate?

Sometime ago during lunch with two of my girlfriends, one very very sexually active/liberated/adventurous and the other, a virgin. We got to talking about everything from work to money to who's getting married, to who just had a baby, to who's travelling where and who just got a promotion, when in the middle of this very chaste/serious/boring conversation Miss Sexy suddenly asked our other friend "Come, are you still a virgin sef?". To which Miss V replied with an emphatic "Yes!". 

I just read on Lifetitude's blog about a 36 year old lady who, like Miss V, has not only never had sex, but never been touched or kissed by a guy. Somewhere between her strict religious upbringing, her duties at church and her long work hours, it's just never happened. She says she doesn't miss sex (you do not miss something you never had) and also doesn't even think about it. 

She wants to know if she's normal but what I want to know is if she's really missing something. My friend Miss Sexy said, probably 10 times in one minute to Miss V; "Ahh, you don't know what you're missing". 

Are these ladies really missing anything? What makes it so big a deal, really? What exactly is sex for you, and to you; Is sex something you do because it's a pleasurable activity? Or because you need to make babies? Or because it's a bonding experience between you and someone you love?
    Does an adult who's never had sex or experienced any sexual activity like kissing or fondling deserve sympathy? And what's the possibility that Miss V and Miss 36 are asexual without knowing it? 

Oh, and lastly (the amebo in me just has to ask) can you live comfortably without sex? 

Comments

  1. I have never been a sex freak,to be sincere I see sex as stress, I could go a long time without and I think I can live comfortably without it,that's If am still single ohhhh but if am married and my hussy doesn't touch me,then yawa dey. But really I don't think Miss V n Miss 36 are missing anything because u cant miss what u never tasted like u said, but at 36 without a man and still a virgin? Hmmmmmmm it is well. To me sex is a bonding experience between two partners ,not because it's pleasurable or a duty but because it just create that bond and keep d love growing (that's in marriage though, not in single dome)

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  2. Abi I aff live without sex ni???... stop am if na play ooo...hia!
    Keji

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  3. Sex is overrated jorr...

    I believe sex's sole purpose is for making babies, well it took me experience to understand that. But truly, anything outside that is just work and stress.

    The thoughts of having a baby through sex, to me, is the pleasure.
    Uyi

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    1. If you like carry the eye to yabaleft, that's my new truth. Lol

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    2. So Uyi just said this. I'm already having a better opinion about him.

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    3. So Mr, how many kids do u plan on having and what family planning method do u plan on using and what do u do after uve reached the quota? You lock up and go celibate cos sex outside making babies is just work and stress??? (unless of course u like work and stress) *side eye again*

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    4. @Balogun,better opinion because he said sex is "work and stress?

      Sex is all of the above for me,sometimes it's for making babies the other times it's for bonding or fulfilling marital obligations or purely for pleasure. At different times in ones life sex will definitely mean different things.J

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    5. Not necessary because he said 'work and stress' but because he said sex is overrated. I'm definitely in for sex for pleasure within the confines of marriage though.

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    6. @Sasha. I intend to be the new Abraham Lol! Father of many nations.

      My dear I like sex, but after experience, its just an activity that gets boring overtime. I can understand the fixation people do have towards it. But I don't let it define me towards anyone.(e.g. 'I know u for our sexcapades'...nah).

      I've made my mind up that my sexual activity must involve having kids (in mind) nowadays. I don't care what anyone thinks. Lol

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  4. T sex is all of the above for me, for pleasure and bonding and eventually making babies. I love sex a lot but if I don't see it I wont die. Lol

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  5. Clearly some of y'all are not having the right kinda sex...
    Me, live without sex... Lmao... My body will just start scratching me... Dear future hubby, u better be a freak like me....
    Going anonymous on this... Lol..

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  6. Clearly some of y'all are not having the right kinda sex...
    Me, live without sex... Lmao... My body will just start scratching me... Dear future hubby, u better be a freak like me....
    Going anonymous on this... Lol..

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  7. Heard of a story of a woman that sex was just there for her. Nothing special. Just a bonding experience. Then her husband died. Years later she married again and then boom! The sex was in the clouds. The sex took her to places she had never been. Sex became a pleasurable experience.

    So..... Im sure yall can draw conclusions. It depends on your partner.

    Peace.

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  8. Does an adult who's never had sex or experienced any sexual activity like kissing or fondling deserve sympathy? No, he or she doesn't because its nothing special (my Pastor said so). And no, they ain't missing nothing because you cant miss what you don't have.

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  9. Sex sex sex.. hmmm. The act we indulge in and often times leaves us feeling guilty. For me being celibate comes easy cos I realised that things go better for me when im celibate. I feel like a better person. Don't get me wrong, I'm not overly religious or a saint. I am flawed to the nines but like I said, things fall Into place when I'm celibate. Cos weda we like to do it it or not, there's more to sex than just the physical.

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