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SMART goals.

Yesterday evening I decided I didn't want to be at home. I didn't want any company either so I checked the movie schedule, got dressed and hit the road. I opted for a movie called Joy, starring Jennifer Lawrence (whom I think is freaking beautiful and extremely talented btw), Robert Deniro and my husband in a parallel universe, Bradley Cooper. Joy isn't your regular action/drama/comedy/thriller. It's a drama-comedy hybrid that without the skillful directing that obviously went into it, would have been mind-numbingly boring. Joy is a movie I would recommend for everyone to see, for everyone who has dreams, for everyone who has tried and failed, for everyone who understands that failure isn't falling but falling and not getting up, or simply for anyone who likes movies. It's also a very motivational movie for the start of a year. 

(I just learnt something about myself. I learnt that when I'm writing and someone comes close to me or talks to me I get extremely irritated and I feel like tearing my skin, or their eyes out, in the alternative... Now back to this post)

Anyhoo, after my movie I went to meet up with Derek at The Bay Lounge, then stopped at The Place to buy asun, crossed over to buy chicken wings from Chicken Republic (someone please tell my belly that christmas is over and diet commences!), and then when I got home at about midnight I grabbed my iPad and continued Being Mary Jane season 3. 

Who here loves Mary Jane? Let me tell you what I love about the TV show and the woman. I love that it depicts, as realistically as possible, the struggles of the black community in the USA, the challenges of being a black woman in the USA, I love that it shines light on the challenges of minorities in America, I love that it depicts the protagonist, Mary Jane, as a very strong black woman; very successful, very tenacious, very intelligent, very opinionated, very determined, very ambitious but also terribly flawed; very ANNOYING, sometimes selfish, a bit of a hoe (yeah, she likes her sex, like, A LOT. She admittedly loves giving blow jobs, she has one night stands, she hooks up with strangers in toilets at the clubs, and she's not ashamed to admit that the minute she found out her f**k-buddy has epilepsy she immediately wanted to end things with him because things were getting real and f**k-buddies are solely meant for orgasms and back rubs)...

I also just learnt that TV and TV shows are a great way to waste your time. I've got books to read that would better my life, and I've got online courses to take that would improve my life, but I rob myself by spending time watching TV shows. Don't blame me though, if I need to start writing fiction again I'm going to need to get inspiration from everywhere, especially TV (I love that excuse, and I'm standing by it). 

This morning I got a call from a good friend, Tayo. It's been a while since we spoke at length but somehow we got to talking and I told Tayo that I don't make resolutions but this year I made just one. That resolution is to do what I need to do whether I'm in the mood for it or not. You see, that sounds very simplistic but when I realize how much I set myself back in 2015, simply by waiting to be in the mood for something before I do it, I realize I've done myself a great disservice. This is both in my career and wellness. 

Tayo then tells me that in addition to pushing myself I've got to first make sure my goals are SMART. As that's what's going to further guarantee the success of my goals. 

TTB readers, are you simply spouting off goals or are you making SMART goals? It's wise to be guided.

So guys, let's talk. I know many of us don't believe in making new year resolutions, but we all agree that we want a better year than the last. Are there any specific areas of your life that you've resolved to work on to ensure that you have a better year or a better you? Do share!

Mine are pushing myself to do, whether I'm in the mood or not. And, enhancing my life through active mind orientation. My mentor is already working with me on that. What's yours?

...Btw I know I rambled a lot in this post. I think I need a new year resolution to keep my posts short.


  1. No goals/plans for me this year, which is quite unusual considering the church I attend. gonna focus on improvements and see where that takes me.

    Btw, who has read Reuben Abati's latest article; 'Do you speak French'. Long, but very insightful. He's been making a whole lot of National sense with his recent long articles.

  2. I have just two goals and one dream. I believe the three are SMART and I believe by God's grace, I'll share the testimonies soon.

    In fact, one has been pending for years but I believe this is the final to finally seal it.


  3. Good for you girl.
    No one likes inconveniences but we need to do what we got to do.
    As for Being Mary Jane, im sorry to say this but all Blacks can move back to any country in Africa. If ALL Israélites cld leave Egypt after their slavery, so can they. Yes the Israélites walked out but now there are ships, planes etc to make their sojourn happen...*flips hair*

    1. Lmao!!! I love dis geh sometimes

  4. Just tied of making new year resolutions and end up breaking them before the end of January, this year, *** unto your feet of grace I submit myself oh Lord.

  5. Ok... tell us more about this urge to tear out your skin or pluck out peoples eyes.

  6. First of all there are too many things to comment about on the post but I'm watching tv and I just don't have the time.Lol

    As for the new year resolutions I try not to bother making any because I never keep them, I've realized that the strongest resolutions I've made are the spontaneous ones that aren't inspired by seasons. I like what your friend said about goals and I think I'll adopt it but sometimes things like this make me wonder why life has to be so serious.

    What got me most was doing what I have to do whether I'm in the mood or not, that has made me procrastinate a lot. Someone told me once that athletes become great because they play hurt, that means that it's not every time they are in the mood to play, sometimes they even have minor aches and feel sore but they still get up and get the job done. No matter how they feel, they even play under heavy rain in the cold. That's the attitude I need to adopt, unless the injury is extreme that I'll rest small.


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Just checking in to sign the register. Lol. It's been a very busy week and it looks like it might be an even busier weekend. I was hoping to get some writing done when I got to the airport yesterday but I even almost missed my flight. It was hopeless trying to do any work on the plane as it was bumpy af, and this toddler behind me wouldn't stop screaming in piercing shrieks like he was being exorcised. 
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