1. Having your dream job but still being unhappy because everybody hates you, especially your boss.
2. Being in an abusive relationship
3. Being married and lonely
4. Having no job, business, money, goals or prospects.
5. Losing a loved one.
6. Suffering from a terminal disease.
7. Having a mother-in-law whose life's purpose is to make your life unbearable
8. Eating only fruits and green vegetables all week only to find out that you've somehow added 3kg!
9. Putting in more years, time and energy into your blog than Linda Ikeji and still be too broke to renew your data subscription.
10. Being female in one of those countries in the Middle East.
11. Being female in the above country in the Middle East and your husband just caught you in bed with your lover.
12. Winning free return tickets and an all expense paid vacation to your dream city for a week but your boss has vehemently refused to give you any time off.
13. Being blessed with good health, a loving family, good friends, a roof over your head, a good job/business yet still being depressed over being single. Yes, even this is worse than being single at 31!
Reading not only the story of 31 year old Danielle Saul who allegedly committed suicide because she was tired of being single while she watched all her close friends get married and have kids, but also the comments that followed on some blogs by single 30-somethings, who also admitted to suffering from depression as a result of being unmarried, I began to wonder.
Is it really the worst thing than that can happen to a woman who's passed the 30 mark and is still single?
I empathize with the late Danielle Saul, I know just how it feels. On Tuesday morning I woke up and began scrolling through my facebook feed. I'd wanted to post something but I stalled because I couldn't help but notice that everyone's post was either about their husband or children or thanking God for safe delivery, everyone was updating their pictures to include new baby pictures or new family portraits. Suddenly whatever it was I wanted to post seemed very irrelevant so I closed facebook, but not before I noticed that my BFF had just uploaded pictures of her second son's first birthday party... Ouch!
Yes, truth be told it was somewhat disheartening. But I tell you, there are many things that are worse than this. Please let's stop putting so much pressure on ourselves. Society is already doing that for us, when you join society in putting pressure on you, you just might be staring depression or worse yet, suicidal thoughts in the face. Think, is it really worth it?
Hopefully, it will happen someday. Hopefully sooner than later. But until then take the time to smell the roses. Life is very beautiful, don't let it all go to waste because marriage hasn't happened yet. There's so much more to be thankful for.