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I Wish I Could Do Better At These 5 Things.

Last night was lit!

Well was it really? Anyone who was there with me would be baffled to hear me say this. You see I went to the club and it was banging, the DJ was on fire and the people certainly knew how to party. There were bottles of champagne, VS and Remy Martin flying here and there, as it often does in VIP. 

I'd really planned to have a good time. My friends weren't too keen but by 11pm and I made sure everyone was getting dressed and set to go, so you'd have thought I was going to set the dancefloor ablaze. 

Well, my feet didn't even touch the dancefloor. I was going to let go of insecurities, sip some cognac and dance like it was my birthday but when I got there things didn't go quite as planned. Just when I thought to hell with it, I'm going to DANCE! Some millennials walked in and these girls would give Kaffy a run for her money. Nne na so I respect myself and just nyash down till about 3am when everyone was set to leave. 

I woke up this morning still beating myself up, what happened to dancing like no one is watching? What happened like dancing just for fun and happiness and nothing else?

So yes, there are things I really wish I was good at, and they are;

Dance. Nobody knows how much my heart desires this. Sometimes after a few drinks when I hit the floor someone's jaw drops in wonderment; so you can dance? But this happens only once in 5 years or so. Most times I go out I'm busy looking angry and irritated, you'd think I'm just angry with the world or unfriendly. You wouldn't know that I'm just busy being envious, wishing I could dance with reckless abandon like everyone else, and not look like a fool. 

Hide emotions. When I'm upset, I'm upset. I wish I could conceal my emotions, like be mad yet smile sunnily. Or even be happy yet keep calm. I've always had this challenge but the older I get the worse it becomes. In fact I only just received a text with the following words. 

People person. I'm compassionate, empathetic and have good emotional intelligence but I just not much of a people person. This sometimes makes me awkward to be around. 

Fast reader. In secondary school I was in awe of those people who read mills&boons in a day or two. Some even read two in one day, how they did it, I still do. not. know. I want to have super powers toooooo!

xxx. I think we all (most people at least) have that one thing we did better in bed or during segzy time. Lol. 

So that's mine, there's loads more actually but I don't want to bore you with mine. I'd rather hear yours. Tell us!


  1. I wish I knew how to dance too. I try most times but I just don't get the right dance to the beat. I wish I was more sociable. The only thing I know how to do is read. Yes, I'm one of those that can read two novels in a day. Sometimes I wish I could just bone some people. I kinda attract a lot of people. Can't remember others jare.

    1. You are my twin. We share most things in common. When I'm asked what my talent is, I reply with "reading novels"... If that counts sha

    2. Lol, my twin has finally arrived. I really do love reading.

  2. Swim... actually iv never been in a pool.
    Go out alone, all by my self... I hope I try this sometime.
    Bear grudge: well, so I can actually pour that glass of wine on my ex...whohooo.
    Thelma did you get my mail???

  3. 1. I dance better while sitting. I wish I could do same on the dancefloor.

    2. I wish I could mask my feeling better. I like you? I tell! I dislike something you did to me? You'll know! To avoid awkward moments, I totally avoid you. Some say I'm not diplomatic.

    3. I wish I can help being a lazy writer. #sadface

    4. What else sef? #Dunnoagain

    1. Mine is the opposite, I wish I could show my emotions more and not just act it out in my head like a movie.
      Wish I cud sing my heart out at karaoke bars and not regret it when I get home.
      I will be back when I think of more

  4. Swim: I've tried to learn, was picking up but fear no dey gree me.. lol
    Eat faster; this is an issue especially when I go on dates
    Xxx: wish I could b more adventurous as boo loves it n I feel I'm depriving him and he might cheat
    Argue: bin trying so hard to change... I can argue for Africa. .. lol. It's almost ruining my rltnship...

    1. This is so me, well, except for the eating part...the way I ehen, it's always like I have been starved for centuries. Lol

  5. I wish i knew how to dance too. I wish i knew how to swim. But i'm afraid of water even inside a bathbtub. I wish i knew how to "plait" hair. I wish i could wear and walk well in heels. I cant cha cha.hubby says i walk like a zombie when i wear heels. I admire and envy girls who do. Ballet flats r my fav. I wish i knew how to drive. Fear wont let me. Anytime i get behind d steer ring my heart palpitates seeeeriously. My mum said its demomic fear. Lol.

  6. I wish for so many things but I know I have an A one in dancing even though I don't show myself. Thelmz guess u had fun. Good night bae

  7. I wish I could hide my emotions too. Often, I'm trying to be smiley and laughy when something is really bugging me underneathe... I'd be content with the good show I'm managing to put up, when somebody would ask me "Ada_ugo, what's wrong???"

  8. I wish I could sit and read a book for an extended period of time. took me about six months to read to Rich Dad, Poor Dad. I dance fairly well. Not to keen about swimming.

    1. Same here on all but the 'dance fairly well'...I dance very well!


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