Yesterday evening I decided I didn't want to be at home. I didn't want any company either so I checked the movie schedule, got dressed and hit the road. I opted for a movie called Joy, starring Jennifer Lawrence (whom I think is freaking beautiful and extremely talented btw), Robert Deniro and my husband in a parallel universe, Bradley Cooper. Joy isn't your regular action/drama/comedy/thriller. It's a drama-comedy hybrid that without the skillful directing that obviously went into it, would have been mind-numbingly boring. Joy is a movie I would recommend for everyone to see, for everyone who has dreams, for everyone who has tried and failed, for everyone who understands that failure isn't falling but falling and not getting up, or simply for anyone who likes movies. It's also a very motivational movie for the start of a year.
(I just learnt something about myself. I learnt that when I'm writing and someone comes close to me or talks to me I get extremely irritated and I feel like tearing my skin, or their eyes out, in the alternative... Now back to this post)
Anyhoo, after my movie I went to meet up with Derek at The Bay Lounge, then stopped at The Place to buy asun, crossed over to buy chicken wings from Chicken Republic (someone please tell my belly that christmas is over and diet commences!), and then when I got home at about midnight I grabbed my iPad and continued Being Mary Jane season 3.
Who here loves Mary Jane? Let me tell you what I love about the TV show and the woman. I love that it depicts, as realistically as possible, the struggles of the black community in the USA, the challenges of being a black woman in the USA, I love that it shines light on the challenges of minorities in America, I love that it depicts the protagonist, Mary Jane, as a very strong black woman; very successful, very tenacious, very intelligent, very opinionated, very determined, very ambitious but also terribly flawed; very ANNOYING, sometimes selfish, a bit of a hoe (yeah, she likes her sex, like, A LOT. She admittedly loves giving blow jobs, she has one night stands, she hooks up with strangers in toilets at the clubs, and she's not ashamed to admit that the minute she found out her f**k-buddy has epilepsy she immediately wanted to end things with him because things were getting real and f**k-buddies are solely meant for orgasms and back rubs)...
I also just learnt that TV and TV shows are a great way to waste your time. I've got books to read that would better my life, and I've got online courses to take that would improve my life, but I rob myself by spending time watching TV shows. Don't blame me though, if I need to start writing fiction again I'm going to need to get inspiration from everywhere, especially TV (I love that excuse, and I'm standing by it).
This morning I got a call from a good friend, Tayo. It's been a while since we spoke at length but somehow we got to talking and I told Tayo that I don't make resolutions but this year I made just one. That resolution is to do what I need to do whether I'm in the mood for it or not. You see, that sounds very simplistic but when I realize how much I set myself back in 2015, simply by waiting to be in the mood for something before I do it, I realize I've done myself a great disservice. This is both in my career and wellness.
Tayo then tells me that in addition to pushing myself I've got to first make sure my goals are SMART. As that's what's going to further guarantee the success of my goals.
Mine are pushing myself to do, whether I'm in the mood or not. And, enhancing my life through active mind orientation. My mentor is already working with me on that. What's yours?
...Btw I know I rambled a lot in this post. I think I need a new year resolution to keep my posts short.