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TTB Poll. Tearful Grooms; Hug Them or Hit Them?

On a beautiful Saturday some months ago I attended my friend's wedding. It was one of the most memorable weddings I've attended, simply because I can't quite forget how the groom would break into tears at the slightest, I mean, he was literally bawling his eyes out. Now I personally found this to be very cute, because we've come to think that women are the ones desperate for marriage, so much so that when someone deems us worthy enough to receive the extravagant gift of his last name, we're so grateful that we cry tears of joy, relief and gratitude. 

So I found it to be cute, because this time it was the other way around. Also the thought of a man being brought to public shameless tears because I said I do to him really warmed my heart. 

However I've shared the groom's weepiness with some people and not everyone thinks it's cute. To get a clear picture of what it was like, please read an excerpt of this write up by Esco

"i was at a wedding two years ago where the groom broke into an emotional sob during the vow-taking ceremony. He was so overcome with tears that he even deviated slightly from the bishop’s lines. It was like the scene from The Best Man where Morris Chestnut weept while saying his vows.
“Pascaline, sobs*, my head, my love, my pretty damsel, isi m, my heart, sobs*, I take you as my lovely wedded wife of life…..I love you so much my darling…sobs…no man can curse this union….sobs”
The congregation in the church looked slightly embarrassed as they watched. Even the best man handed the groom a Kleenex as he cajoled him “Ol’ boy cool down na, e don do” (Dude, get a grip on yourself – you are weirding everybody out right now).
The bride’s father looked at his watch as he shuffled his feet uneasily. Even the bride looked a tad bit embarrassed for the groom. Like please this man, leave that thing, and hurry up and put this ring on my finger, before something happens. The bishop had not yet asked if there was anyone in the audience who opposed the matrimony". 
LOL. Esco is too much! If I didn't know better I'd have thought we were at the same wedding. 
I recently asked my friends about this randomly and opinions varied. On one hand some thought it was cute, but I was surprised to hear a few chics say they would be totally embarassed if their men cried at the wedding. Most men thought it was extremely gay! One even went as far as saying "Nonsense! it's men like that that beat their wives, the fact that they have no control over emotions just goes to show that the day the woman vexs him he would not be able to hold himself; he gon whoop her ass real bad!" Lol. Y'all need to be more romantic. 
So where do you stand; men crying at their wedding; Sweet OR nah, Do you want to hug a man real tight when he's crying at the altar, or do you want to hit some sense into him? 
Would you rather your man shed tears at your wedding?


  1. Hitting some sense into him will be my thing. Nothing sweet about it.

    1. Guess it's a bit late. I'm married but I won't be embarrassed one bit.....
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    2. You're very welcome! I'm ringing welcome bells for you over here.

  2. Nkemdili, why are you not romantic joor. Let the man cry. He just won a jackpot

  3. Lol, it's cute as long as it isnt coming my man. Thanx.

  4. I don't mind if my man drops a tear or two,Its just romantic. If the women cry why can't d men do so?don't they have blood running through their veins nii?oko mi ti oba di ojo igbeyawo wa,joor kee funmi Dada. Good night you all. Kisses,muahhhhhh

  5. Very sweet... very cute! Very romantic.... and i'd want to give him a bear hug and hold him there for a bit.... *happy smiles*

  6. I would have probably been laughing. My husband almost cried but I made him laugh during the vows. My dad on the other hand shed a tear while we were laughing. To me it doesnt matter so long as the emotions are geniune.

  7. Please don't cry! Give me eye contact, whisper sweet nothings and gently rub my hand. Oh and keep flashing your teeth.

  8. That would make my day to see him cry while saying his vows. Even though i know i would get very emotional on my wedding day!!!

  9. I think a lil sniffing and eyes glistening with tears works for me. I would def love walking down the aisle and my man is so fixated on me with so much love in his eyes. As for bawling hmm no no no.
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  10. Nba... I'm too much of a ''mi o raye oshi'' kind of girl. -a'int got no time for rubbish.

  11. After crying, will he treat her wwll, respect her, not cheat?
    If no, then Na Yeye de smell, ayamashobiri!!!!

  12. I think its cute but when its not overdone. I don't want every sentence with tears abeg. If I can hold my tears from dropping you can too. I don't want two 'dodoyos' on that day biko. So let's just enjoy the wedding.

  13. Any man that cries during his wedding deserves to be laughed at.

    Is it tears of joy? So he thought he would never marry?


  14. Naaa.... That would make me too u cormfortable and more than a tad embarrassed. Eyes glistening with tears is romantic enough for me, leave the dramatics for the theater.

  15. I find teary eyed groom cute, a bit of emotional crying not continuous weeping or crying ooo,that one i will be wondering if all is well.
    Which reminds me of a day me,hubby and my mum were watching a tv show and the groom was crying and i was like awww so cute,and she was so upset like wat is cute about him crying? what kind of man cries on his wedding day? then she goes she better start telling her son (my brother) not to cry if this is what children of nowadays do! hahaha. My mom finds it not cute but i do....

  16. Can't u see d kind of man crying in d pic above? Long haired man! A sissy!
    Only sissy men cry. A real man can actually cry, BUT he holds it in. Uncontrollable sobbing from a man isn't a good thing abeg. Cute ko cute ni

  17. Abegi! Which is ur head, ur nyash. Nothing wrong with a tear drop biko. Eewww!



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