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I DON'T Believe In Love At First Sight! Here's 5 Reasons Why.




"I believe in love at first sight. But it can be very confusing because there is lust at first sight.

First time I saw her, I said to myself 'this is the most beautiful girl I have ever seen'. I was in love at that moment, and every other time I saw her after then my heart skipped 2 beats. I just wanted to get to know her, to talk with her all day. But everytime we were alone my tongue failed me. The words would not come out, I could not think of topics to discuss. All I could do was stare at her face and be happy that we were at the same place at the same time. ………..

……………12years later. We are married (Bahd guy tins!lol)"


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This is Kon's comment on Lifetitudes, speaking on love at first sight. 

I read the post with mild interest because I've always believed that phrase to be a lie or a myth at best. So it piqued my interest to know that Kon and a few others actually agree that it's much more than a myth. It actually exists. 

Well I'm still not convinced and these are five (subjective) reasons why;

1. It has never happened for&to me. 

2. Love is not instant. 

3. Love, to me, is preceded by acts of service. What acts of service have you done for me if we're just meeting?

4. I DON'T want it to happen for me. I feel if you love me at first sight then I'm bound to let you down at some point. Yeah, you've practically placed me on a pedestal without even knowing me!

5. I liken and limit love at first sight to that love a parent has for a child that moment they're born. 


But the main reason I don't believe in love at first sight is admittedly simply because I've never experienced it. This topic is sooooooo overflogged that it's become cliché and boring. Yet, it's never been proven or disproven. So I ask; do you believe in love at first sight? You do or you don't, tell me why. 


Kon, did wifey also feel that way when she first saw you too? I've always wondered if love at first sight needs to be mutual for it to be considered love at first sight...





  

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  1. Thelma i fall in love at first sight whenever i meet a bobo thar has money and class.

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    1. Choi! Babe! i di hot! LOL

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    2. I agree with you plus if the guy iS TDH !

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  2. Kon is married ke?!

    Kon oya come and give us the full story abeg!
    I can't even picture you in love not to talk of love at first sight! Lmaooo! Oya cone and give us full gist.

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  3. Kon of all people.....I am shocked.



    As for the question I dont know jare.

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  4. Lols,the topic of this post is so gonna derail.
    So Kon is married? Hope wifey visits this blog...

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  5. I concur with placing on a pedestal. Met this guy who came out of a long-term relationship who was ready to propose to the lady. They broke up and almost as soon as we started dating, he was talking love and marriage. Said he falls in love hard and fast. I cautioned him and asked him to let things evolve. Of course I fell from the pedestal even after saying I am not who you think. This is me. I don't believe it was love. He think he is more in love with the idea of love and romance.

    Wo, Thelma you need a post on insecure guys.

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    1. It would be great if you send me a mail about your experience with one/some and I can build on it. Either ways I'd look into that and do a post. *now scratching my head trying to remember which insecure guy I've dated*

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  6. So kon is married...Me I want the juicy story,any anonymous to decode who Kon is?TNHW

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  7. I don't believe in love at first sight..it was rather LUST at first sight..(the way u already undressed the brother with your eyes)yea that!!TNHW

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  8. Durrh ...kon if the babe wasn't mouth watering, will u fall in love at first sight?


    Love at first Sight iS just a cliché

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  9. I can't believe kon is married and it's even 12yrs?? Wow am shocked, kon bikcome and give us gist ohhh. As for d post,hmmmmmmm I haf never experienced sush ohhhh(in Ibadan intonation).

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  10. Your fourth reason T, is majorly why I don't believe in it.

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  11. Those who experience Love at 1st (2nd, 3rd, 4th)sight have failed to adequately convince people it was True Love and not Lust, Obsession, Infatuation, etc. As for me, I've been in Love-At-First-Sight(LAFS) more than 5 times, but been in Love just once. LAFS is just plain chemistry...at first. If it outlives the unavoidable storms during the relationship then you bet it was LAFS.

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  12. Nope.. lust at first sight is more like it. You can now build on it o but it can't be love. I dont believe in it, and it has never happened to me.

    That said, Thelma, are you sure that Kon is our very own TTB Kon? Cos our Kon is not a romantic someborri at all! If its indeed our Kon, I hope his wife stumbles on the blog one day...lol

    Seriously tho, Kon needs to tell us about marriage, how has it been? Infact, he can be the new Wale...*shines teeth*

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    1. Hmmm Sunshine Wale will not be happy with you o! He still asks after you and Kabuoy all the time. Now you want to go and replace him. Hmmm the fickleness of men #runsaway.

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    2. Me I'm sha not there! Wale is irreplaceable! Loool! + wale and Kon are two very different people. Very very different.

      Meanwhile, Thelma Biko tell me if Wale is the same Wale on BN. I've been wanting to ask since but... Is he the same person?

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    3. Ha! Thelma fe koba mi...lol

      Its not like that o. Wale and Kon are two very different people, I was talking about Wale's deep insight into marital and relationship matters. He usually gave us the married men's perspective on such issues. Our other married BVs Eazee and Quaggar don't comment very frequently so...

      Wale is sooo irreplacable, he should just do and come back already...*shines teeth*

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    4. I Miss wale ohhhh. Egbon wale wherever thou art plsss just drop one more comment, I miss the days of reading your comments filled with oro agba. And we can't replace Mr wale with kon, never,dey are two different people ohh.

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    5. Yes, I miss Wale too, Phransea, Ruthie, Mariam, Tiwa, forgive me if I don't mention your name. This my head, ehn....

      Number 5 is so so right. But then, love grows.

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  13. Kon where art thou? Show thy face.

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  14. My husband fell in love with me at first sight. We've been together 2 years now and the love grows everyday, even though he has seen ALL sides of me.

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  15. Kon is married! Jissus.
    I don't believe in love at first sight. To me you decide to love a person.

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    1. So what if you 'decide to love a person' at the first sighting?

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    2. Decide to love or decide to continue loving a person?

      Love can creep in on you without so much of your knowing why or how, let alone making a concrete decision, but when you love or realise that you're in love, then you can consciously decide to continue loving the person... I think.

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    3. "Decide to love"? More like "decide to accept/be friends with", but you can't decide to love. It's like reflex action.

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    4. @wale I don't think I would decide to love a person at the first sighting. At worse, I would have a crush. Well probably decide to continue loving is more like it.
      I don't know if I'm right, cos me and relationship issues are far apart. But I feel it's very easy to fall in love but to continue loving takes work. Lock a guy and a lady in a room for a month, trust me they will come out saying they have falling in love, of whuch they might have had sex sef.

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    5. @Memphis, no, its not. Love especially the romantic kind is a choice not reflex

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  16. Hahaha! Mak una dey fear God naaaah!!!!

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  17. As in....Kon is married?

    Wow.....to his LAFS babe sef

    I am in sheer amazement

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  18. I do not believe it. You see and appreciate but love grows.

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  19. Lols am I the only one that kinda knew kon was married? I don't know but must have been one of his comments, I just deduced dude is married but forming I chop stone for breakfast on here. His type are always really soft hearted in real life.

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  20. I thought i was the only one that dont believe in Love at first sight.

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  21. Hahahahaaaaa!!!! Yall are too funny!!!

    Thelma well done ooo....

    All questions will be answered when Im in Thelma's hot seat. Stay tuned..

    Peace.

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  22. I too, do not believe in LAFS. Love is never in existence; it is created in the mind (by making decision to love another) and then built and made strong by acts flowing from that decision to love.

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