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Saturday, 23 July 2016

Bizarre Tradition Where The "Hyena" Has Sexual Intercourse With Womenand Young Girls To Cleanse Them.


You know, there are times I actually struggle with the "validity" of religion and Christianity, especially when I consider how it was brought to us; practically imposed on us by westerners telling us (sort of just like they still are) that our own ways are not good enough, that our traditions are balderdash and theirs is the "authentic" one. Also when you see that those same people who brought it have mostly moved on from it, some of them treating it like an ugly obsolete hobby, and us, with our slave mentality are still carrying it on our heads like gala... I find I'm liking this thing called religion less and less each day. It is and has been, responsible for way too much death and evil in the world that it's beginning to look not at all Godly, holy, moral or just. In any case, in my quiet moments I weigh the pros and the cons of Christianity being brought by the missionaries, and one thing it was good for at least, was abolishing repugnant practices in some places. Unfortunately however many of these practices still exist, one of which I just read about on Bella Naija and find rather sickening. Read below. 



This man, Eric Aniva is being paid between $4 – $7 (between N1,500 and N2,650 using the current black market rate)by parents to sleep with their children in what they call “sexual cleansing”.
They say it is an age long tradition that marks the progression of adolescent girls to womanhood. Also, if a woman loses her husband, she is brought to people like Aniva for cleansing before she can bury him. If women get an abortion, they are brought to him for cleansing too.
Aniva is called “hyena” by the community and he told BBC’s Ed Butler that there are about 10 of them in the community. He says that each community in the Nsanje district has an “hyena”. He says he started the practice in 1985.
He says that it is a traditional title given to a man hired by communities to perform the sexual cleansing rituals.
12-13 year old girls are brought to him immediately after their first menstruation for him to transition them to womanhood.
Three women, FagisiChrissie and Phelia who the report says are in there 50s are responsible for the preparation of the adolescent girls. They organise the girls into camps each year, teaching them about their duties as wives and how to please a man sexually. Finally, the Hyena defiles them to complete their “transition”.
If the girls refuse to play along, it is believed that some disease or fatal misfortune could befall their families or the village as a whole.
“Most of those I have slept with are girls, school-going girls. Some girls are just 12 or 13 years old, but I prefer them older. All these girls find pleasure in having me as their hyena. They actually are proud and tell other people that ‘this man is a real man, he knows how to please a woman’,” Aniva says.
Aniva adds that he has two wives who know what he does for a living. He says he has 5 children that he knows of, stating that he’s not sure how many women and girls he must have gotten pregnant.
One of the girls, speaking to Butler said, “There was nothing else I could have done. I had to do it for the sake of my parents. If I’d refused, my family members could be attacked with diseases – even death – so I was scared.”
Butler challenged Fagisi, Chrissie and Phelia about the practice, saying that instead of “cleansing” the women, Aniva could be spreading disease because the custom demands that the sex must be without condoms. They responded by telling him that men like Aniva are hand-picked for their good morals, and therefore cannot be infected with HIV/AIDS.
But that is not the case, as Aniva confided in Butler that he is actually infected with the virus. He says he’s slept with about 104 women, but Butler believes he’s lost count as that was the same number he gave journalists in 2012.
The report states that in Malawi’s central Dedza district, hyenas are only ever used to initiate widows or infertile women. “The Paramount Chief in the District, Theresa Kachindamoto – a rare female figurehead in Malawi – has made the fight against the tradition a personal priority,” Butler said.
“She is trying to galvanise other regional chiefs to make similar efforts. In some other districts, like Mangochi in the east of the country, ceremonies are being adapted to replace sex with a more benign anointing of the girl,” he added.
One of Aniva’s wives, Fanny who he “cleansed” after her husband’s death, says that she hates her husband’s job.
“I don’t want that to happen. I want this tradition to end. We are forced to sleep with the hyenas. It’s not out of our choice and that I think is so sad for us as women,” she responded when asked if she will allow her 2-year old to be cleansed when she reaches the age.
Aniva too doesn’t want that for his beloved daughter. “Not my daughter. I cannot allow this. Now I am fighting for the end of this malpractice,” he responds to the same question.
“For sure. For real, I’m stopping,” he added.
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Did this man just say he doesn't want it for his daughter? Jokes!

8 comments:

  1. "...when you see that those same people who brought it have mostly moved on from it...and us, with our slave mentality are still carrying it on our heads like gala... I find I'm liking this thing called religion less and less each day...".

    There are many ways to carry gala, e.g., carry it like Sunny carries cold drinks or carry it like Jumoke carries bread. Jumoke is the one who finally gets the juicy endorsements while Sunny is constantly fleeing from dreaded looking KAI officials.

    The major problem with Religion is that it requires Laws/Rules/Regulations as it's in most cases, the factor bonding a society. Humans are fickle and so require control, or else why should we have laws when we could listen and be guided by our conscience? After GOD called Abraham, there was no Law to guide Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, and Joseph in their sojourn. Laws (Ten Commandments/Mosaic Laws) came nearly 6 centuries later because, as JESUS said, the descendants became "stiffed necked people".

    In Genesis 35, GOD told Jacob to relocate with his family to Bethel and build an alter to HIM. That was it. What did Jacob do? He started telling his family members to do away with all the *otumokpo* they were carrying about, wash their clothes and completely cleanse themselves. Prior to that time, GOD never told Jacob that he and/or his family MUST serve only HIM (1st commandment of the 10), neither did HE give instruction to Jacob on family cleansing. Jacob acted out of his conscience. Another display of conscience was when Joseph refused to commit adultery with his master's wife (Genesis 39), yet he never heard GOD say, "thou shalt not commit adultery"(7th commandment of the 10).

    When we're enslaved by Laws, Religion becomes like Sunny's business. That business, unfortunately is thriving in virtually all religious practices. That's why people like Aniva and Yerima will always exist among us. Let me end this comment with these sweet words from OGA JAY..

    "The Sabbath was made for Man, and not Man for the Sabbath" - Mark 2:27.

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  2. I understand your concern about religion but I think you have taken it wrongly. Many other thing where forced on us (even though when I read the history of Christianity in Nigeria it was more like we saw a people better than us so we accepted what we felt made them better, but let's use the word forced), where did schools come from, where did cars come from, and the language we are using to build our nation. The question of religion is not one of which people bring it to you. It's a question of it it true or false. The Bible tells us that man is fallen, we are all sinners so if you look at humans we would be disappointed. Everything can be used as a vehicle for our evil intentions. Even in the Bible people lied about God and used his name to do all manner of evil (Eli''s sons). If Jesus rose from death then the picture is not God behind my pastor then me n my family, but God facing me directly with his blood. As to Europeans leaving God. That's still it not an issue. When I speak to most of them they can't even give make a good case against God. The reason why they are leaving is through same reason why I had the same worries as you when I was studies abroad, it's because it's fashionable. It makes you seem smarter. Just the same way many Nigerian are religious because it makes you seem good here. I'll recommend mere Christianity by C S Lewis and watch William Lane Craig''s debates.
    I know I have written a lot but it's because when I see someone with questions I try to provide answers. The other day my brother was talking about how God seemed different in the old testament and my dad told him you cannot question God. I almost went mad. The causation was false and should be shown to be so, telling a teenager not to ask questions because it is God is not encouraging the type of faith Jesus endorsed. The faith of a little child, have you ever seen a little child who didn't have questions

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  3. I understand your concern about religion but I think you have taken it wrongly. Many other thing where forced on us (even though when I read the history of Christianity in Nigeria it was more like we saw a people better than us so we accepted what we felt made them better, but let's use the word forced), where did schools come from, where did cars come from, and the language we are using to build our nation. The question of religion is not one of which people bring it to you. It's a question of it it true or false. The Bible tells us that man is fallen, we are all sinners so if you look at humans we would be disappointed. Everything can be used as a vehicle for our evil intentions. Even in the Bible people lied about God and used his name to do all manner of evil (Eli''s sons). If Jesus rose from death then the picture is not God behind my pastor then me n my family, but God facing me directly with his blood. As to Europeans leaving God. That's still it not an issue. When I speak to most of them they can't even give make a good case against God. The reason why they are leaving is through same reason why I had the same worries as you when I was studies abroad, it's because it's fashionable. It makes you seem smarter. Just the same way many Nigerian are religious because it makes you seem good here. I'll recommend mere Christianity by C S Lewis and watch William Lane Craig''s debates.
    I know I have written a lot but it's because when I see someone with questions I try to provide answers. The other day my brother was talking about how God seemed different in the old testament and my dad told him you cannot question God. I almost went mad. The causation was false and should be shown to be so, telling a teenager not to ask questions because it is God is not encouraging the type of faith Jesus endorsed. The faith of a little child, have you ever seen a little child who didn't have questions

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    1. Thank you Ugonna. In truth, I have so many questions about religion and Christianity these days but I dont ask them lest people think I have gone mad. Another reason i dont ask is that I cannot downplay, understate or deny the benefits of having a relationship with God. So I tend to ignore those nagging questions/observations and just focus on my spirituality.

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    2. Well thought out response ugonna.

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    3. Thank you Ugonna. I was born into a christian family, church Sundays n mid week fellowship, but mehn.... it was burdensome bcos I was only playing religion. then, uni came and I dint go to church, it felt good. Then one day towards d end of year 3, I went to church, loved d aura and I bcam a worker, not born again ooo, just loved the peace and sanity with around God. Then one day, I decided to have a relationship with Him, dat morning, in my room, on my bed, I told Him: God, I want to have a walk with you, i'll read you word and u'll perform dem in my life. My dear, it's being 6 beautiful years of a meaningful relationship with God, not religion. I know what it means to call God my ROCK, My Shield, My Strength, My Strong Tower. Christianity is not a religion!!!! No!!!!!! It is a personal relationship between God and a willing man, it is not burdensome, it is not a bondage, it comes with freedom and love, absolutely void of fear.
      So, when pple play religion and cry under the weight of it, I share with them the peace I experience with God. It brought deliverance from our own tradition dat was destroying us with ignorance, we still see repercussion of some till date.

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  4. A killer does not ever want anyone to pass a sword over his head(Yoruba adage). So the hyena himself knew it is a barbaric and unfair tradition but was enjoying it too much to stand against it until reality of his daughter being a victim hits him hard in the face?

    Messed-up people and crazy tradition.

    -F

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