When I read Sade’s post Here, I just smiled. I had been in a similar position very recently where I did not care much for my job. It started as a position I wanted, but I always had a nagging feeling of uncertainty about taking the job, but the way the job market is set up ehn. After a while, I realised I was mentally exhausted and going nowhere with the job. At least, not where I wanted to go.
I had to make the painful decision to quit. Without a job in hand. You know the usual advice – ‘find another before you quit’. As if I could even get out of the office to attend an interview! I would not advice anyone to take the plunge unless they are at wits ends or have at least 6 months’ salary in savings. I thought I would not spend so much, but the way all sorts of expenses came up ehn, I was amazed and upset. I quit without another job in handbecause I needed to find myself again and I could not do that on the job. Moreover, I had drawn up a personal development plan to keep myself busy within that period.
If you want to quit your job, it is important to discuss with your immediate family and the people you live with; whether or not you contribute to the upkeep of the house. Some will understand your position; others will not and may go as far as condemning you and ostracizing you. Only you know where the shoe pinches. In the same vein, the less people you share with, the better. Only share on a need to know basis. Friends and family have been a huge source of support in my journey including some who did not understand. To them, it was simply a case of ‘we will support you if this is what you want’.
If you choose to take a break before finding another job, keep yourself occupied. An idle mind is the Devil’s workshop. You can complete that professional exam you have been putting off or apply for a higher degree. Read all the novels you have stockpiled. Try your hands at baking, cooking, sewing or anything else that catches your fancy. Renew your relationship with God. You can even decide to contribute to TTB as I did. (Thank you for the push Thelma.) Most importantly, find yourself and the path on which you intend to proceed.
Spend wisely! A word is enough for the wise. Besides, going out with friends every now and again will cause you to explain yourself repeatedly to the extent that you may begin to doubt your decision. With that comes depression. You have to be more deliberate in the choice of people you hang out with during this period. Only hang out with people who will edify you.
When you are ready to return to the job market, be strategic. By now, you should have a defined purpose and a thick skin. The number of applications I sent out without as much as an acknowledgment of receipt (side eye Nigerian organisations... so rude) made me contemplate taking any role, but I remained steadfast in my goal. You did not quit your job to be miserable in another role. That is the worst thing you can do to yourself – allow your desperation make you accept a role you hate from the onset. The truth is getting a job may not come easy even when you are ready. You will need to persevere and be steadfast in your prayers. You need God to keep you sane. Trust me. Be optimistic and joyous for what is to come for this period will pass too. My consolation was that ‘I will sha still get another job in this life...it’s just a matter of when’.
There is no hard and fast trick to getting a job even with the best qualifications. Divine favour is all I can say. Apply wide and far using all the tools at your disposal. Put your best into your applications and hope for the best. When you eventually get a job, come and testify on TTB as I’m doing and throw in some words of encouragement for others who might need it. This is of course in addition to testifying in Church.
When God shows up, He shows off. One week, I had three interviews - two in one day. I would wake up to invites and smile saying, ‘God, I see you’. Remember my Lenten post Here? Well, Lent is not over and God answered me with five job offers. Now, I’m asking for divine guidance in making my choice.* That’s my God for you.
*I wrote this Tuesday morning in anticipation of a job offer. Something to keep my spirits up.Well, in the evening, I received a call to resume work the following day. I even resumed to a welcome party! What more can I say other than God is faithful!
The lady I'm so happy for you. In fact I'm officially tapping into your testimony! I'm certain great and even greater things are ahead, don't forget to share them with us as they unfold.
"When God shows up, He shows off"- I love this!