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'Tis The Season To Be Merry... Is It Really?

Christmas is a fun time for many so it's easy to get carried away with the festivities and forget that the world is full of unpleasantness and bad things don't take a break from happening just because it's Christmas. 

Last night I got a bit bored so I began to scroll through my whatsapp contact list and I was shocked to see that three good friends of mine had recently updated their status/pictures to announce the death of a parent! I was shocked to see Nnenna's father's obituary, and the other two saying adieu mama. I was so weak that I just sat on my bed and sobbed. 

A few days before Christmas, my friend at Ajao estate travelled out of town leaving his wife and maid at home. Later that night armed robbers visited their home and I'm not sure why robbers do this, but even though she didn't resist and readily gave them all the valuables at home, they shot her in the leg, just a few inches away from her vagina. Then they casually asked "e touch you?", saying it was a mistake. It was a mistake yet after shooting her and carting away all her valuables and ATM cards, they returned thirty minutes after leaving to ask for the pins, promising her that they would come back and kill her if she gave them the wrong pins. She's still at Igbobi Hospital at the moment and things just aren't so great right now, even though the family is thankful. 

Today I read about the police man that killed twin brothers and their friend at Ketu. Then turned the gun on himself. I read that the twins; Taiwo and Kehinde, are the only children of their mother. That happened on Christmas Day. 

There's also news of the Nigerian father and three year old son that died in a car crash, also on Christmas Day. 

And of course terrorism and terrorists don't take a break either, so suicide bombers keep suicide bombing and killing innocent people, for no apparent reason. 

So yes, not everyone is having a Merry Christmas. I talk to some blog readers and even in this season of cheer, some are still lonely, hurting, ailing or wailing. 

I'm reminded once again how much I have to be thankful for. I may not have the man of my dreams, the perfect job, the desired account balance but I've got loads of love, health, my loved ones and of course, you! 

So good or bad, intense or uneventful, happy or sad, tell me the kind of Christmas you've had so far and your hope for the new year. 


  1. This has been one of my worst ever, even if last year beat it. So I guess things are getting better and I'm grateful for that.

  2. Grateful to God for been alive in the land of the living. Although not celebrating the Xmas with my family but am thankful that he gave me Love and the ability to know him more.

  3. This Xmas has been one of my worst ever but I just can't complain because m alive,I have my family bouncing and kicking what more can I ask God for,a Facebook friend and also a course mate back in school lost her father on Xmas day coupled with all these terrible news we have been hearing, who am I not to be grateful. God has been faithful even in my unfaithfulness towards him. I know 2016 is a better year for me,a year I will.look back and smile knowing it was worth the wait. Happy new year in advance.

  4. This Christmas has not been wonderful,but I thank God for life.and I know there is hope for tomorrow.God has a bigger and better plan 4 my household.In all,grateful to God 4 keeping us from Jan to Dec.It has been him all the

  5. Indeed so many tragedies all around, the ketu incident, the Nigerian dad and son really touched me.

    Just when I though I had finally earned a shopping spree for my self since I had baby number 2 ten months ago, I was forced to divert the funds around to those painfully in need. My biggest achievement in 2015 was having my baby in good health despite the challenges, it also left me with some unexpected memories that caused me to evaluate certain aspects of my life and putting my finances and other things in order.

    My Christmas has been filled with work and stress as I have to babysit all through- No help/nanny. This situation-ship is killing my vibes.

    I look forward to an amazing 2016, I carry the strong belief that I'd succeed in every sphere, my walk with God, career and other things.

    Thelma, it will be fine, we can only hope for the best.

  6. Its been fun so far.

    You have to consciously make it fun. Dont be a snob and stuck in your house and expect Christmas to be fun. Do what is supposed to be done during Christmas - Be merry! This is wide (Generous, cheerful, reflect on God etc)


  7. Whatever is in the air this season is just so bad.

  8. Good and fair enough. In all give thanks..

  9. Christmas was uneventful... until yesterday. I'm really really grateful for my life and family and all I have. God has blessed me with so much, I can't thank him enough.

  10. Great in some areas,not so great in others. In all I give thanks.

    I believe the year would be wonderful


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