When I talk now, or say divorce is an option, my married friends would be yimu-ing me and saying "you don't know what you're saying", "it's because you're not yet married", "it's not that easy" etc. I never said it's easy o! I know it's not.
But just like a post I was reading on Lanre Olusola's blog a few days ago asked; Do you think God deserves murder/death to divorce? I learnt from said post that deaths resulting from domestic violence are a lot more common than we think, and it's always the same case. Domestic violence had been the order to the day but wifey would always stay, or leave and then go back. People would convince them to stay. Parents would turn a blind eye because they're trying to avoid the stain of divorce in the family. Religious leaders would say "God hates divorce". And most of these women would stay and endure, surely they never thought it would get that bad. It's so sad.
For those who haven't heard about this most recent case of Ronke Bewaji Shonde, here's how Bella Naija reported it:
Ronke is also said to have suffered domestic violence in her husband’s hands for many years but chose to stay on in the marriage.
May the soul of this beautiful woman rest in peace. Amen.
May her brute of a husband be found and Justice served à la Arowolo style. Amen.