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For Those Who Think Women Don't Cheat...

These tweets were sent to me by a blog reader who wants to give us proof that women cheat, and wants us to discuss it. 

But is this news? Men cheat. Women cheat. Everybody cheats. Including you. Hehe just kidding, I know you don't cheat. Lol. 

What I don't understand is why when men cheat its normal/ok/cool but when women cheat they're termed "evil". (Don't mind me, I 'understand', but pointing out double standards never gets old. Haha!) I bet she wouldn't be cursing out her father if he was the cheat... Then again this is what happens when society forces a woman to get married and have children. It's simply not meant for everybody!!!

Anyhoo guys, I'm only the messenger here. The message is that women cheat. My question is who makes better cheats, men or women?
Oh, I have another one, have you ever cheated, or are you... cheating on your significant other at the moment? WHY? And what tactics do you use to ensure you don't get caught? Cheats in the house, SPILL!



  1. Don't know about y'all but I've hardly ever seen any single dad. I hear about them but not come across any. I've seen widowers and divorcees who remarry...yeeaahh, that's why I've hardly seen single dads. Easier for men than it is for women.

    I met a lady I hadn't seen in 12 years in Enugu last month. We talked for almost 3 hours and she complained that EVERY MAN who asked her out quickly faded away as soon as they learnt she's a single mum. Last time I saw her she was 12 years old, now she's 24. She has 3 kids (I think my mouth hung open for over 3 minutes when she said this) and still looking VERY HOT (Enugu chicas sha). I was sorry for her. A guy in her shoes wouldn't have this kind of jinx.

    1. Mehnnnn, 3 kids is a lot of baggage, she's going to need a divinely-appointed man to be willing to take on all of that. It might seem hopeless but it actually isn't.

      At the Dabira women's conference I attended, one of the speakers, Dr Kemi Oyewusi shared with us how she used to be married to a very abusive husband, and soon found herself a single mother of four children. Yet she met a man, her present husband, who married her, took her four children in as his, and still tells the world that she makes his life better. I remember her saying something like "I don't want to show off but if you see my husband, he's the most charming, most handsome, kindest etc etc etc man in the world".

      If a single mother of 4 in her late 40s could find such a wonderful husband, so can a single mother of 3 in her early 20s. She should stay positive and very prayerful...

    2. Thelma, I know prayer is the key...

      But this 24 years old with 3 kids needs more than that... She needs to empower herself. That's her only solution.
      Cos I'm sure the Dr kemi u spoke abt wasnt sitting around staying 'positive and very prayerful', get it?

      My point is this.. Moving forward, all human species (male or female) needs to stay empowered and not wait for anyone to make them feel empowered.

      If a woman has 10kids with 10guys... If she's empowered, I'm 100% sure another man would come and stay even when they known she has 10kids

    3. You're right Uyi. But everybody needs to be empowered, regardless of marital status or number of children. I was going to add that but felt its "needlesstosay". Thank you, all the same. Memphis let your friend know...

  2. Do I even know if am cheating? I just guilty that's all, DH n I have been married barely 2years,I have caught cheating, didn't catch him pants down but I saw some flirtatious messages between him n some chicks, he denied his son, told the lady , he has told severally that she will be the mother of his children,confronted him... Of cos he lied. Not that I blame him out marriage wasn't built on love from the beginning , I got pregnant n we had to do a quick marriage .. Fast forward to now.. I started chatting with an ex, we were so close , that I knew if I didn't marry him , I should never contact him on any basis, I broke that promise and contacted him when things became too hard and it felt like the whole world was spinning , I get the comfort and necessary support I need through him, we are not sharing nudes or talking dirty, but we miss ourselves a whole lot... Am I cheating?

    1. Yes, emotionally.
      Not like I judge or blame you. I really wish you hadn't gotten married simply because you were pregnant, but what's done is done and there's no guarantee that if you had married your "amazing" ex things would be any different either. I wish you the best and hope you make the right choices. And I'm sorry things are the way they are for you, I pray they get better.

    2. This type of cheating is sweet. Isn't it?

      This type of cheating hurts the most. Because its emotional cheating. If your husband finds out, it will hurt him real bad.

      ...and its extremely difficult to stop this kind of cheating. Because all you are doing is getting some companionship from him right? It doesnt feel wrong

  3. Truth is women cheat. And some women make back mothers...

  4. When I was in the world*fear not,I am not a ghost*
    I could never even cheat because once I start having feelings for the new guy, I automatically break up with the former. That's how it has been with me.lets just say I can't sleep with two guys at the same time.
    But I can collect money and gifts from 10 men at the same time. pls can that be termed cheating?

    1. Hahahahahahahahaha. No comment...

    2. Hhhahahahahahaahahaahahhahahhaahha,bloggitup ohhhhh,chaiiiii you need to be flogged for cracking me up,I almost fel of my seat laughing. You are not cheating, yours is termed collecting or will I say spend

    3. Ill say yes. Its a light kind of cheating sha.

      When you collect gifts from other men, can you proudly tell your partner? Will he be comfortable with it?


    4. always put a smile on my face with your comments.

  5. Meanwhile, can anybody help with info On where somebody can have Optometry internship program.

    1. You should have put the definition of optometry in bracket, not all of us have data to Google it

  6. I have plans to write a book on how to cheat. Presently gathering my material.

    I feel if men are taught properly how to cheat. The world will be a better place. When I say properly cheat I mean - to cheat in a way that your partner will never find out. The truth is - What your wife doesnt know will never hurt her. So if he cheats for years and she never knows, she is a happy wife. So my book will focus on the basics of cheating, the dos and donts, the how-to etc. Would be good for women to read it too, but the focus is on men. Stay tuned.


    1. Kon I can't wait. Meanwhile just in case you're looking for some practice before putting things in print, or before you're ready, or looking to do some research on your materials, I would love to have you as a contributor right here. Think about it, it would be fun!

    2. Konnnnnnnnnnn,u wnat to teach men how to cheat?? What planet are u from???? Hmmmmm okay now. Bear in mind that u cannot hide such for long,it always comes out somehow.

    3. He is from the planet of monkeys. What kind of person would want to write such a book? Kon repent

    4. Lmao, kon the book should have only one sentence... If you want to learn how to cheat and not get caught just observe women.

      They are the masters of cheating and not getting caught, even having babies and making you think you're the father. You'll spend your whole life taking care of another man's child and not have a clue. Before I'm crucified these words are from women, a girl told me that women are worse cheats and why they are so good at it is that only one other person knows, either their sister or best friend. A female private investigator said that in her over 20 years of investigating couples she learned one thing, women cheat way more than men but hardly get caught.
      I think the mentality that men are worse cheats has to be adjusted, we are learning where the women are.

    5. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm I kinda agree with those analysis Steele.


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