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Friday, 6 May 2016

Oh Dear! A Woman Scorned... (Please Read & Share Your Thoughts)









See the texts below. 





Honestly I feel her pain, 6 years of one's life is no joke, and then few months later he proposes to someone new? That's just painful, devastating, heartbreaking, that's enough to drive a woman mad. It will take a lot of strength and God's mercy to deal with and get over that level of pain. And that pain is apparent in her texts. I cannot say I blame this woman, my heart even breaks on her behalf. 


But on the other hand I wonder, when you no longer love someone, when you no longer feel anything for them, when you know you don't want to move into the future with them, do you stay simply because they've done so much for you, do you stay because you feel indebted to them? Is it fair to you or even to them?


Please guys I would really love to hear your thoughts on this. A lot of females have gone through this misery of spending the "best years" of their lives with a man, supporting him, making him the man he is today, praying for him, loving him, investing in him, catering to all his needs and sometimes even that of his family. Then only for him to wake up one day and decide he doesn't love her anymore. What's even worse is when three or four months later you hear he's engaged to someone new. Tell me that's not enough to drive a woman mad! 



An Instagram user sent the mail to @joroolumofin and attached texts sent to him by his ex girlfriend. 


15 comments:

  1. Stop investing in people, invest in yourself, love yourself and don't expect too much. Any rship one person is giving all is not normal, it means something is not right and the other party is selfish, I had a toaster that offered to buy me a brand new car worth abt 5m but I refused cos I knew I had no plans to date or marry him but some greedy the pple would take it, just like the guy in the story, he was greedy, now he is making excuses. If I were the girl, I ll get thugs to amputate his two legs, then I ll leave him, I don't ve time to lay curses, the holy book says an eye for an eye. Simple!

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  2. Lol. All this "Attraction" movie genre these days sha..

    See wetin #SeeFinish de cause? Just because the sex ain't interesting anymore, you flee. Then come up with "I still love her/him" crap. I'll prefer you tell me you never loved me, just felt attracted to me and all that, than the other way round. This is the worst kind of wickedness: when you're not even aware of the wickedness you display. That lady is going to Baba Igiriwudo asap. Good luck to both of them.

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  3. Love is a choice. So if he was married, will he walk out? The guy is plain selfish. Its not everytime one feels extremely loving or chatty in marriages but in such situations,you have to remember what attracted you to each other and hold on. Believe me, after a while the feelings will come up again

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  4. What the guy did is heart wrecking but at the same time, he couldn't have married her out of pity. I have always said it and I would keep saying it,I would never invest in any man, heaven knows likewise I don't expect anyman to invest in me for reasons like the above. I rather work hard to become successful than owe my success to a man because as humans we would always feel betrayed if at the end of the day things like the above story takes place, in all I don't blame d girl nor the guy.

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  5. I mean, how do you love someone and then you fall out of it. It's not possible except you were never in love with that person. It's like saying you no longer feel like your sister is still your sister. Whether you like it or not, she will always be a woman of your heart. Good or bad. Same applies for a loved partner.

    I'm not married but I know that being married doesn't guarantee that you and your partner will always have that butterfly-in-stomach feeling through out. As it seems, she was giving you wifely privileges And you didn't think about reciprocating Through all those years when you thought you loved her as well.
    My guy, you are not 'human'. What you have done is truly an act of wickedness and greediness. Yet you still come online to appeal to Pity. Sick f**k. #Gtfo idiot.

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  6. Abeg abeg abeg!!! She should go and sit down. Who gave her power to lay curses. Schhew. What does she think she is? I dont believe in such.

    His actions hurt her. But like he explained, he was not cheating and the action was not from a bad heart. He fell out of love with her. So he should stay with her for life even though he doesnt love her? You cant expect him to satisfy her and he will suffer for the rest of his life.

    Life moves on. She should move on. He only has to discuss the matter with God. God sees the heart.

    Peace.

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    1. I agree with Kon's reasoning on the matter. I echo Sunshine's prayers.

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    2. I totally agree with Kon. If he marries her out of Pity and starts cheating, ladies will say all men are Dogs. If he marries her and out of frustration he starts beating her, it will be the same old story. Yes people do fall out of love and that is what happened here. It might have been better if he waited longer, but sometimes these things happen. Free the guy beg. A lot of guys have invested in women (especially my illiterate igbo brothers) who will train a lady till university then the lady will graduate and say she cannot marry an illiterate. Do the men lay curses. Abeg make una park well.

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  7. Hmmmm, That's why i dont believe in the someone helped me to be rich do it yourself and owe no one anything. As for the guy he should try to make the relationship work real Love doesn't just die like that things lead to it. Think about it how come our parents lasted as long as they did cos they made a decision to love their partners and discovered new ways to love them daily. There is nothing like falling out of love.

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  8. I don't even know what to say. I'm a strong proponent of "leave when you're tired, don't string them along"... but this is callous. Six good years? and then you propose just months later to someone 8 years younger? Me sef I feel like adding to the curses. I pray God heals the lady's wounds fast and blesses her with a good man.

    As for this guy, only prayers can help him.

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  9. I wonder if the new fiancée knows this is the drama she's about to walk into...

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  10. I am just short of words.....

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  11. I don't even know how people date for so long without marriage ... 6years, WHAT! what can I say, both made mistakes and wasted 6 years of their lives. The girl is paying already and no matter how long it takes(6 months or 6years) the guy will still pay for the wickedness ... It's ONLY a causeless curse that doesn't hold. Prov. 26:2

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  12. The man is wicked! All what he did was pre_determined. He was never in love with her from time, but was using her for financial gain which is why he didn't cheat all the while he was with her. He felt he was keeping his own side of the bargain by being faithful. What pricks me is stringing her along fully knowing he was not going to marry her

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  13. Hopefully, his parents are not folding their hands where they are. Make dem fight the battle with the woman he hurt. :-)

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