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Blog Reader Asks... (To Teach Him a Lesson Or Not?)

I have a question for the blog family. In a nutshell, my husband and I had a lil argument on Wednesday night, that got so bad that he slapped me (to quieten me a bit, cos the mouth was really running and gave me a black eye. In that chaos, I cut the gold necklace on his neck that worth 300k and hid it. Now that we've patched things up, as it wasn't his intention to hit me, he has swept every nook and cranny of the house looking for the necklace. Do I give it back to him, or just sell it and spoil myself a bit with the money, to serve as a deterrent for him not to raise his hands on me again. What do you guys suggest ?


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    1. Lol. That was funny.
      To the poster, how many necklaces are you planning to sell? Because your mouth may run again o. I don't think that's the best way to "teach him a lesson ".

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    1. I'm telling you...*sigh
      'to serve as a deterrent for him not to raise his hands on me again'... Please how would it 'serve as a deterrent' when he doesn't know u are the one who 'stole' it and that u 'stole' it for the sole purpose of 'serving as a deterrent'? How?

    2. Hahahaha, Memphis how abeg?

  3. Jiji It!!!!!!!!!!!! Lmaooooo!

  4. You both are just being abusive.. Him slapping and you hiding chain.. Y'all need to talk about your issues and ways on how to communicate without being verbal or physically abusive and give him back his chain.

  5. Sell it if you know you can keep ur mouth shut. And do not flaunt whatever is it you use the money for - do not bring suspicion to yourself.

    I do not support violence of any sort, while you are at it - learn how to control yourself so you can control your mouth if you intend to stay married to him.

  6. All I am seeing is....he Slapped me..that's mega for me mehn.Just raising voice at me would cause me to run fah...

    I will say give it back to him....because you selling it is you unconsciously saying it's okay for him to slap you whenever an argument gets him angry.

    But I think selling it will make you feel better about the slap....which you obviously can't return...if that's the all means sell it

  7. Efritin it..!!!! Lols.

  8. I feel your rationale for your proposed plan to sell the gold necklace in question doesn't hold much water. If he lays his hands on you for running your mouth in a distasteful way, chances are he'd do the same subsequently, irrespective of whether he knows you sold his priced possession.

    Moving forward, I think on one of the cool days, explain to him what has ensued with his gold chain. Soothe and convince him that it wasn't in your best plan to cut his chain. Also, you could go the extra mile by finding out about repair persons and the price range to fix the damage.

    PS: most guys tend to be sentimental over their necklaces. Also, I think you could run into a lot of undesirable situations by selling it. Say, your husband recognizes his chain on the buyer and the story behind the sale comes out with you being the culprit....

  9. Sell it please. After giving you a black eye, you deserve the money jo.

    1. Poster sef it's as if you like slap. If you sell it the next time he hits you he'll add the annoyance of the chain o.

    2. As in...I'm still on that "slap" part,and the "lol" that followed afterwards. Hmm..seems like u're giving excuses for ur hubby hitting you.
      No real man hits a woman irregardless.
      Every mallam to his kettle.

  10. It wasn't his intention to hit you ? Hmm ok
    Why do you want to sell the chain then since you guys have reconciled ?

  11. I have one question sha, was he awake when you cut it off his neck? If yes, why is he looking for it when he knows it's with you?

    Women please please and please, as much as I don't condone this, you guys should learn how to control your mouths. I know that's where your power is. A man's strength is physical and his ego is very fragile. Women know that know that they can't beat physically hurt their man so they use their mouths to hurt him emotionally, a man who hasn't mastered control of his emotions will lash out violently and physically just to shut you up and stop the emotional onslaught(just like the above case). And he might want to hurt you physically and much as you hurt him emotionally or worse. He might want your face to look as bad as his feels.

    1. So the probability of Steele hitting his lady is 1??
      I saw your comment on the previous post where this particular guy said "all girls lie"...what's his name again?rme...
      ...back to the comment under that post together with this,I feel you're unsure about you hitting your lady.I might be wrong or I just might be right.
      Steele honey,when the worse comes to worst and your lady starts running her mouth like a broken pipe and the words hurt so bad it pricks your heart like a thousand needles.What would you do?

    2. Thanks for pointing that out Aramide,

      Steele, really though.... Are you really sure you don't condone it? With the way you've been subtly defending DV. I wrote wan very long piece before but I said let me not run my mouth before I receive an e-slap. (Pun intended). These are words you hear from a potential abuser... Because when you're faced with a terrible situation, this is the excuse you'll play to your conscience and you'll be alright with it.
      slapping/hitting a woman because she's s hurting your ego shouldn't be an option just as slicing your finger because you have whitlow isn't. This is in response to "but guy there are some things that a woman you really love will do to you and you'll go crazy."

      Do not make excuses for abusers. Nnkan ti ko da.. Ko da! What is bad is bad!
      Thank you.

    3. I will never touch a woman because I will kill any man that touches my sisters no matter the excuse. I always tell my friends that if they are with a woman that can wind them up to the extent of losing control of their emotions and raising their hand then they are not with the right woman.

      I'm just being realistic, I even know girls that say it with their mouth that there are some things a girl will do to a man and if they were the man they would beat hell out of her. So let's not try to act like I'm condoning anything or like I'm a violent person. I just try to be realistic. There are still women that don't think their man loves them if he doesn't beat them.

  12. I can't get past the "he slapped me" part. I hope you have made him understand that going forward, slapping you is not acceptable?

    That said, if he doesn't know you have the chain, selling it defeats the purpose. So if you're trying to teach him a lesson, he needs to know you have the chain.

    Also, you need to control that mouth of yours so you guys don't come back to this point in the future.

  13. . Lol, don't mind yetty n Kabuoy, abeg return it jare. He wil luv u more. #shinesteeth lol

  14. And u are still defending the slap ..... This is the beginning of many Slaps to come! Maybe u can use the money from the sale to buy a concealer to cover ur black eyes. Good luck !

  15. my main purpose for wanting to sell it is just so that whenever he remembers that he lost that necklace as a result of slapping his wife, he will be sorry and never want to do it again. you all can agree with me that once a man hits you for the first time and gets away with it, chances are that he'll do it again. it doesn't mean I love him less, or that I am being selfish, I just want him to regret his course of action, that's all.

  16. give him back the he knows you are bigger than all that,that would make him calmer and respect you more.and pls biko,dnt run mouf again bt wen u wanna do atleast be close to d own two cents#

  17. This is BS! So the next he slaps you, you'll sell the car? And when he beats you into a coma, you'll sell what??? You people are in an abusive relationship - SIMPLE! Better sort out yourselves! It all starts with one black eye! Soon you'll be getting flogged with cane whenever he is angry! Selling a replaceable gold chain doesn't change a thing!!! You both need emotional/ spiritual/ physical help!!! Pls what is a gold chain? So black eye is equals to a gold chain? You obviously do not value yourself!

  18. You both need to control yourselves. And selling the necklace might hurt him a little but I doubt if it would solve much. Just give it back and tell him you didn't like the fact that he slapped you and also apologise for running your mouth. That should help.

  19. He slaps you and you sell his necklace; what then happens when he gives your real beaten? maybe na the house you go sell.....You guys need to sort your issues.


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