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13 Things That Are Worse Than Being Single at 31.





1. Having your dream job but still being unhappy because everybody hates you, especially your boss. 

2. Being in an abusive relationship 

3. Being married and lonely

4. Having no job, business, money, goals or prospects. 

5. Losing a loved one. 

6. Suffering from a terminal disease. 

7. Having a mother-in-law whose life's purpose is to make your life unbearable 

8. Eating only fruits and green vegetables all week only to find out that you've somehow added 3kg!

9. Putting in more years, time and energy into your blog than Linda Ikeji and still be too broke to renew your data subscription. 

10. Being female in one of those countries in the Middle East.

11. Being female in the above country in the Middle East and your husband just caught you in bed with your lover.

12. Winning free return tickets and an all expense paid vacation to your dream city for a week but your boss has vehemently refused to give you any time off.

13. Being blessed with good health, a loving family, good friends, a roof over your head, a good job/business yet still being depressed over being single. Yes, even this is worse than being single at 31!




Reading not only the story of 31 year old Danielle Saul who allegedly committed suicide because she was tired of being single while she watched all her close friends get married and have kids, but also the comments that followed on some blogs by single 30-somethings, who also admitted to suffering from depression as a result of being unmarried, I began to wonder. 

Is it really the worst thing than that can happen to a woman who's passed the 30 mark and is still single? 

I empathize with the late Danielle Saul, I know just how it feels. On Tuesday morning I woke up and began scrolling through my facebook feed. I'd wanted to post something but I stalled because I couldn't help but notice that everyone's post was either about their husband or children or thanking God for safe delivery, everyone was updating their pictures to include new baby pictures or new family portraits. Suddenly whatever it was I wanted to post seemed very irrelevant so I closed facebook, but not before I noticed that my BFF had just uploaded pictures of her second son's first birthday party... Ouch!

Yes, truth be told it was somewhat disheartening. But I tell you, there are many things that are worse than this. Please let's stop putting so much pressure on ourselves. Society is already doing that for us, when you join society in putting pressure on you, you just might be staring depression or worse yet, suicidal thoughts in the face. Think, is it really worth it?  

Hopefully, it will happen someday. Hopefully sooner than later. But until then take the time to smell the roses. Life is very beautiful, don't let it all go to waste because marriage hasn't happened yet. There's so much more to be thankful for. 

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  1. Prefect message at the right time. You just nailed it, Tomorrow is my birthday and somehow this morning i was a bit depressed, asking all kinds of questions, still single, no kid BUT good job, good car, beautiful roof over my head, then i remembered one thing, THE GIFT OF LIFE, the message right here just uplifted my soul again.
    Thanks Name sake..

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    1. 32 things ... being an arsenal fan.

      Happy birthday Thelma(Gh)

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    2. Happy birthday Thelma!!do not give up.joy comes in the morning.holla at me if u want company myghlife01@gmail.com

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  2. Nice write up.. its a good message and needs to passed on to all those being depressed over singlehood. I remember the week before i turned 29, i felt some type of way, i wont call it depression, but i just wanted to be left alone in my misery and i cried and cried, slept, woke up, didnt eat or talk to anyone. It was a crazy situation cos i felt like: what am i celebrating for when at this age i have achieved nothing: no job, no money, no husband, etc etc. And i never looked on the brighter side. Another issue is parents, aunties, uncles do not help matters at all. They keep rubbing it in like thats all that matters in life. Well thank God that phase of my life is past now, i'm well over 31, married with kids, good job and everything is fine now...Thers so much more to be thankful for my dear Thelma.

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  3. #9 is funny.

    Is it that serious? To keee yourself because you dont have a man. Hian!

    Peace.

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  4. When I read that story and saw her picture, in my mind I was like 'she looks beautiful and young'. It kept ringing in my mind. I just pray the family she left behind are able to bear the loss.

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  5. ...And you'll think the pressure is only on the ladies right? well...so I thought too until I found myself in same situation. Everyone, from family members to colleagues, to landlord's wife and even strangers asking same question 'when are you inviting us to chop rice o?'. The pressure is as much on the guys as it is on the ladies as well...and even harder is getting a good woman.
    btw..Ithink I'm gonna love this blog. #newbie

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    1. Bro... You are so so right. The pressure is much on the guys too.

      Being a newbie, welcome

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  6. Being married and without a child can be depressing. Everyone asking you when are they coming for naming bla bla bla.
    God help me

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    1. My dear, it's so depressing and overwhelming! Then people won't let you breath with their series of questions... after just 3 months of marriage, i was already under pressure from friends and family. Don't stop trusting God, he able to do exceedingly. It's well!

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  7. I think it's worse when you have family members in your age group who seem to have it all just in time. Good job, nice ride, steady relationship that led to marriage within a year, a kid after exactly 9 months, extra degree(s) etc.
    Welcome to the blog Kzy Brown.

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  8. I just don't know why people just put pressure on people, this marriage thingy just seems like the only thing. am still very far from 30 but the way my mum goes about marriage everyday....she even believes that one must not be happy sha be married and raise your kids. sometimes its just tiring.

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    1. Pls dont be pressured. Pleaseèeeee. . Find the right guy n know ur happiness counts.

      You will love it here @kzy Brown

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