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Wednesday, 13 July 2016


My people, how have we all been? I've been good, thanks be to God. Everything is great with me, great but rather hectic. What with kids on vacation, and overactive 8 month old baby and mama away on work, then chasing business in order to make cash because don't you just love to live comfortably? LOL, and the Lekki-Lere commute I make for a few hours every other day because I'm the parents' only child in Lagos at the moment and those ones just suddenly began to have empty nest syndrome and I'm constantly finding myself there... I've been inundated. Which is probably why I've just not been in that headspace for social media generally of late. 

Yet, I've missed my TTB Fam. 

Did anyone miss me 🙈?

Oh btw that's a picture of me from some yearsssss ago, when 30 seemed like a lifetime away and life was only about today, "tomorrow" an abstract concept one need not waste time attempting to grasp...

Now can I ask you all a question on behalf of a friend; have you ever been in a serious relationship with someone, things had always been sweet and rosy, but things are starting to feel off... How do you know when someone no longer loves you as much as they used to/starts loving you less? What do you do about it?

Thanks as you share. 


  1. I miss u Thelma.As for the relationship issue,I usually get tired first,when I was single.I just start having this feeling of irritation around the person and the next thing is for me to bounce..TNHW

  2. The calls will reduce,he will read your messages and not reply.The visits will also reduce.If he used to be extremely generous with you,that area will also experience a negative change.
    You sef go see say the water nor pure, you go feel am for your body say somtin miss.
    Na that one dem dey call "Handwriting on the wall".
    I think it is better to see the handwriting on the wall than to see the skeleton in the cupboard

    1. these your symptoms doesnt mean anything madam... it could just be that the person is busy. i do that when am busy naturally, it doesnt mean i love my partner less or falling out of love. love is in phases poster, sometimes its hot other times its cold. dont go concluding or giving yourself BP. talk to ur partner. communication is key!

    2. I still disagree with you.
      No matter how busy I am I will never forget a whole day to check on my love.I might not call the normal time but I will Definitely check up on you even if it's the last thing I'd do before I sleep.
      How can you claim you don't love me less when you used to be my alarm and lullaby?
      How can you claim not to love me less when we used to be very expressive about everything concerning us and suddenly you no longer communicate or start to avoid me?
      You are sooo busy,you see 10 missed calls and never return them?Then after waiting for like 3 days,I still have to call you to remind you? Common!!!
      You are too busy to reply my messages yet not busy to read them?what ever happened to a quick "brb babe,wwkmd"?
      You don't love me less yet you no longer wanna hang out with me?Hello!!!!
      No matter what you are going through or busy with,I believe your partner should be made to understand that there is a new development in your life and career that has divided your attention .

      I am all for communication but if he loves you less?he will create a gap in communication btw you two and when you try to bring his attention to it,he will say "babe,nothing has changed".Excuse you???

      People in love are NEVER too busy for one another.

  3. I miss u thelma, I have been checking this page for update...

  4. you communicate! one cannot starts having conversation with self.. have a talk with your boo.

  5. It happened in my marriage. So I loved him more, I complained, I fought him and then I finally came to a place of peace and acceptance and decided to live my life and do me. Guess what? Now he wants to do I am no longer in that space and I find that I am now the one loving less.

    1. The essence of love cycle.

  6. First, what is love?? Sometimes, what we think is love truly isn't... so ur friend should take heart. Shit happens!

  7. Shuo Thelma, you started doing selfies way back before it was norm. Trendsetter


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