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The Good Husband.

So it's an easy Sunday afternoon, the weather is gorgeous and I'm feeling very chilled. I pour myself a glass of cider, fill it up with ice, get a platter of mixed nuts and I'm good to go. Sundays are great because I often have the day to myself and there's no one's company I love like mine. I snuggle into the sofa and go straight to instagram. I'm not in the mood for the filtered pictures and the pseudo perfection of people's lives. IG is not a place for "real" but I wanted real, and I wanted instagram. I knew instantly where I could get it. 

@joroolumofin's page never runs out of interesting reads and that one up there is hard evidence. 

I don't know if I'm jaded or simply a realist but this mail got me feeling some type of way. God bless all the good husbands out here! We know these days there's a scarcity of you men. But I couldn't quite help but feel like aunty's husband is merely a smooth operator. Also I might have gagged in my mouth when I read "we pray before and after making love so it can be beautiful in God's eyes". Like, who does that? LOL. And taking permission before making new friends? Hmmm. 

But maybe I'm just a cynic and such marriages do exist. 

Anyhoo, you read it, what do you think? 

If your marriage is similar to this, meaning such magical marriages do exist, then please tell us about it too, we need more inspiring stories about marriage these days. 


  1. The problem with telling people how good your marriage is, is because of the way you reacted after reading about that woman's marriage. They pray before and after sexy time shoot, who am I to sneer at them eh? It's working for them no. Smooth operator or not, the main ish here is that three years into her marriage, she's happy, her partner makes her happy, she's at peace, she loves and is being loved right back. What more are we looking for...

  2. I was going all awwwwwwwwwwwwwww when I read the prayer before and after meal (sex) line. Really?

    B2b I believe that there are even much more blissful marriages on earth, and more to come.

    My husband is the sweetest and most blessed Man, I shall call him Faithful, Obiagulu'm oyi. Amen.

  3. This aunty is sleeping on a bicycle. Men like these are the biggest cheaters. They just know how to handle their runs very well. I bet he has a phone he leaves at the office. I'm laughing in French.

  4. This aunty is sleeping on a bicycle. Men like these are the biggest cheaters. They just know how to handle their runs very well. I bet he has a phone he leaves at the office. I'm laughing in French.

  5. Hahahahahahahahha. Prayers for love making to be beautiful? Isi gini? Maybe the man has another problem she doesn't know about, cos #idontbelieveit# Lol. This is really 'akamba ndap'

  6. Many people been in a bad relationship to believe this can be true...if we believe the domestic violence stories,why can't we believe this?..TNHW

    1. Exactly. I don't why we always believe the bad and the ugly but instantly disbelief the good.


  7. Hian!! Pray after sex? I greet you and your husband o. Truth be told at first read i said " made up story",but on second thought this is how marriage ought to be. Minus the praying after sex and taking permission before making new friends.

  8. Thelma and Blink tho.... Why do you guys think it strange to pray before and after sex?! Loooool! the first time I heard about it, it sounded funny and Ridiculous but when I gave it better thought... It made sense. I think it's a wonderful thing to do.

    Plus the guy might actually be genuine but like Lohla said that's the problem with sharing how Good things are going for you. It would always seem too good to be true. I guess people are so used to hearing bad things/news/stories that good ones now seem unreal and fictitious.

    1. The only reason I can think about praying before and after sex is if you're hoping to conceive. Other than that then sorry, no can do. After all we're talking about married couples abi? It's already blessed by God! Look, sex is meant to be dirty, hot, steamy, raunchy, orgasmic, even when it's emotional love making. Why take the fun out of it? Pray about what again? Hian.

    2. After the whole action who has energy to pray? Lol.

      I don't think I'll subscribe to that though, but if you feel the need to do so, then GODSPEED. After all it's prayer, nothing harmless about it.

    3. Thelma lol. All these oversabi people, is it praying for strength to last long or praying for the thing to be sweet? They pray so that it can be beautiful in God's eye? What nonsense? Why will sex between husband and wife be ugly in God's eyes? Some people are just ridiculous honestly.

    4. I actually like the prayer routine they have going on s weird asit sounds. like a prayer b4 a meal and thanksgiving after. experiment for the week found. Thelma pls expect an email

    5. Kabouy nne when your adrenalin is pumping and you want to eat him up, say sweet nothing and some dirty talk, then the man goes "dear father thank you for giving me strength in advance, perfect my stamina, speed and skills to a beautiful love making and baby, amen".

      Shou! It won't be sweet again na! He would probably say okay Kabouy lie down let me kiss u, open your legs wide...Mbanu,or after sex when he would be roaring like a lion saying Kabouy you are sweet. Mtcheeew you sef check am, e no join.

      Even when trying to conceive couple should pray during praying hours and trust Father to have heard and answered. Unless they want angel Micheal and Co to watch live porn. OK bye

      BTW I am supposed to be dressing up for morning session and work after, well glad I won't be commenting in my head anymore.

    6. Rotfl!!!!! Dirty kwa?! Loooool. You people should cut me some slack. My opinion might change when I get married. I'm still talking from an outsider's point of view. Looool @ no strenght after the lovemaking. I thought about that too but well... Whatever works Jor. Don't just shoot the idea down abeg. It is not ridiculous. To each his own.

    7. Yes dirty, and not in the literal sense. But since you don't know what I mean by dirty then I think it's best we wait till you get married and have this talk again.

  9. It's because people read a lot of bad marriages online that they can't even believe when they see a genuine one. I've seen good marriages n I've witnessed bad marriage.
    I'll start with the bad one. I used to live with a woman who I babysit for. Her husband is a doctor n comes home occasionally on weekends. I thought they were perfect till this man ask me to sleep with him. I couldn't tell his wife so I found an excuse to leave the house.
    Now to the good marriage, it's that of my pastor n his wife(Dcns) I just don't have the words to describe that marriage. Pastor is so disciplined n selfless. He helps with house chores n all. If their 3 yr old wakes up at 4am to ask for cereal, Pastor is the one that gets up to give it to her. They're best friends. Dcns always encourage us(single girls) to wait for our turn cos God gave her a gift in my pastor. Every Christmas, all the students in our church who didn't travel home to Nigeria will all be invited for a massive feast in their house. They're so accommodating. I just watch them n drool. They made living in the UK fun even though I was far from home. Seeing a couple who loves God so much n have given themselves to the ministry is such a hope for single Christian brothers n sisters out there. Dcns used to tell us how they'll set themselves on a soul winning task weekly before they even got married. Sometimes you'll think pastor is calling your phone but by the time you pick it's gonna be Dcns talking n she'll go "oh i just felt like calling you with the phone in my hand". She has his password n he has hers. They have a joint account but Dcns is the only signatory to that account. There's so much I can say about them but I'll stop.Please guys don't loose hope that there aren't good marriages out there.Ask yourself about your own personality n fix it cos it's all about selflessness.

  10. lol, i cant laugh enough

  11. True. Good marriages do exist. It's sad that people are used to to hearing about bad ones that the good ones seem untrue.

  12. this is not bout seeing a lot of bad marriages.something doesnt just feel right bout it.asides praying before and after sex(like who has the tym for dat wen u are already turned on),then talk bout taking permission to make new friends and telling you when a woman hits on him mehn dat I dnt buy.except u guys are not inlove but just in a comfortable marriage.I know there are a lot of sweet marriages as well as bad and am nt married fine bt I cant be that perfect,if a guy is dat perfect I smell a own two cents

  13. Tell you before he makes new friends?that is creepy. Praying before and after sex so it will be beautiful before God,is she implying that without prayers their sex will be "ugly" before God?

    There is something seriously creepy about that marriage. J

  14. It is true that good marriages do exist but because we have heard about so many bad marriages we sometimes forget how marriage should truly be.
    Some people dont talk about how good their marriage is because people will not believe them or people will try to find a way to destroy it by sowind seed of doubt with questions like are you sure he is not cheating? etc
    I have seen men who grew up with their dad cheating on their mom and these guys determined in their heart not to cheat and be better men than their fathers.
    Truly no one is perfect but when you marry your best friend,your own man/woman,both of your imperfections will create a perfect union as long as you put God first.


  15. I believe the poster. Married to a great man as well and I'm thankful to God. There are a lot of great men out there , however you also have to be a great woman. Some women bring out the beasts in men.

    1. If I talk now kabuoy and some people will attack me. Lmao

    2. Thank you.
      you get what you give, when I'm a monster my man (who is an angel by the way) becomes a beast and vice versa.
      I dont blame anyone that doesn't believe this story- everything is in your head, its all about your perspective and past experiences.

  16. Like everyone said it's very easy to be cynical about a great marriage! Which also requires hard work to keep it great but great non the less! I have a fantastic husband and a great marriage.
    A man that puts my needs before his own
    He pushes me to be great
    He has a fantastic job and still pushes to do better
    He is a great lover and a great provider
    He sacrifices everything so I can have it all
    He is domesticated and a prayer warrior
    He baths his daughter every night, even after a long day at work cus he knows it's not easy to be at home with a baby all day
    i do not lack a single thing
    We make decisions together
    I have all his passwords and he has mine
    Even though he goes and makes the money for now we decide how to spend it together
    He does not keep late nights
    No strange woman calls him
    He does not keep any bad company
    He wakes up an pray for hours EVERY single night and come and annoit his daughter and I while we sleep
    When I have a complain he listens and makes changes
    And when he makes his complains I try in my power also to make good
    I applaud his mother cus she did a BRILLIANT job raising him

    I have a great man and I'm not ashamed of it
    People should speak up if they do so the devil is not winning by destroying the institution of marriage

    1. Im going anon- i wish i could gather the strength to type- but my marriage has been fantastic to the glory of God and the shame of the devil.There are indeed marriages made in heaven.


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