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...Of 'Stubborn' Ex Girlfriends

I don't quite get Exs that refuse to move on. Do you? 

I know breaking up sucks but I'd say when it's over, it's over. To be fair, I realize that some people find moving on very difficult and refuse to take a walk even when he's moved on with someone else, even to the point of constituting a nuisance (like in the mail above). 

Have you ever had to deal with a stubborn ex or been a stubborn ex or known a stubborn ex? 

Why it is so hard for some Exs to move on; 
a) Still drunk in love?
b) Soul ties?
c) "if I can't have you no one else can!"?
d) not ready to give up the sex?
e) 'where there is life there is hope'?

What do you think?

And dear men I'm curious, do you also experience this "stubborn" ex syndrome from your women's Exs?

Mail courtesy of @joroolumofin. 


  1. I think some people are just obsessed with what they think is love. So they find it hard to move on from their ex because they feel they can't get another love like it.

  2. Most of the time its about the D. Yap!

    Its about the sex. They dont really want the person back, they just want the excitement that was in the relationship - which most times is sex.


    1. TT,some D pass other D's ohhhh,don't get it twisted bae, u get some D's n u wonder if u can get such again.

    2. LOL Mabel I believe you. But that's still not reason enough IMHO..

  3. Lol @ where there is life there is hope. But that's often the case. My boyfriend's ex knows about me but she won't move on. At this point I've just chosen to ignore her existence and pray her away.

  4. Sometimes it's about if I can't have u,no one else can,I have never had the experience, but I have been a stubborn ex but I didn't go far,I just tried a few tricks n when it didn't work,I just moved on because plenty fish dey water abeg. Don't need stress for myself but I haven't been like that anymore and don't intend to be. Any ex that tries frustrating me is a gunner.

  5. The lady above needs to be very prayerful.A friend's sister was killed by her husband's ex 2months after their wedding.She was just as stubborn as the ex above.she even attended the wedding too.
    This type of ex can be very brutal & heartless.They can go as far as pouring acid on the wife or using diabolical means to kill or cause her terrible sicknesses.

    1. Wow, is that love or madness.

  6. February 14 is in just over 3 weeks time, stubborn ex(s) have started running phone batteries down with incessant calls and pings. With the freefall of the naira, this isn't going to get any better.

    1. Hahaahahahahhahahhahaha Memphis yaf come again ohhhh. Lmao. Isokay.

  7. When God gives you a husband, relax and face God and your husband. Don't be disturbing your life looking for who is an ex or future because most times, there will always be an ex/future. Severally we fight external battles while the real battle is in-house.(our husbands) Why do most women carry this ex issue like akara on their head. Yes some ex are bad. If your husband block her out of his life, she will be out of your family life forever, Its because your husband is giving her green light that was what gave her the right to attend your traditional wedding. That she even came with her friends means she was genuinely invited. Wives, stop worrying yourselves about ex and future, face God and he will never allow any harm happen to you. If you ask me, its your husband that told her of his traditional wedding with you and the date. If care is not taken, at the eve of your wedding, that your so called husband transported her from a distance, clothed her and her friends to attend the traditional wedding. Call me all sorts of name but all I know is when a man says NO to a woman and means it, the woman will find her level. She will only loiter around for a while but as time went bye, she will find her level and move on. When you make an ex/future to know she is affecting your marriage, you are giving her the confidence to feel important. Have you ignored someone consciously before?.. What is that persons reaction?. When you don't wish people or plan evil against people. No matter what anyone does to hurt you. They will only back fire.

    1. Thank you very much jare'

      Meanwhile akara that they carry on the head isn't sweet o. Buy from the women that fry it live by the roadside. Dinma take note lol

  8. I disagree with you Dinma, a troublesome ex does not need an invitation to crash the trad wedding however i agree that she should not bother herself with what the ex is doing or not. Pray about it and enjoy your life. Your husband should worry about how to take care of that trouble.

  9. Some ex' are obsessive monitoring spirit. Like Dinma has said, it's God and some work from a partner; who dated those kind of ex' that can help. Though it's not easy to always ignore a partner's ex'.

    In fact, it's only God that can help chase away some types of ex'. No amount or pattern of dialogue, vitriol can do.

  10. For men I think it's an ego thing, my gf still has most of her exes on her case and even if it makes me mad I can undrstand where they are coming from. They know how special she is but their stupidity didn't let them be faithful. Now they come with all forms of tactics, saying they've not fallen in love since her or asking if she's sure I'm going to marry her, that they will marry immediately if she leaves me. Lol. This is where I agree with Dinma, and where I fight her... she's the one that still leaves the door open for these exes to come and yarn trash.

    In my case the thought of her with another man drives me crazy. So I can imagine how I'd feel if I become an ex but my pride will never let me beg.

  11. Those who repent after breaking up their relationship with their girlfriends should try for patching up the relationship, even if they have to face frustration, disappointment, and anger of the girlfriend. After all, if you have hurt someone, won’t it be difficult for her to rebuild her faith in you? I will suggest to read ‘Get Her Back Guide’ and try to find the best ways of getting the girlfriend back in life.


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