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Dear Thelma (Did I Make a Mistake?)

Hey T, great job you're doing on your blog. Please help me post:

My boyfriend of two years is a great guy. We have a very good and honest relationship which naturally I'm hoping will lead to marriage by Gods grace. We have different personalities, while he's the extroverted outgoing type, I prefer to be indoors most times. I have changed a bit because of him as he encourages me to go out more and although I don't enjoy certain activities like clubbing or partying I sometimes follow him because he wants me to. I'm actually flattered that he wants me to follow him to places like clubs because his friend once said something like bringing your girlfriend to the club is like taking sand to the beach lol. I know most guys would rather go alone so that they can be free to do whatever they want. He's a fine guy with a very nice job and because of his personality he tends to attract a lot of people and girls seem to like him a lot. On Friday night I didn't want to go clubbing so he went alone. But he was later honest with me, he confessed that he met some chic at the club and they danced together and later got talking and he said he gave her his number when she asked because he didn't know how to say no. I was not comfortable at all but at least he was honest about it so I calmed myself down. Now, this Sunday morning he asked me if its okay to invite her over for drinks and I said yes. Please have I made a mistake? 
Ps. We live together btw so I'm going to be here when she comes.

Editor's note: hmmmmmm


  1. Lord save me karashika,girl what planet do u come from??? Shoooooo,how could u accept such a thing?letter of invitation to cheating, don't say I didn't tell u.

  2. For the fact they met in a club doesn't mean she's karashika na. She just MIGHT be a decent girl who went to unwind at the club.I'm just against inviting someone you hardly know or just met to your home. I wouldn't have accepted her coming for the drink but since you have,play cool,observe her,use your feminine instincts then draw your conclusion on what to do next.

  3. Lol so by December you will write Thelma on how this girl stole your man. ??? Babe better be sharp!!!!

  4. Why would your boyfriend want to invite the girl he met on Friday for a drink on Sunday. Hmmmmm ok o. If you were ok with it you won't be writing Thelma,as you are not ok with it why did you agree. J

  5. Not a good move. However, since the mistake has been made. Let her know she is your man, and he is unavailable.

    Next time, go clubbing since you now know your man can't say NO!!!

  6. Yo! So I was reading a post from last week when I saw Kabuoy mention pegging and I went to google it. Dang!

    How can Kabuoy of all pple know these things and we na know???

    Kabuoy, I don't trust u again!

    Who the hell invented the pegging of an ish??

    1. Lmaooooo!!!!!! Eesah! Come on now! You know you can trust me.
      In my defense, I was jejely scrolling through posts on BN when I saw it too o. Na Google me too I google am o to know the meaning. Loooooool!

  7. Let her come, please show ur jealousy and unapproval of her presence in ur man's life. The earlier u know ur stand the better for you, cos u don't know what he has told her.

  8. Let her come, please show ur jealousy and unapproval of her presence in ur man's life. The earlier u know ur stand the better for you, cos u don't know what he has told her.

  9. I just thought of one quote when I read this story... " Keep your friends close, your enemies closer" the guy might just be really outgoing... some people are like that I understand. well Babe you don already gree.. oya shine ya eyes wella and if you think things are getting out of hands... one fast solution... meet someone next week Monday and ask to bring them home for lunch or breakfast on wednesday... it will wake some people up. Note- don't act jealous or malicious, it'll drive him from you, be all smiles but shine ya eyes

    1. I ;ike your solution anon... just be little miss sunshine dear poster, albeit the serpent inspired kind.

  10. I see a threesome coming up.

    1. Loooool! *pours holy water in Kon*

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