They walked in hand in hand, chuckling about something that only they knew. The first thing you'd notice about her were her nerd glasses which made her look very young and quirky. Her pink Tshirt, jeans, flat sandals and ghana weaving also lent to her girlish look. He was also young looking and full of life, his strides were long and energetic. Before they got to the table he took a step ahead and pulled out a seat for her. Perfect gentleman things.
They joined us and made their orders and although there was a lively conversation already ongoing on the table, they had their own little tête a tête which I couldn't help but listen to. Before they came I'd already got to learn about them and know that they'd been married for at least seven years and from what I heard, they seemed to have a good marriage.
So here's the part of the conversation that I'd like to talk about.
Her: I think I need to quickly go and see her, I will come back and meet you here
Him: Go and see her bawo? It's already night jor, go there tomorrow
Her: But that's the problem, she's travelling in the evening and she has marriage classes in the afternoon. There won't be time.
Him: This their marriage class never finish sef? How many months is it now?
Her: My dear, I tire o! What about us wey nor do marriage class?
Him & Her: *belly-grabbing laughter* *laughter* *more laughter* *holding hands and rolling eyes and chuckle*
I found this exchange very interesting and it brings me to my question. Some churches make marriage classes a prerequisite for marrying in their church. I don't know if this is done in mosques as well. Most people are open to the idea. Some just go through the motions because they don't really have a choice. A few people however do not do this at all. I guess my question is to the married people in the house.
Did you take marriage classes before your wedding? Did you do it because you wanted to or because you had to? Did it really help in preparing you for marriage? Do you think it had any impact on your marriage? Would you recommend it to others?
Personally I don't think I would like to take marriage classes before my wedding. Don't ask me why because I don't know, I just feel like it might be a waste of my time. I guess that's why I'm asking, I'd like to know if I'd really be missing anything if I'm able to "escape" marriage classes; if I and the hubs are good to go without it or if it's very advisable that we do.
Ps; I'm not even remotely engaged or sure in which era I might get married, so don't start to wonder. I just think about these things sometimes.