Hi TTB, please I'm going through a lot right now and I need your advise. I was engaged to wed around Easter but I became very nervous because I lost my job in Agust last year, because my company was downsizing. Ever since then I have been job hunting but it hasn't been successful so I decided to try my hands at business. I have been so desperate and am willing to do anything as long as it is legal and morally right. This is so because I have never wanted to enter marriage and be unemployed or financially dependent on my husband. He is doing ok, not like he is very rich but he his salary is ok for us to manage, but I never wanted that. My friend said her company was looking for vendors and she can connect me with somebody who can help me bid for a small contract which she did. I spoke with him and he said because of his busy hours that we would have to meet after work much later in the evening because he works very late. He said he would meet in a bar because that is where he eats and likes to have drinks after work. Honestly I didn't think anything of it and beside he was doing me a favour and I was grateful to meet him even if it was late, after all it's a public place.
When I went there he was with another of his colleagues and they insisted I should relax and have a chapman. They both wanted to unwind after hard days work so they were very relaxed and we all got gisting, I didn't mind because I felt that if they flow well with me and accept me it will help me better with the contract. While we were talking my fiancées elder brother came in with some friends, it was about 11pm by now. I went to greet him and even brought him to meet the guys, and I told him that they were trying to help me with a contract in their company and he was friendly with them, even telling them that I'm his sister and they should please try their best to help me. Unfortunately after that he immediately called my fiancée and told him that I am meeting with men late at night and is that the kind of person he wants for a wife? He has told the whole family how he saw me at midnight flirting with men in a bar and they have all become cold to me and my family. I have tried to explain and I have begged my fiancee, I have cried, I am even ready to swear that I was only there to try and get a contract so that I can make my own contributions towards our wedding. Now he is saying that even though he loves me he is not sure I am the right fit for a wife and that his family no longer approves of our union. Please I need your advise, I am nearing thirty, I still don't have a job, business or contract and I don't know what will happen to me if his family cancels the wedding after two years of courting. Please tell me if what I did was wrong. Thank you.