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Thursday, 12 May 2016

Last Night...

Where do I even start to apologize from? Look guys, things are just quite a lot at the moment. I wish I could post more, I really do. I just got home and fell on my bed like a stack of cards and I was drifting off to sleep when I began to wonder why it's 8pm and I'm already sleepy. Then I recalled. 

Last night (this morning) I was up until 3am. Surprising af considering that by 10pm I was in bed and ready to snooze. Then one thing led to another and I went online and found myself on some pages and sites and I couldn't stop reading. I read and read and read and I just couldn't stop. Ever since the death of Ronke Shonde it seems more wives are speaking up about the hell they face in their marriages. Damn it guys! I couldn't stop reading. I cried. I screamed. I shuddered. I stared. I paced. I cursed. I swore. My eyes saw red. 

At about 2am I didn't know when I got up and began pacing my room. Hell. Some women are living in hell. I suddenly fell to my knees and began to praise God. I haven't prayed in a while, I'm ashamed to admit, but early this morning I cried out to God and all I wanted to say was THANK YOU. 

You see, sometimes you will sit in your corner and lick your wounds and think your own is the worst. After reading all I read, mehn my life is freaking perfect, and I can't thank God enough. 

Kai! Nigerian men, why do some of you hate your wives so much? WHY? Bloody hell!

I eventually forced myself to shut off my iPad and sleep, I had a long day ahead. Unfortunately minutes later I woke up in cold sweat. I was wondering if I was having some sort of spiritual attack but I knew I wasn't that, it was what I'd been reading for the past few hours. I kept dreaming of being beat up, being tied to the bed post and beaten with sticks. Being choked with a wire until I'm nearly dead, by the man to whom I said "I do". I woke up and stared at the ceiling. I drifted off to sleep again and still I kept being attacked, molested and wounded. My dreams where nightmares, the nightmares I just read which some women are living through. 

I calmed my nerves and forced happy thoughts into my mind. I eventually slept. It was fitful and uneasy and I woke up feeling like I'd been run over by a train. 

May God heal all women who have been broken by the men they call Husband. 


  1. Lmao, your imaginations though. God heal them all too.

  2. While I understand the desire to keep abreast of current happenings,there is still a need to sieve what goes into your mind and heart.

    Thelms,please stop reading such horrible stories.There are women happily married,not enduring any form of domestic violence,there are even in Nigeria

    1. I completely agree with you. I actually avoided certain blogs in order to get away from such stories. However last night I found these somewhere you don't usually read a lot of such horrid situations and I couldn't stop reading. And yes, I truly believe that there are happy marriages. I just wish there were more. I wish they were the norm and that these nightmares are the very slim exception. Oh well...

  3. There are many happy and healthy marriages out there...the thing is many of these couples are busy minding their business. Looking before you leap and ensuring you marry for the right set of reasons is key. While the God factor is an important factor, understanding the other qualities that will make someone a good spouse for you is important.

  4. There are more happy marriages than sad marriages.

    Thats why the gist of sad marriages are so juicy. They are somewhat scarce. If it wasnt so scarce it wont be in the news.


    1. @kon. U get sense o!! Pple need to start focusing more on the good cos there are loads of them. All the negative marriages on social media are there cos the couple chose to put it out there...
      Shine ur eye well before u marry! Don't marry a man n hope he'll change, don't overlook any bad traits u know u can't live with for d rest of ur life. Don't marry a drunkard and come n cry of domestic violence tmrw, don't marry a man that goes to club 5days in a week and expect him to be responsible, etc.
      These are the issues! May God help us!


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