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Calm Down, You're NOT The Bride!

So in the last year or so we've seen (pictures on social media of) wedding guests who just do too much! It's like sister kilode is it your wedding? And at other times it's those ladies whose near nudity at weddings makes you tsk tsk. 

This post however is about those ones who do too much, who seem to get confused about what to wear and then end up dressing like they're the bride. I saw this on Miss Pynk's blog, a wedding-guest photo of popular makeup artist @tennycoco which she posted on Instagram. 

LOL @ you dare not fucking show up to my wedding like this. 

Truth is these days a lot of ladies do too much. I mean, I do not understand the rationale behind getting and paying a professional makeup artist to give you a full bridal makeover and tie your gele... Then you'll now come and wear some mad ass beads, fit for a bride, making us ask; IS IT YOUR WEDDING? 

But I do I think the only major faux pas when it comes to weddings is wearing a white dress at a white wedding, especially if it's long and flowing. I think everything else is "allowed", no matter how over-the-top it is. I don't think that as a bride I'd even have the time to notice what xyz wore to my wedding. I really don't think so. 

Someone once said the bride has already snagged her Mr Right, other single ladies should be allowed to dress however they please so they can get theirs. 

But what do you think, is there such a thing as wedding-appropriate? Should ladies be free to dress however they please, or should they be careful to ensure they don't outshine the bride? Would you mind if you friend shows up at your wedding looking more like the bride than you?

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  1. I blame bella naija,and all those wedding guest

  2. What's d fuss about... If they like, wear the whole world on their head. I don't care and won't notice. The wedding day alone is enough 'notice me' for the bride Na. Why the inferiority complex and stuff? Even on Ur wedding day u are still insecure as how to how others act? *sigh

  3. Well, I don't see anything wrong with this dress, it's kinda too busy!!!! The dress just makes her look bigger!

    And it's not completely white..... and there's no such thing as out shining the bride, main focus of everyone that day will still be the bride and groom!!!

  4. I don't see anything bad in babe's trying to impress the 'yorubaboiz' in a wedding..Nobody is stealing the bride's shine,it is still her day!!!TNHW

  5. If you feel uncomfortable by your guest dressing like this to your wedding, that means you are suffering from inferiority complex. What is the big deal about this dress. As long as i feel comfortable with what I am wearing, if the next person likes, let her use gold of diamond and sow cloth, E no concern me. I will only admire but not feel threatened. FOR WHAT???/

  6. Why do I foresee a future where intended brides sell aso ebi and dictate styles to be sewn? Because of the reactions to this picture. LMAO!

    Happy New Year Thelma and Blog Visitors!!!

  7. I personally do not see anytin wrong wit wot she is wearing oooo.u can even wear white or wotEva to my wedding.I don't think I should restrict people on wot they should wear or not wear.Its all part of the fun and i am sure i will be 2 excited to even notice and start dissecting mbok.Aint nobody gat time 4 that.U might even hook ur own man dere,who knows.Nigerians and dia aproko.Uche face ur work.Hooked .com.

  8. So, Brides have time and energy to notice who wears what? Na wa o.


  9. I see you? Mtwueech! Am too busy to notice what or how a guest look. No time.

  10. You think I'll be bothered about someone else's outfit, when all the guests are there for my sake????

  11. Yaaaay!!!!!, I can finally make comments after two years!!!!!!!!

  12. Like someone said, single girls coming to her wedding should better bring it. Be on top their game so they might find their own oga.

    I've been to wedding where most guys dress better than the groom, but we guys are always too busy grooving to be petty. Women bother themselves about irrelevant things sometimes.

  13. People sef! Can't someone undertake 'Try-your-luck' again? #Cyclesaway

  14. No one can outshine a bride on her wedding and trust me ,as a bride you will not even notice what anyone wore. J

  15. So long as no one else shows up dressed as a bride (white wedding dress, tiara and all), then I don't think there's a problem. I personally like to see women dress up for weddings as it makes it all the more colourful and picture worthy


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