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Dear Thelma, (Post-Lovemaking Rant)





Thelma I dunno if this is TMI but pls kindly post. My boyfriend just pissed my off after the best sex ever and I want to share. You see this thing they say about gender inequality, it is real and it exists even in the most unexpected places. It is even more annoying because this my supposed boyfriend says there's nothing like gender inequality because there's nothing women want to do that they cannot do, but as the enlightened woman that I am, I always try to enlighten him, even though he does not listen. This morning we had mad morning sex, we are a very sexually active couple but something about this morning was different, it was longer than normal and it was just so good. Normally if I have sex for longer than twenty or thirty minutes I start to get bored but this time around the longer it was, the sweeter it got. He eventually "came" and at the point my body was bent out of shape (but in a good way lol). As a result I couldn't get up to wash up just yet but he got up to clean up. Now let me share something, when Bae comes after sex, I usually clean him up. I use a warm towel to clean him very well because we all know most men like to sleep or rest after good sex. I do it cos I love him and I know he's too tired to get up sometimes, and I later learnt he really enjoys it when I clean him up. Most times he just sleeps up after that. Today nau, after he finished to my surprise he got up almost immediately to clean up, I tried to stand but I was too weak so I said please babes, please come and clean me up. Next thing I heard, this guy said Are you mad, you better stand up and clean yourself!  

I was so shocked and hurt. I had no choice but to get up. I later asked him why and he said how can he be cleaning me up?

BVs, so it's ok to clean him but not vice versa abi? If this is not a pure sign or gender inequality then I don't know what is. 

Anyway I still love my bobo sha, he is the best. I just wanted to share my rant with my fellow BVs. Pls if anybody has anything to share pls talk. I know say no be only me waka come. 



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ROTFL. I had a good laugh. Any other disgruntled lover have something to rant about?

Comments

  1. This made me smile. Next time don't clean him up. I hope he gives you head o abi only you dey give? Heheheh

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    1. This comment is very loaded..

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    2. More like this post is very loaded... irrelevant stuff!! U guys keep ur fucking issues to urself o...

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    3. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ yes. Keep it to yourselves πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
      We have more pressing matters to discuss/worry about 😊

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  2. Hahaha...You guys would be okayπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚... #thingswedoforlove.TNHW

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  3. This is what i call Arrant Nonsense. There's nothing one wont read again eeh! Porn movie on blogs these days. Total rubbish. How does this edify anyone?

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    1. I tire o.
      Kratos

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    2. To each his or her own, i enjoyed this post because it is very real. This is not a christian or inspirational blog. They have plenty of those on the Internet, Google is your friend.

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    3. To each his or her own, i enjoyed this post because it is very real. This is not a christian or inspirational blog. They have plenty of those on the Internet, Google is your friend.

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    4. LMAO!!! Quite hilarious... Even me sef was shocked at the 'are you mad'question... Lol *chai

      Pele. Oya don't clean him too Na. I mean how can you be cleaning him, as what Na??

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    5. She needs to keep cleaning, maybe that's wat will make him put the ring on her finger
      Taaaaa. He won't marry u o. Genital cleaner!! This post is just too stupid...

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    6. This comment is even more stupid. Sorry dear but not everybody is marriage hungry. So all the things you do in a relationship is so that they will marry you? Eiyah I really pity you. FYI bae and are never getting married because of genotype issues. We have a great relationship and are in love with each other. And guess what, that's perfect for me. Marriage is not on my mind at all so jokes on you, marriage hungry girl.

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    7. Poster go siddon for dirty abeg, a grown ass lady like you sent an epistle to a blog ontop useless matter like this and you still get liver to reply comment, na wa o wetin pesin no go see abeg! Nonsense and ingredient.

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    8. Poster, people do things in relationships for different reasons. Some for marriage, yes, some to keep their men, some for money, etc. U know why u do wat u do so continue if it works for u...
      And Mr. Bf next time she wants u to clean down there, do it for love too. Women sha, una can do things o!!
      There's just something abt this post... hmmmm!

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  4. cleaning him up with warm towel after sex, I spent a couple of minutes trying to imagine the process but my poor brain failed.

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    2. As in like seriously!! did he spill his come all over himself or did he take a bath with your vjayjay juices? My poor brain plus back ache too.. I need a massage.

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  5. Poster do you work with LAWMA?I see you like to keep "Labush" clean. #Iranuabasha+Selfishboyfriend

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  6. I had a good laugh.
    poster, not clean up again to balance the equation oo

    Ebele

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  7. I had a good laugh.
    poster, not clean up again to balance the equation oo

    Ebele

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  8. Why so angry people??

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  9. I have nothing against this poster's rant but I am shocked at the 'mad' word used...The poster and her bae fits each other perfectly!#MyOpinion!

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  10. I love drama on ttb. More of this sort of posts pls! Lol.

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  11. I don't think boo not cleaning up for you qualifies as gender inequality. The fight for gender equality is less about relationship and marriage dynamics, rather, it is more about parity in the society and workplace for both genders. It is easier for any party (male or female) to walk out of a relationship that doesn't feature mutual respect than for a woman to walk out of her society or workplace because she is first seen as a woman then a human.

    Just talk with boo. It appears he values the cleaning up aspect but is yet to value that if he can be cleaned by you, he shouldn't be so much against cleaning you up, especially when the sex is mutually pleasurable. If he still isn't willing to clean you up, then don't clean him up. Relationships thrive on mutual respect

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  12. Its easier to clean a stick than to clean a hole.

    You gave the guy hard work to do which he wasnt ready to do after using up all his energy.

    Peace.

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  13. na wah for some post

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  14. I don't mind the rant I just don't understand how gender inequality plays in. Oh well I had a good laugh reading the comments

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