Hello a Friend of mine Sent this to me to post on my blog or my twitter page for advice. I don't have the kind of blog.
So I am posting it here, then I will add her to the group to read and get advice:
My name is Jane, My best friend's name is Sam. He has been my best friend for 19years since our JSS2, we went to the same University, even shared a flat and a car. I love this man so much but only as a brother.
I know everything about him, he is my Rock.
This man has gotten me thru the Lowest periods in my Life, as have I for him. He loves me like a Sister too. There has never been any time when we were sexually attracted to Each other, I have never even kissed him by mistake. but we do Everything together and are very close.
11 months ago, I introduced a friend from work to him. I know him well, so I figured they'd be a perfect fit & they hit it off so good. She is a really nice girl and was so grateful to me for bringing Sam in her life. They are engaged now & getting married in 7 months.
However Recently, I find that he is "dodging" to see me. He used to come to the office but not anymore, now he sneaks over to the House. I asked him about it & apparently Lara his fiancee told him that she is not comfortable with our friendship & he should limit it.
We have talked about it & are both devastated. He loves her but doesn't want to End the 19years friendship. Lara thinks it's unhealthy & would lead to other things as I don't currently have a boyfriend (I just broke off a 2 year relationship).
I don't want to lose my bestfriend. He says he doesnt want to lose me. What can we do? please Help.
This was posted on a facebook group and I took the liberty to share since the poster wants it shared. Also I found it interesting, boy-girl friendships can get funny when a significant other enters the picture. You read this, what advise would you give the poster?