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Monday, 25 July 2016

Missing The One. (It Goes Down In The DM...)






Not missing as in missing/longing for someone. But missing as in lost, as in lose/miss an opportunity, or something... 

Ok, this is very random. Over the years I've met and heard of several people who met their husbands on social media, facebook to be precise. I've always wondered about it and made halfhearted mental notes to pay more attention to my facebook inbox, yet I never get round to doing that. 

I dunno why but I just feel some type of way about strangers messaging me on social media for "friendship". 

So now I've just met someone celebrating her marriage and she couldn't stop gushing about her husband, and how they met. Apparently he sent her a FB request, she accepted it and then he inboxed her saying "thanks for accepting my request, I'll like to know you better...."  And today they're married and she seems soooo in love. 

And then I looked at myself, do you know how many "thanks for accepting my request messages" I've shunned 😩😩😩? 
      I feel really weird about receiving messages from male strangers on social media, I feel even more disturbed by "thanks for accepting my request" messages. They just make me feel icky somehow. Like, I don't even open the chat at all, my default reaction to such messages is see this loser/scammer/weirdo/and other un-nice adjectives. 

And now I'm lying in bed wondering HAVE I MISSED MY HUSBAND?!



LOL. How do you feel about direct messages (DM) from strangers on social media. Do you keep an open mind about it and reply to their chats, or do shut it down instantly? What are your experiences so far with people you've met on social media? Please share your romantic and regretful (if any) DM stories.

17 comments:

  1. Sonetimes you have to take the chance. I got 4 proposals from guys i met , rather guys who saw my picture n sent a request on face book. 3 out of the 4 came to nigeria from usa to meet me in person.

    I turned them down for several reasons ranging from having kids already to other issues .
    Lol. You never ever know.

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    1. #Bado! 4 proposals?

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  2. I keep a very open mind about SM. I communicate better via messaging.
    Take Memphis for instance...lol

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    1. Yes...very open mind. Lool.

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    2. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚what are you people not telling us.

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    3. @Kabuoy its Thelma n Memphis not sasha bone,i think she sorta hinted in a previous post

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  3. T it's not only u o, I feel irky too. And just like you do, I shun a Lotta such messages, especially d friend requests. Lol mine is so bad dat I even set up a criteria for accepting friend requests, we must ve a certain no of mutual friends if I don't know u atol b4 I accept. But unlike you, ion give no shi* abt it or whoever I've missed out on. I know people too who've gotten married sequel to a friendship that started on fb/IG etc, d only one I Eva thought of giving a chance blew a thousand times over lol. So to dem I say Kudos, ts def not for me mbok.

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  4. Only met 2 chics through twitter DM.

    1) She lied like it was food. First she was single and looking for somebody to shag, then she was married and living in PH. Coincidentally I was in PH for a bit and then she disappeared. I never met her. But she enjoyed very sexual chats. When I said Im not chatting with her again she threatened to black mail me. I was like "whuh?? Bitch! You must not know who you funking with" She had to back down last last.

    2) We chat a few times. Then she invited me over for lunch at her crib. She served me food like I was a king mehn. I ate. Had nice conversation. I left. And we never spoke again. Weird.

    Guess my market has never really sold on social media.

    Peace

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    1. Hahaha,so ur among those who "slide into the dm"?

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    2. No o. It was them that entered my DM.

      Peace

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  5. One boring Saturday afternoon I decided to chat with a friend on FB who's been trying to chat me up for a while, it was an interesting chat so we exchanged numbers and brought the chat to whatsapp. After chatting and calling (mostly from him) for few weeks, he said he'll like to visit me and I agreed. Later he travelled, came back and demanded I visit him instead. I refused and he stopped talking to me. The thing pain me ehn so I decided to stop replying msgs on FB. Anytime I receive a msg, I simply read and forget about it.

    When I was much younger, I was active on almost all chatting sites because I was desperately looking for friends and seeking for validation. I meet a lot of people then and some even visit me but as I grow older, I gradually drifted apart from all of them.

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  6. I keep an open mind about SM, and also welcome it. It tends to ease the phase of getting to know each other as against the alternative of a physical meeting which requires an investment of time and a mutually convenient place to meet. I have very good relationships with some people I've met from SM and never met physically till today. I guess technological advances transforms how we live and interact and I wouldn't want to lose out of this 'transformation.'

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  7. I can bore about anyone to death on SM, you really have to be a first degree friend, and I never bother sliding into anyone's DM.
    *no new friends* in Drake's voice

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  8. Lols remember the dude that proposed to the girl he met on twitter? He wrote a whole story that trended on most blogs, you also wrote about it albeit cynically. Yeah, they have a very cute son now and they are extremely happy and in love. I should know she's my iyawo oko/ nwunye di. So don't underrate sm oh most end well.

    PS: I also ignore the thanks for accepting my request message, I'm always like huh weirdo...

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  9. Nah... unless I know you and we have a couple of mutual friends that are close to me, there's no way I'm accepting your friend request much less replying your messages.

    I do have one good friend that I met on twitter. We are namesakes and we served in the same place (I guess that's what made us close). We meet up once a year at Experience ☺😊

    My Facebook chat is perpetually turned off cos I can't deal wiv those "friends" that stay up just waiting for you to come online..lol.

    I'm really bad at social media interactions generally.

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