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I'm so sorry for shirking my responsibilities as a blogger; my duty to furnish you with regular posts. It's just that it's a really busy month and then to top it up my sister came back with her brood and then almost immediately had to leave town for something, leaving me with a two month old and two little children! I'm at my wits end but what can I do? She returned last night but resumed work this morning so there's not much relief for me. I've barely had time to eat or bath much less blog. Like, I have no idea what's going on in the world at the moment. 

At this point I doff my hat to all mummy bloggers, I don't know how y'all do it. Especially to you MFA of Lifetitudes (, who not only updates regularly but runs her own businesses and is a nursing momma! Bride2Mum and Lohla's Melange as well. Oh, and although I don't know Sisiyemmie I must applaud her to. I mean, how does she do it with the regular updates, the reviews, work, baby and a weekly Vlog? What is my excuse? LOL. 

I've just put baby down to sleep and this is my opportunity to get some shut eye, at least before the other two wake up. Nonso is just 2 and is at that age where he's constantly throwing tantrums over nothing. Aaaaargh! Thankfully he and his brother are starting lessons today for four hours a day, so at least for those four hours their tutor takes them off my hands. Ope o!

Of course this also means that for now my life is being put on hold. My mum says she's done with omugwo and has returned back to her business, and since I don't have a 9 to 5 then I have to step in. I love playing mummy but while I'm not yet an actual mummy I would love to still enjoy the benefits of being single. For instance I wanted to travel on Friday but of course I couldn't. On Saturday my friend called and invited me to take the last flight out to attend the I Concur concert as they had a table. I really would have loved to but again, I couldn't. Yesterday I had a birthday party to attend but for where, na siddon look I dey!

I've told my sister she needs to get someone to help with the kids ASAP because I'm likely to be very busy from January. We talked about it and she said baby would have to join his brother in crèche. That made me quite sad but I think it's safer to put a baby in crèche than to leave him at home with a stranger. Please what do you think?

Another option would be to bring said stranger in, of course with solid references. What we're trying to decide if a young girl/lady would be good, or a mama (a matronly/older woman who's a mother or grandma) would be better? We're still try to decide but I would love to hear your thoughts and reasons. Thanks guys. 

And thanks for sticking it out with me. God bless...


  1. Awwww.. your nephew is so cute. Eku mummy duties o... lol

  2. Matron is better, all this young strangers are terrible. And I prefer creche the most. It's safe and reliable.
    By the way, I really wish am in Lagos I would have come to help you out. I love babies, am always feeling like a mummy whenever my elder sister comes to my house with her baby.

    Pray along with me am married and TTC. 2016 is my year in Jesus name. Enjoy your mummy duty sis.

    1. I agree with you in faith Joy. Just as you've prophecied so shall it be for you, amen. In the meantime please have fun and enjoy yourself and marriage, babies will come!

    2. Joy Oke,from your mouth to God's ears.By this time next year,You'll come back here to testify to the greatness of the Lord.

    3. Joy all you need is faith and obedience to God. Hear God's words.
      The God the Lord of all flesh, who nothing is difficult for (Jer 32:27), whose plans for you are good and to give you the future you desire(Jer 29:11) will give you children, He said to you "have many children, multiply." (Genesis 1:28) and serve the Lord God, He will take sickness away,nothing shall cast thy young, nor be barren.(Exodus 23:25-26).
      God will love and bless you so that you will have many children and increase (Deut 7:13).
      He has said so and and remember His words always do what He has planned for it and He never changes his mind. (Isaiah 55:10, Numbers 23:19).
      Pray and receive (Mark 11:24)"...for there is nothing that God cannot do."- Luke 1:37.
      Rejoice and shout for joy for now you will have more children than a woman whose husband never left her (Isaiah 54:1).

    4. I say a big AMEN to all cccc's prayers for you. It'll surely come to pass.

      God bless you cccc, you have a very beautiful heart.

    5. Amen. Thank u all. God will answer your own heart desires too

    6. Amen and amen!!

  3. Thelma daalu.

    If the crèche is a real good one, then I think it's better, as there's a chance of safety with it being an organisation. The downside to it is, I doubt baby would get customised catering to and total concentration as compared with an in-house nanny.

    The pros with the nanny would be having the child staying in your home plus the comfort, stability. But then how well do you know the said nanny to be. Oh "strong recommendations." It would be good if the nanny can be hired when you can still find time at home and watch + teach her about your choices.

  4. Thelma, you're complaining? What if as tired as you are, husband invites his friends over? After drinking, he'll want some sex. Then as you're about to sleep, baby wakes up for a feed. Then you have a 9 to 5 job. Super women, we all are. Bring in a woman who has experience caring for young children.

    Taking an infant to a day care, means he'll have a cough and cold, all the time. But this is what you'll have to do if you don't find a nanny.


  5. I think creche is better, I just cannot trust someone in my house alone, with my baby *shudders too scary.

    You're still mentioning me, lols me that I've gone on indefinite hiatus...

  6. See aunty Thelma oo. Haha. I know exactly what you're going through, I was there for 7 good (horrendous) months. My sis left PH for Lagos early this year, saying business there was dry. I was disappointed abit because she can occasionally be a royal pain, but I cheered up almost immediately when I realized her *soldiers* would be tagging along; one 2 years old, the other 5 months old. "This sure would be fun" I thought. Massive yimu.

    From incessant screams to the sound of crashing items, occasional injuries from accidents, incoherent singing, slamming DSTV remote on floor and walls like it was some kind of disgusting rodent. At first when I got in from work I enjoyed their playful greetings, but as time went by I sometimes deliberately delayed my journey home. Lol. It was serious mixed feelings: I'm tired, but if they go I'll sure miss them like hell. They finally left in August, and to say that I miss them is a serious understatement. Parenthood, hmmm..

    1. It's that smashing of the dstv remote that gets to me!!!! Arrgh!

  7. Thelma daalu.

    If the crèche is a real good one, then I think it's better, as there's a chance of safety with it being an organisation. The downside to it is, I doubt baby would get customised catering to and total concentration as compared with an in-house nanny.

    The pros with the nanny- an elderly woman, would be having the child staying in your home plus the comfort, stability. But then how well do you know the said nanny to be. Oh "strong recommendations." It would be good if the nanny can be hired when you can still find time at home and watch + teach her about your choices.

  8. Welcome to the club T, this is the story of my life, that's why we can't seem to have ordinary "lunch" together.

    Creches are okay if they are run by professionals committed to the job. It won't be all rosy, (cold, cough and other ailments) will follow. Besides you never know what fully happens to the child. I suggest an elderly person, but have a nanny cam @ home o.

    Once the child is up to 9 months, a creche is ok. I'm not to comfy leaving a 3months old baby in a creche.

    Pls practice well, cos I for see wedding tins for you in 2016. I just believe it.

  9. Awwwwwww all I see is that cute boy. God give me a fine hussy.

    1. Most times two ugly people can make a mighty fine child. Lol

  10. Awwwww Thelma you look like a tired mommy who still gat much love for her baby...cute boy.
    Well most nurseries here take babies from 3months but they are in the same room with kids up to 2years old and some kids easily catch cold,cough,flu etc from nursery...but then some folks go back to work at 3months and have no choice than to put the child in nursery
    If you are to go with child minder/nanny, go with elderly person that is highly recommended from reliable people/agency who can be held accountable too.


  11. How much do nurseries/creche charge in Naija?

    1. I found a nice creche close to my office @ lekki phase 1. The cost is ridiculous over 700k per every quarter. While I appreciate the effort put in place to ensure the kids are well cared for, I doubt the average Joe can afford that amount.

      I just did a back flip and strolled out. Anyway cost varies based on a number of factors (location, poshness, experience, etc)

  12. Some days you just want to give up and ask yourself as a mummy blogger,"who send me sef?" But passion keeps pushing you, some days it pushes you so hard, some days it doesn't even push you at all.
    I think you should get an older person and place cameras all over the house, also inform them that there are cameras

  13. I just don't understand a country which will demand a mother going bk to work that early! It's absolutely ridiculous. Had my baby almost 7 months ago and I'm still home on full pay and I'm officially going to continue to be home till April when baby is 11 months old! Still getting paid and other benefits!
    If I go to work and my mind is constantly with my child how will I be efficient ?! How do I exclusively breastfeed a baby that refuses a bottle?!
    I'm so grateful for the uk government and their maternity policy.
    Anyways I reckon a nursery will be the lesser one of the two evils....


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