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Ladies, so a guy you just met asks you out on a date. You say yes and go on the date with him, on your way home you need to use the ATM and he stops you at one. Unfortunately the ATM swallows your card. Thankfully your date gives you 5k which you promise to pay him back. 

On the second date you give him back the 5k and he does not hesitate to collect it from you. 

Would this make you feel some type of way? Would you consider him as stingy or cheap? Would there be a third date?

All I know is that only goodness and kindness follows me, all the days of my life. I only attract generous, giving, open-fisted people into my life, ONLY. ok, I just wanted to put that out there. #HelloUniverse. 


Now over to y'all; ladies would this be okay? Obviously if he's asking you out on dates it's because he's interested in you, and if you went on a second date with him, it's because you're feeling him too. But if this should happen, would there be a third date? 

Dear men, would you take the 5k back from her?

'All ears people. Talk to me!


  1. If d woman feels different dat means she's materialistic and cares abt what money can and can't do. If she doesn't feel different then she is willing to understand the man and learn things about him. #my 2 cents!

  2. he might not be stingy o nd of course the money is his me I wud not feel lyk goin on a third date personally.its a date nd ur date is stranded since u intrested in her u shud at least help her out na without taking it back biko...its a big turn off for me biko

  3. I think the situation we have here is because of the conditions for giving out the money. Inasmuch as I won't take it back, I think it's irrational to judge someone based strictly on taking the money back.

  4. I know this isn't related but am so excited, I got into grad school

    1. Congratulations! I'm so happy for you. I hope grad school turns out great for you.

    2. Congratulations! Success all the way!

  5. Hnmmmmmmm,I would think twice but wouldn't judge him based on that, would give him another chance n see what kind of person he is, some people just have principles, and maybe that's one of his.

  6. Thelma! you are too materialistic biko! *no offence meant. theres nothing wrong in d guy taking d money back and if i like his personality id go on a 3rd date. as a matter of fact id insist he takes the money back if he doesnt want to. life transcends money. but hey! thats me, we are different.

    1. Can u read at all?? Did her opinion depict her as a materialistic person???, everyone is entitled to their own opinion,if that's hers,why counter it? Human being sef.

    2. Defender of Thelma,get off her d**k,Its her opinion let her be.

    3. Lol at defender of Thelma! thanks jare Anonymous. Maybel S are you blind to see *no offence meant and hey thats me we are different?????* #shior!

    4. Only a blind man knows a blind man,throw words at me and am ready to show u I have punch lines. It's her opinion to see the guy that way,does that now make her materialistic? Shiooorr,haters everywhere.

    5. How come you are the only one backing Thelma???Calm down are looking crazy now :)

    6. Please there's freedom of backing so leave Maybel be. And she's right, what part of my opinion depicts me as materialistic? My dear I love the good things of life and I will continue to attract such. I declared that only goodness and kindness follows me (ps 23), that's my confession and my testimony. I also confessed that I only attract generous people into my life. Do these make me materialistic? If yes then I am very materialistic.

      But since I didn't even answer the question let me answer it here. YES I would feel some type of way, especially because if it were me I would not collect it from him. I'm a very giving person and I appreciate that trait in others. But that's just me.

      Yet that alone would not stop me from going on a third date with him, not at all.

  7. Wouldnt it be more awkward if she brings out 5k cash and he says no keep it.. Thats somewhat condescending.

    To avoid the awkward situation Ill collect the money, put it in my pocket and act like nothing happened. Its not like I asked for my money back, she gave it back.

    What kinda babe says she will return money and not expect the returned money to be collected sef?


    1. Kon there's nothing condescending about it. I will return the money and if he smiles and says 'keep it' as I think he should, I would offer to pay for the date (or part of it) with it.
      If it was reversed and I was the one who lent him 5k, I wouldn't take it back, I'd say 'Lets settle the bill with it'. Shikena. Even when it's not dates and it's casual friends that's what I'm likely to do. Shey it's 5k we're talking about?

  8. Me I must return the money for intergrity sake,

    Whether he collects it or not is up to him, I wont think him stingy if he does.

    Money is not easy to come by this days. Plus if he were stingy there wont be a second date.

    1. This your disappearing acts ehn... How've you been?

    2. Darling Sunshine,

      Im very well thank you, Na work stress o
      But im reading all posts.

      Love to you and yours.

  9. I won't feel any kinda way. I mean I asked him to BORROW me not dash me. Turn the table around for a minute and see if some of us ladies will not take back our money. And there will definitely be a third date if we flow so well.

  10. This shouldn't even be a question....A person lent you money,it is expected you give it back. That should not be a basis to judge someone and not go on a third date with them.

  11. When it comes to money matters I have very strict principles. When you borrow money make sure you repay it and vice versa. So when someone takes back money they lent me why should I judge them, I will take it back if I were in their shoes.If you refuse to take it I will insist till you do.

    The reason I do this is for you to know that when I borrow money from you I have 100% intention of repaying and expect same from you.J

  12. Third date is sure, no biggie.

  13. What part of "your date gives you 5k which you promise to pay him back" did I misinterpret? You promised to pay him back and now you think he's stingy?

    I would return the money with shinkini hope that you'll tell me to keep it(I like but I won't hold it against you cos, you did me a favour and I did promise to pay you back. If I like him, that 3rd date is for shizzle!

  14. Well to be honest, I ll feel disappointed and my behaviour towards him ll definitely change. Yes I offered to pay back, doesn't mean he's to collect it from me.

  15. No biggie really but honestly i'd look at u with one kain eye joor. Its a diff thing to refuse and i insist than taking it outrightly. Lol.
    And yea, there'd be a 3rd date. Helping me out in d first place is "something".


  16. I wouldn't even allow this kind of thing to happen on the 2nd date. Once she says "I promise I'll pay back", my response will be "Don't worry about it". Silence on a man's part at that moment brings out the drama on the 2nd date. "Make I collect am? Make I leave am?" Ijebu..

  17. On my second date with my BF i borrowed 15k from him and i was still a Corper then, the next month when allawee came i paid him back. In fact he later told me that it was the alert that woke him that day and he decided he was never letting me go that it showed him that i was responsible and accountable. But me sha thought he was stingy for taking it back but overtime ive come to thank God that i didn’t say no to him cos of that cos he is one of the most generous men I’ve met. I think really time tells what anybody truly is, A stingy character can’t be hidden forever.

  18. It's reasonable people that are commenting today. Nice one.

    How will you tag a guy stingy for collecting money he borrowed you? Wouldn't you feel cheap if he doesn't take it back?
    Like he has already started paying in advance for pussy to come. Bitches be wanting equality in everything but don't want you to collect ur money back. Gerarahere.

  19. Ok so I was friend with my hubby when I had my car and he borrowed me some money, along the line we started dating I paid him some before we started dating and even when we started dating I offered him the money which he collected and right there used the money to buy me something else. I think its a principle thing once u borrow, return.I wouldn't have felt awkward if he kept the money. It's his money, aside that he spoils me silly so it shouldn't be a biggie. I wont judge on that. K.


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