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Side Chics Are Winning. Yes or No?

There are times that it could really seem that way, and some people actually find this position to be much more appealing, fun and enjoyable to that of being the Mrs. The writer in the image above for instance. 

I remember reading somewhere a while back, a note to a wife saying; No I don't want your position, I'm not trying to break your home, I don't want your husband to leave you for me. Nah, I'm just fine where I'm at and I won't trade places with you even if he proposes to me. Apparently, contrary to what some might think, the title "Wifey" is not coveted by all. The writer in the image above for instance...

The image was shared by @break_or_makeup on Instagram. The beautiful Tito (of) @sarayahbeauty reposted it and had this to say in response to the above:

  • "Dear Side Chick or Side line Ho. I see that your position is sweeting you seriously. I dont understand how you can be so satisfied with 2nd best that in your mind you have made yourself believe your role makes you more important than his wife. Oya lets compare the perks you get in ur post to the perks of being a Mrs. I have time for u today. 

    1. You say "he pays a few bills in my house" 😂😂. He pays ALL his wifes freaking bills and if her bills increase, your may not be paid. 

    2. You have a life insurance policy on him? that can disappear in a heartbeat when his Mrs shows proof of marriage. She is your life insurance policy. The wife is the heir to erthang his ass owns. 

    3. Your joint account the he deposits money into when you need it. Aww thats so sweet, as a wife you dont need him to deposit norin. You go in and out of the account as you please. No need to call and be explaining that u need money. Again, if i have finished the money, u aint getting norin. 

    4. I dont know what makes you think wifes are sitting at home cleaning and washing his clothes. He got her a maid to do that. 

    5. Yap you give him the great sex he needs. Doing the stuff he doesnt want his lady to do but wants a freak like u to do and he gets up says thank you and goes straight home and cuddles his wife. 

    Okay so here is how u know if you are winning as a sideline chick. Give him 24 hours to leave his wife and family. If he does it, you are a badass and you deserve eachother. If he doesn't, you are not winning you are just a sideline Ho.

    You better be quiet and play your role as sex toy that u are. Before his wife carries Baygon and flits u out of their marriage. Exterminate you like a rodent. Its only rats that fight for leftovers."

    LMBO @ I have time for you today. 

    Great people of TTB, share your honest thoughts. 


  1. Madam Tito be jonsing on a long thing...some men don't have time or even look at their wives again once they have side chicks..Why do some women die praying in MFM?You better pray not to meet a side chick that has gone loco,if not oyo is your own..TNHW

    1. Lmao @die praying in mfm, laff wan kil me die ohhh .

  2. Lol... this wife and side chick palava will never end.

    That said, the lady who wrote the long comment is assuming the man is responsible and actually takes care of his family. There are men who don't give their wives money not because they can't afford it but because they can't be bothered and so they spend their money on women they will never marry and trips around the globe.

    With these kind of men, no one really wins if his willingness to wife you is the criteria. I know someone who is the one that reminds and encourages her married bf to buy stuff for his own children yet he never fails to buy designer shoes or bags for the side chick on his numerous trips abroad. In this kind of case now, who wins?

  3. Side chic, wifey, unfaithful husband. They are all losers. I'm tired of our society pitting women against each other abeg. The unfaithful husband is the shameful issue that should be dealt with.

    1. I hear you, sad as it is, women keep hurting each other.

  4. This matter never ends really. Who is to blame? I think the husbands.. side chicks are everywhere, so wives deal with it or better still, up your

    1. No.matter how a woman ups her game, a man will always cheat if he wants too,most men are dogs jawe.was it not this same blog Thelma posted a story about a woman who works her butts out at d gym n almost turned to a vegetarian just to look hot, the yeye man still fucked their house maid.

    2. There is no game to be "up-ed" a dog is dog.

      It goes both ways (men and women).

      Just find your peace in marriage.

  5. Am.a side chick and I don't regret it,am having my fun,so it's a free word biko.

    1. #FreedomToBeASideChic

    2. Chic the word is "World". Enjoy o jaree!

  6. I, Sasha, predicts that a generation wld come when the tables wld turn and husbands wld be the ones chasing "side booz" from their wives.
    Side chicks stay winning until wives realize they don't need the bullshit their husbands put them thru...

    1. Reality. Nigerian men are way too violent and vindictive for the "side guy" thing to take off (also, the Nigerian community is very unforgiving of wife-snatching). A more realistic option for a neglected woman is divorce. Some men suffer for years for chasing someone's ex (or girlfriend). How much more someone's wife.

    2. Lmao @ Sasha... This is already happening dear. Just that the wives are experts are covering their tracks. We men are more careless and always feel the need to brag especially when the girl is hot, that's why their assets always get caught.

  7. At the end of the day, the husband is the biggest loser.

    1. He will have less money trying to manage the family and a side chic. Why pay bills for a side chic? Are you her father or husband?

    2. It is stress managing 2 relationships. Hiding up and down, deleting messages, the lies. Its alot of stress. The man will burn out soon.

    3. The possibility of your wife finding out. Now thats when true stress starts. Your wife will make your life miserable.

    4. You miss out on the essence of life. The time with the children, time with the person you once loved. Having a side chic messes up your mentality, you start thinking life is about mad sex. What about watching Mickey mouse with the kids, what about play fighting for the remote control with the wife, what bout spending time with God as a family. Side chics will mess up a niggas perspective.

    These are some of the reasons why I think the husband is the biggest loser in the equation. Ofcourse these points will be in my book on 'How to cheat'


    1. Kon, I tire for u,you want to teach men how to cheat an yet you think they are loosers when they cheat and u against them cheating?? Abeg where do u belong kwaaa??

    2. LMAO! Kon, like Maybel and Iyanu said, pick a struggle biko.

      I think Kon is our resident Devil's Advocate(just like Uyi)

    3. I was going to write a long epistle, till I read your comment, IT IS THE MAN WHO IS AT LOSS.

    4. My book has to be complete. It has to appeal to both men and women.

      The logic is - Its better for a man not to cheat. A few chapters of my book will tell men why they should not cheat.
      But if you must cheat, do it in a way that your wife will never find out. What a wife doesnt know will not hurt her which will lead to a peaceful marriage

      Do yall get my logic?


  8. As in kon... Pick a struggle. Are you FOR OR AGAINST ( you strike me as someone that has been there done that and knows the details of cheating but would rather not cheat. So why teach other guys to? Or are you trying to do Counterconditioning)

  9. Kon is tryna make the dough. Any struggle he picks is a struggle. Lol

  10. Some side chics did not plan to live this lifestyle, na condition make crayfish back to bend. If by divine intervention some of them hit it rich, I'm sure most will drop the lifestyle.

    Some are simply trying to survive the only way they know how. I hear that many people use the Side Chic role to operate as runs girls undercover. However, I am not sure whether to believe it or not. They get the flexibility to be side chics to multiple guys at the same time, without the men scrutinizing their faithfulness. And the "pay" is better than some jobs: One husband buys her the tools of her trade (phones, bags, shoes), another pays the rent, another will add money for a car, another buys her diesel, etc

  11. After all said and done, faithfulness for both seem is extremely hard, especially when you're not getting the love, affection and attention you feel you deserve from your spouse. Some people just get bored and want to experience something new, and some even believe that it heightens the attraction to their main. All one can do really is to pray for the grace to be content with what you have. It is not by our power.


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