Sometime last year I was going through bobo's phone in the night. I wasn't snooping per se as I wasn't expecting to see anything on that particular phone. I'd wanted to know how he saved my name, as my name or some cute pet name, but then came an unexpected surprise. There was a certain Dr *Hannah on his phone. I've got a friend with that name who's supposedly a doctor, but it couldn't be her, right? Wrong.
I opened the contact and saw the number was hers. When I checked the call history and saw that they'd been in contact about thrice that week, the floor literally began to shake. You see, she wasn't just any friend, she was my closest friend. I sent her a text with his phone saying "I miss you", just to get an idea of the kind of relationship they had. She immediately replied and said "How am I sure this is you. Ok take this test; who came to see you the last time I came to visit you in Abuja?"
My head went cold. Not only were they talking, she was travelling into his town to see him!
I was devastated.
Long story short, a few months later, I learnt that she used to ask him to break up with me, that he knew we didn't have a future together so he should break up with me! He asked her how exactly he was to do that and she said "just stop taking her calls, stop calling her, stop seeing her. Very soon she will get tired and move on".
I'm leaving out almost all the details of this experience as some things are best left for God and/or karma, but I only remembered it because I saw the picture above. It best describes things.
It was the same friend whom I went to to discuss my relationship with. I confided in her about so many things about the relationship, and all the time she was talking to the guy (whom I had no idea she knew. Apparently I once called him with her phone and she took it from there. LOL), and even tried to get him to break up with me. Oh wow!
In any case, let's move on. You know, what she was asking him to do seems to be the standard procedure for
men boys when they want to break up with you. They simply Ghost! Meaning they just stop taking your calls, calling you, seeing you, replying your texts and then become very vague until you're frustrated into breaking up with them by yourself or forced to move on and forget about them.
LOL. I've been ghosted on and it's the most painful and frustrating thing ever. You go through the stages similar to the stages of grief; Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. And even when you come to acceptance you're still so heartbroken and confused.
I hope never to be ghosted on again. I tell the guys I date look when you're tired, don't be a coward, just tell me and let's part ways like adults.
Anyways this is what's on my mind this Friday evening. I'm tired of complaining about Nigeria so I'm just going to be easy, go for drinks at Hard Rock Cafe and come home and sleep.
That's what's on my mind people, what's on yours? It's open keypad guys, you're free to talk about anything, ask anything or share anything. You already know the rules, anything goes!