Please advice is seriously needed. *Abey* and me have been dating for six months but I didn't really consider it a very serious relationship although I know he's in love with me. To my surprise he proposed to me last month and I have been so confused ever since then. I like him a lot (I don't love him yet but I know that I can love him someday) and he is 100 percent husband material. He is an amazing person and he has a heart of gold. I haven't said yes because he has a health condition and I'm not sure that I can cope with it. I don't know what it is called but apparently he was born with it. He has taken drugs for it all his life and will continue to do so. There are times he has serious crisis and this could last for a whole week. During this period he is bedridden and several thousands usually goes into this. He has been flown to different countries for medical treatment but all to no avail. Another issue is that he is religious and is remaining a virgin till marriage. I think it's a great thing to do but I'm worried because I did my research and I learnt that some men who suffer this sickness have very low libido or suffer some problems with their "plumbing" and sex might be a challenge for them.
I'm confused because he is so wonderful, I get along well with his family and he loves me to death. He is the kind of man that I would have loved to marry but right now I'm still yet to say yes. I don't mean to sound selfish but I'm the first child of my family, I'm the one who takes care of my parents and younger ones and although it hasn't been easy, I've been able to cope. But I don't know if I can cope if I marry him. Please what would you advise me to do?