"Happy birthday my husband and would be ex-husband James Alphonso Campbell (AKA emma sillah) the most wicked and violent man I have ever known in my life.May this day be the beginning of the time you will pay for all your crimes. May God never allow you to skip judgment and may your wickedness be serve as a birthday cake as you celebrate for the rest of your life.As you turtured me day and night when I was in your house may the laws of this country catch up with you one day . I survived your cruelty towards me because God was on my side but now is the time for the whole world to know the marriage I was in and why I used my hard earn money to file for divorce. See you soon in court James A Campbell"
I just found this birthday message from a wife to her husband on Laila's blog, and for the life of me I cannot imagine why a man would do this to a woman, much less his wife! It beats me. Please what do we blame for this Inhumane treatment many Nigerian wives seem to be enduring these days? Is this a recent epidemic or is social media just bringing domestic violence to light? I can't remember hearing of so many DV issues when I was growing up...
That said, my friends mum uses dentures because daddy has knocked most of her teeth out. The last time she was beaten nearly to death she finally agreed to leave. Thank God! However after a brief visit to the pastor, mummy was brought back home, to continue enduring daddy's pounding. Did I also add that daddy occasionally brings his mistresses home, during which mummy is relegated to the guest room? Oh, and all the kids are grown and independent so mummy can't claim to be "staying for the children". Unfortunately she happens to be a good Christian woman and an obedient daughter, so when Papa says a virtuous woman does not leave her husband, she goes back home.
My question is, shouldn't there be exceptions to this "divorce is never an option" shii? Why do some pastors insist on wives staying even in the face of death? Is that their translation of "till death do us part"? I just don't gerrit!