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He Says "Don't Take It, Or Else..."

Some people are so stubborn and annoying, it's simply unnerving! And when you're dating or married to such a person you sometimes want to claw your eyes out. Let me be more specific, people with one kind of yeye stubborn pride. Let me give you an instance. 

Several years ago a distant family member of mine wrote a book that's still being read today in some schools. He was such an exceptional writer that the then government (this was when nigeria was still "good") gave this man some serious gifts to acknowledge his great talent and positive contribution to the country. Among these gifts were a 4 bedroom bungalow with boys quarters in Ikoyi, a Peugeot 504 and cash. This man who was living in a little apartment in the Aguda axis of Surulere (where he still lives btw, although now very aged) turned down all these gifts saying that he did not like politicians and wasn't writing to get any benefits from governments. His family thought it was initial gra gra. I mean, daddy couldn't in his right senses turn down these goodies which most people only dreamt about, daddy must have been doing shakara so that government will add more things to entice him. But like play like play this man said NO and asked the government officials never to return. 

Imagine your husband does that, biko what would you do? 

I remembered our papa when I saw this question below on Lifetitude's blog and I need to know what you would do;

Your ex dies. You get a call from a lawyer who lets you know that your ex left you N100 million in his will BUT your current spouse has "man pride" and doesn’t want you to take it, and says his decision is final. What do you do?

So tell me wwyd?


  1. Ahhh.. Thelma.. No need for plenty thinking... Significant what? When the one and only love of my life just died n left 100milliin in his will for his soulmate (moi)... Even if its a hubby sef...rme... Love gbakwa oku... Unless he can give me 200m let him just sshhhh and siddon one side quietly...

  2. Man pride? Who man pride Don help!
    Oga better park well. The last time I check pride doesn't increase one's liquidity.

  3. Dear Lifetitude's, that scenario is an Uyi production from Omoruyi Studios.

  4. Oriegwu!!! His decision is final! Kikikikiki. I shall only believe the report of the Lord, and His report says I am rich!

    But Thelma, your papa above is one strong man o... It's people like these, that tempt the Gehazis of our time.

    As for that N100 million.... I DIE DIA!

  5. See trouble... Even if I was a billionaire she'll still go and collect the 100m, we'll add it to our children's trustfund. Or buy recharge card with it.

    Pride comes before a fall.

  6. Hian!!, and who is telling the current spouse???

  7. Hian!!, and who is telling the current spouse??

  8. ....did you say a 100million?...and the present spouse will become an Ex...

  9. The Man Pride is obviously from the bottomless pit.

  10. Y'all are hilarious! LMAO!

    Which yeye man pride? How does that change the price of a mansion in Lekki Phase 1 or Green springs school fees? Oga will just have to understand that my kids deserve the very best life I can provide for them and this 100 million will go a long way to achieve that so... In fact, there's no way I'm not collecting that money, no way!

  11. Ehhhhhhhh ikana juuu?? Who needs his approval to collect the money?except he is ready to give me 500m,anything aside that, na story him dey talk.

  12. Hahahaha.....hilarious comments

  13. lol, I read this out to my husband and he said "what pride, we will even say a prayer for his departed soul in our morning devotion sef. J

    1. LMAO! Better man! Abeg hold him well o, he has a very good head on his

    2. J your hubby head dey there jawe,d man na jasi

    3. Lol J your hubby is the one too funny

  14. LMAO! The comments got me, I can't even think!

  15. My own decision of taking the money is also final.

  16. Aint no stopping me. Its final. A wise woman once say a bird in hand . . .

    A 100million naira in hand can do great things.

  17. If we truly look at it... How would you feel if you are the spouse and you have to spend money of a dead man that had sexual relationship with Ur partner.

    This is so blood money in a way. Living with yourself...knowing it isn't your money or money earned by your own actions.
    How can u beat Ur chest and cruise around in a car bought with such money. Or eat or have fun with Ur family with a dead ex- money.

    Let's think...

    1. Hmmmmmm. Only in naija. Uyi what theorem do you want to use to prove its blood money.

      Accept a good thing when you see it. Unless Dasuki is or was your bae or ex. Lol

    2. Uncle uyi that's super story ooo when we finish spending the money we can be thinkin of the dead man :)

    3. A minute silence turned the money to my friend good WILL. My spouse get the permission plus my Bank account details. Then case solved.

  18. Huh? His decision is final? You don't even take 'final' decisions on kids these days let alone your wife.



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