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Tuesday, 14 June 2016

Dear Thelma... (I'm Married But I Want More).






Hey guys, I don't know who the poster is although she says we chat occasionally. However, this is a no-judgement zone and any rude or judgmental comments will not be posted. If you've got something you'd like to say which you don't want on the blog you're free to mail me. Cheers!

Greetings! I hope you are okay. I just want to commend you on your blog. You are doing a fantastic job.
I have a problem that is making me go cray cray.
First my name is *****, I read your blog and comment under a different name, you and I are quite okay as we have chatted severally. I just need to talk to someone about something that's really on my mind lately.

I am married of course to a nice guy and sex is great, however, I want more. I really want to do it with a girl. I guess I am a little abnormal right. 
I know all the christian doctrines about this, so believe me when I say its not something i am proud of. I have prayed and wished it away but as it is, It has been of no use for now.

The thoughts of sucking another girls firm and full boobs just makes me wet. I don't think I am a lesbian, I just think I am bi-curious.
I did suck a girls breast back in university but it was just once, and we kissed. The feeling was heavenly.
I am glad I did not attend an all girls school, who knows what would have happened.

Even after having good sex with the husband, I still crave rubbing my vagina on another vagina. Please am I okay. This thought takes over me sometimes I watch lesbian porn just to get the feeling off. I doubt I am a lesbian cos I don't think sucking cunt will be my specialty.

My husband does not have an idea about my feelins, I don't want to scare him cos he loves me much.
I just want a fuck buddy I am attracted to, so we can help each other. The craziest part of this my issue is that I feel sluty sometimes and I don't mind being kept and paid by a richer woman.

Goodness Thelma, I need some talking to and prayers. I thought really hard about this before sending you this mail as I don't want to judged and I want to just let this steam out. I don't know if I am alone in this mess. I just can't help myself. I know I want to try it so bad, I know I will enjoy it so so well, I know I won't allow it affect my marriage.

What can I do. I am really desperate.

40 comments:

  1. Hmmn..feel like you read my mail..this is so me..i have struggled but nah! All I can say is I understand, you're not weird and neither are you alone.

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  2. Anon you think ur weird? Hell no, this is the reality of many women and i used to be like u too but thankfully when we were engaged dh and i had several threesomes so i have gotten it out of my system. Woman on woman action is very sweet sha i swear

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    1. Whoa! So tell us - Do you still get the urge for girl on girl action? How do you handle it? You cant say its completely out of your system

      Peace

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    2. @ Kon I don't crave it to the extent of going to look for it because im not a lesbian but I really enjoyed it when it happened. It was bobo's idea but I always enjoyed it more than him sef. The pleasure from watching other girls work on me was enough for him that all the times we did it he eventually did not f*k the girls. It's out of my system but it might still happen in the future, it actually brought us closer. I've said enough byeee

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    3. Ring the alarm, cos I'll be damned if I see another chick in your arms (or *****).

      This is good. Atleast some are staying true to their reality. Not hiding behind religion.

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    4. Marriages these days tho!! It actually brought u guys closer?? Mmmmm tell me abt it... dats how one day he'll f**k d girls. He might even be doing it behind ur bck, trust me!
      @ poster: u can actually overcome dat feeling... maybe by just doing it.

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  3. Self honestly is a good policy.

    On a side note: Those who think being gay is a choice shld re-read this post a lot slowly...

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  4. Err... I don't have any advice on the way to help you get this stuff outta your system but can you try talking to your husband about your wants? Maybe you guys can reason it out, plus he might have his own fetish that he's scared to talk about. Maybe he also wants to be with a man... you never know.

    I don't think its normal tho...

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  5. No need going anon, To be honest with you dear, most women feel exactly the way you do. Most times you imagine and feel wield things with regards to sex. If you try it once with a lady especially the wrong person, all the urge might go. The issue I don't understand is why you want to do it for money?. Any way, over to others.

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  6. You Know this!!!

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  7. Huh! Lol... Jisos...I cover my boobs with the blood of God. Please pray out those feelings, before it destroys your marriage. What do u intend to gain after exploring, please don't start what you cannot finish oo.

    ***Lauretta Andra***

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  8. Nothing wrong with having a lil freaky thoughts. From your description Ill say you are either a lesbian or bi-sexual. Dont deceive yourself that you are straight

    Im in support of being faithful to your partner. But if this feeling is driving you crazy and you think you need to satisfy yourself. Then Ill say:

    1) Get yourself a clean prostitute for the night and devour her sexually.
    2) If its something you want to do continously then I advice you stick with prostitutes only. Dont even think of having a girlfriend. Prostitutes are better because a) they keep their mouths shut b) No need to be ashamed/shy around them c) they will do alll you want and not judge you
    3) Dont ever get carried away. Or else your marriage will be affected.

    Peace.

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    1. Poster I won't advise a prostitute but I know some hot young university students that will gladly "romance" you. Them sabi the work die! I don't know if there's somewhere they go to learn how to do it. But you have to "find them something" lol. Since ur married u might have to be the sugar mummy o. Na university chikitoes dey get sugar mummy

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    2. Same thing. Weda na professional prostitute or School girls doing it for money. All the same.

      Peace

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  9. The more porn u watch d more you want to try it out. If u really want to be free seek help with d porn addiction 1st. Try Leke Alder or Lanre Olusola or even Sola adio. Google them to get their resources.
    Cheers

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  10. I don't undstnd why u will want to b kept and paid by a richer woman when u are married n hubbys sex is great! Reading ur post, it's OK to feel any type of way as it's just a feeling n it can be dealt with. However, I don't know how u can deal with this feeling but if I were in ur shoes, I probably try as much as possible to get it out of my mind... not a gud feeling!!

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  11. This is my perspective. Marriage is about commitment it does not mean that once you get in you stop being human and automatically stop feeling. I don't see the difference between what you wrote above and a scenario where a husband is attracted to a hot girl outside and just wants to f--k her or a married woman sees a hot guy and craves to be ravished by him or where married people just want to have sex with people order than their spouses.

    So i'll advice you to resist the temptation and keep to your commitment if you really care about your marriage as you stated.

    If I come to this blog and say i'm married but really want to have sex with other guys, it's the same with your scenario. In your case you long for female. Married people have fantasies, they get sexually attracted to people order than their spouses(same gender or not) so i'll give same advise. If you really care about your marriage then you have to think twice before cheating. When I read your post the only question it raised in my head was" should I cheat or not" so my reply is do not cheat cos it could cost you irrespective of who you cheat with. J

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  12. You're not alone my dear, the only difference is my husband doesn't mind me doing it but I havent met a girl I like yet.

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  13. This is my perspective. Marriage is about commitment it does not mean that once you get in you stop being human and automatically stop feeling. I don't see the difference between what you wrote above and a scenario where a husband is attracted to a hot girl outside and just wants to f--k her or a married woman sees a hot guy and craves to be ravished by him or where married people just want to have sex with people order than their spouses.

    So i'll advice you to resist the temptation and keep to your commitment if you really care about your marriage as you stated.

    If I come to this blog and say i'm married but really want to have sex with other guys, it's the same with your scenario. In your case you long for female. Married people have fantasies, they get sexually attracted to people order than their spouses(same gender or not) so i'll give same advise. If you really care about your marriage then you have to think twice before cheating. When I read your post the only question it raised in my head was" should I cheat or not" so my reply is do not cheat cos it could cost you irrespective of who you cheat with. J

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    1. Couldn't have put it in a better form. Seconded! Chrisyinks

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  14. LMAO... What's up with the 'I am bi-curious'(really?)

    It's quite unfortunate thT you are already married, if you weren't bounded already, I would hVe suggested you try out your inner desires but in this situation you have to communicate with your husband(that's if he's an understand one). If you think he won't take it rightly, my dear just lock up and keep watching them porn. That all.

    Or you can just cheat. Easy (right?)

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    1. "...if you weren't bounded already, I would have suggested you try out your inner desires...". Hehehe.

      Uyi, are you bounded? Do you try out your inner desires, or fight them? At least fighting is what is prescribed by your DOCTOR, right? So which do you do? :D

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  15. I disagree...y'all judging...Hmmmm is it because you sin differently?
    Dear poster I understand because I have been there.

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  16. What our bodies do to betray us. Wow, I usually admire babes with nice assests in front seeing that i woulda loved to have been endowed with just a little bit more. Now I am over it cos after two kids the assest didnt move up, rather pointing towards gravity (lol).

    However there is a thin line between reality and fantasy.
    If your hubby can handle thisn do go ahead and tell him, and let your telling him be the "common sebse factor.The danger is that you may have just opened a can of worms if he also has a fantasy.

    Since yoy had this tendency you should have explored it before marrying. Now that you are married please seek help.

    Peace


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  17. No one judged her. That you are a sinner does not mean you should encourage others to sin. If advicing a married woman not to cheat is judging her then your definition of judging someone is completely different from the conventional dictionary meaning of judging someone.J

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  18. "The best way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it"- Oscar Wilde.

    That's all.

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  19. I guess I'm beginning to stop being shocked by some things I read or hear.

    If you don't have anything good to say... Don't say anything at all.. So I'll keep quiet or hold my horses. But there's something very wrong with this. Very!!! 😥

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    1. Happy Birthday Kabuoy!! Please don't scatter my face with kicks and punches, I know I'm soooo late!! Lool. May GOD bless you now and always. Amen. :D

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    2. Oooo my crush! Nothing you do would ever make me do that! 😂 Thank you for the wishes 😊😗

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    3. Happy belated birthday Kabouy.

      Apologies I missed it.

      Wonderful things shall come your way in this new year.

      -F

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  20. Is there a reason everyone is taking this as alright and saying she should go ahead and get it out of her system 😂

    Don't judge okwaya?! Issokay.

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  21. "...I know all the christian doctrines about this, so believe me when I say its not something i am proud of...".

    "...I have prayed and wished it away but as it is, It has been of no use for now...".

    The first quoted statement shows you have a good sense of morality. That's splendid, especially in these times people are bound to sugarcoat all sorts of atrocities. Having a sense of morality makes us more contrite and speeds up redemption.

    The second part only shows your struggle with temptation, a herculean task that is not peculiar to you alone but to all of us...even Saint Paul. Hear him:

    "...I cannot explain what is happening to me, because I do not do what I want, but on the contrary, the very things I hate...I know what is right does not abide in me...I discovered this reality. Though I wish to do the right thing, the evil within me asserts itself first...". - Romans 7:14-25.

    He tells us the only way to fight this evil within us is by the Grace of GOD. How do we obtain this Grace? Only one way, fervent prayer. Dear Poster, you've prayed about this, pray harder. You've wished this away, wish more. Giving excuses for our weaknesses only puts a smile on the face of the devil because he thinks he's winning this war, for we're on a battle field...everyday is a battle. We all face this battle and we have no choice but to unsheathe our swords. Don't sheathe yours. You'll do just fine.

    Stay blessed.

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    1. Very well said Memphis!
      We all battle with various things and also have impure thoughts but as stated in 2corinth 10:5...we take captive of every thought to make it obedient to Christ
      You need to pray about these thoughts (make them obedient to Christ ) and renew your mind with the word of God
      It is possible to get rid of such thoughts

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  22. Here's my advice- do what you wanna do, let your bi-curiousness destroy your marriage by indulging in all you've said (no normal husband would be comfy with what you're saying) or get your act together and visit tb Joshua lol
    It's your choice and you know he consequences. Really no 2 way around this or beating around the bush it's very simple.

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  23. Lord have mercy... We all battle with different sins.. Please don't try it. It's an abomination. Pray about it. Talk to your husband. All the best

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  24. Poster holla at me... i cud help kindly drop ur contact.

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  25. Oo eM Gee..dear I think u need prayers. Serious fasting and prayer.

    But wat more can it be if not lesbianism? Yet u're so sure it's not. Mbok, keep praying & wishing it away,fight d urge each time and don't give in. God help you dear.

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