If I didn't know better I'd have thought a blog reader sent this to @joroolumofin.
She opened up to me about a challenge she's presently facing and it's so similar to the mail above, except in her case he wants her to take a lower paying and much less challenging (in his opinion) job, and in another career field, as he thinks the present one would leave no room to nurture a new marriage.
For someone who's worked so hard to get ahead in her career it's the most difficult decision she's ever had to make; choosing to step down several rungs on the ladder and receive less than half the pay she's earning now, plus forego all the allowances and bonuses. This might also mean that she might lose the lifestyle she's now become accustomed to; travel, high quality clothes and even her parents' upkeep. She loves Bae and wants to be his wife (they're engaged at the moment) but it's not an easy move to make.
Take these two ladies' situations into consideration and share your thoughts. I didn't feel qualified to advise so I merely offered her a listening ear.
Ps; I really think it's unfair to ask anyone to leave their jobs when they don't want to, but this is a Nigerian reality. Most women have to leave good jobs or promising careers and settle for businesses that can be run from the home or shop, or monthly allowances, or nothing at all! I'm not talking about women who choose to be stay-at-home mums (so that can take care of the kids personally). I'm talking about the ones whose husbands tell them almost from the get go that they won't have a wife that works 9-5. I think this is unfair and selfish. Wives' dreams are just as valid as their husbands', no?