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So You Want Someone Else's Life?

Hihellohowareyou! Welcome to the 1st day of February 2016 guys. Are you one of those that say January was just practice and your year starts now? Haha! I know just how you feel. Actually, my own year started on January 1st and if the month was anything to go by, as I'm sure it was, then I'm definitely in for a very full, interesting and positively eventful year ahead. I wish us all a great February, may each month be better than the last. 

Before I proceed, I just need to chip this in. When I said the Olumofin brothers being turned away, if they indeed were, would be a good punishment for their actions, most of you misunderstood me and I can't understand it. I did not mean that not attending the Demurens' wedding is a punishment (Duh!). I meant the embarassment of being turned away (bounced) from a social event, be it a club or church. Being bounced from anywhere is very embarassing, how much more a very public wedding and after all the hullabaloo? I know some of you think Gbemi deserved what she got, but I'm surprised when I hear my fellow women say it served her right. Let's not even go into details. Gbemi was wrong, petty and misguided but if my brothers ever spoke to or about a woman in such a manner, then I know my parents failed as parents. They naturally should have reacted but those choice of words were a reflection of very poor morals. Asking someone if she was raped as a child..... Eishhh

Moving forward. So I was perusing the pictures of Ebuka Obi Uchendu's Fiancé's (Cynthia) bridal shower when I saw the comment below; 

I wish to be in Cynthia’s position right now. Daughter of a rich man getting married to a fine Bobo (an Nze for that matter)… Tell me it’s all vanity, I don’t care. 

I know how sometimes the inadequacies and deficiencies in our lives make the overtly glossy lives of certain others very attractive and appealing. But I'm surprised to know that some people still want someone else's life. Sometimes you tap into misery and discontent beautifully veiled as blessings. Bella Naija by absolutely no fault of theirs, has singlehandedly turned some people into perpetual tappers of blessings. Instagram is greatly adept at stealing your joy when you allow it, you know what they say about comparison. It has this drug-like effect that makes one forget that pictures are just simply pictures. 

All I'm saying is nobody's life is perfect. And although some people's lives are admittedly more perfect than others, I honestly don't thinks it's because they have all that they want, but because they've mastered the art of wanting what they have. Gratitude goes a long way. It's admirable and even advisable to aspire to greater things, but wanting someone else's life isn't going to get you there. 

But hey guys, just for fun, if you could be someone else for one week, who would it be and why? 

For one week I'd like to be Christiane Amanpour, because why not? To travel the world and cover the most important news. To sit and talk with presidents and peasants, policy makers, royalty, rulers, tyrants, leaders, dictators and anyone I very well please. And isn't it cool to be one of the journalists whom most world leaders follow on Twitter? 

And the next week; Gabrielle Union, because I want that hot toned body, great acting job and yummy younger chocolatey/hot/athletic/successful/rich hunk of a man. Hot damn! 


  1. Id like to be President Barak Obama. Well..because my swag is perfect for the most powerful man in the World.

    Then I wanna be a young Hugh Hefna. You know why *Wink


  2. I want to be Bill Gate's wife so as not to have money troubles again and go on all my anticipated vacations around the world.

  3. 1st week: Arnold Schwarzenegger. I don't want my accent to be *adulterated* no matter how long I stay in an area very different from my mother clime.

    2nd week: nigger doesn't exist :D

  4. Lmao...Anon 4:38 comment finished me.

  5. Instagram with all d fake lives. I would like to be nobody actually, I would be myself if am given the opportunity to be someone else.

  6. Hey Thelmy, can u b over Ebuka already? yuck!

  7. Instead of being Bill Gate's wife why don't you wish to be Bill Gate? Just curious?

  8. Yeah, sometimes I think of being in Amanpour's shoes.

    I googled her name sometime ago, she's also had her fair share of failures, so I totally get the whole idea of not wishing to be someone else of having someone else"s life.

    We see the successful part of their lives and want to be like them, but they also have their struggled and ish..

    Just like the way I always wish my big stomach away,while admiring other women with toned abs. lolz,

  9. *or, struggles .

    Why can't I just dictate to my phone and it turns into words.

    These grammar wey person dey "spark" upandan so!!!

    1. You actually can...on some phones like Windows/Microsoft

  10. Replies
    1. HHHahahahahahaha,our mummy G.O. issorai.

    2. Do you attend mountain of fire?

    3. Pastor Mrs Sunshine! Looool

    4. LOL... Kabuoy, mind yourself o.

      @Ibiye, yes I do but that's not why I chose her, she's just so beautiful and serene, really strong and steadfast. Being a pastor's wife is not beans yet she does it with a smile all the time plus she's has everything she wants at her beck and call.

      Maybel, *tongue out*

  11. I would like to me but working in shell with alot of money to meet my needs and others


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