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"Let's Stop This Nonsensical Culture That Shames People Who Work For Someone Else"

Finally, someone says it as it is. Enough of this culture of shaming people with jobs making an honest living for themselves. It seems once you give a "motivational speaker" a mic that's all they know to talk about. They preach entrepreneurship so much so that if you're not one you begin to feel inadequate and useless! I can't forget the day a rather bereft blog reader called me saying "Everyone says I should start a business, leave my job and use my gifts to do something for myself. But I don't know what to do. I don't know what my gift is. The thing is that I really enjoy my job and I'm very good at it. I honestly enjoy helping the organization grow and rising through the ranks. But people make me look as if I'm foolish". I felt so sorry for her, with this girl's passion and work ethics she's very likely to climb the rungs swiftly and make much more money in SALARY than some supposed "I am my own boss" people, if she follows her heart that is. 

Enough of all this. If you've never learnt to serve then how well are you going to lead. Entrepreneurship is great and very useful but we can't all be one. Let's instead advise people to find what they're good at and be the best at it. 

Read Femi Jacob's post and tweets below and please share your thoughts. 

"Let’s not shame honest people who wake up daily to do honest work.
Let’s not breed entitlement in the name of enlightenment.
Let’s not negate character by raising a generation on HIGHMINDEDNESS.
I am in favor of RESIDUAL INCOME sources and the gospel of PERSONAL DREAMS.
But to say everyone MUST BE AN ENTREPRENEUR is to be practically insincere.
I am often sometimes tempted to tell some so called ENTREPRENEURS to go work for a while to even be able to understand what building a dream is like.
I know some incredible working class people who are inspiring and prosperous in the way they go about their jobs.
It’s not a crime to help someone build their dreams and be rewarded handsomely for it.
To those wonderful entrepreneurs who are creating jobs and raising dreams, I say Welldone.
And to those wonderful workers who go out daily to give a good account of their stewardship I say God bless. NO SHAME IN YOUR GAME.

TTB readers share your thoughts with me. Also tell me which category you fall into. I believe it's very ok to be either of the two, what's important is that you're being true to yourself and you're good at what you do. For some of us, lack of employment pushed us to entrepreneurship, and we're doing ok. 

But I'm curious as to what you do presently for a living and which category you fall into naturally. Do you think you're naturally entrepreneurial or do you find that you're better working for a company who's growth you contribute to? Do tell.  


  1. this is so true.. at 24 ..everyone around me is either starting a blog, photog, makeup, baking/cooking, designing,...some vocational skill by the side (some take it full time)..sometimes I feel "off"..if they can do it why cant i ? well your girl tried a blog on connecting students with more info on schools in N America.. and i forgot about it after 2 post, lol.. i enjoy cooking as my mom was a caterer back home.. tried the temp catering thing on campus and i got tired abeg..i cannot kill myself..
    I am currently rounding up my masters in HR/industrial psychology..currently interning at a really good consulting firm and I love it.. i will not come and kill myself because i do not have entrepreneurship or business woman skills..
    mom has been telling me to go educate myself on event planning lol..sorry ma.. i rather stay in my lane for now.

  2. This is a misinterpretation of the inputs of the motivational speakers.

    The messages from the motivational speakers are not meant for everyone, same way not everybody listening to a pastor or imam will use the sermons. Talk of the parable of the seed!
    It is a guidance for people to look inward especially in the face of the difficulties in getting a job. Many people with jobs are underemployed and a good population just show up because of the salary.
    We don't even have enough entrepreneurs in the country and a good number of people that can be one may not be aware until they hear from a motivational speaker, we need more folks to create the jobs for those that would like to be employed.
    Bottom line is that it is no sin being employed at a job, the Bible encourages us to be diligent in whatever our hands finds to do.
    By the way, I have a job and run a show on the side.

    Same ole me!

    1. Good morning sir. Good morning, I am trying to contain my excitement over here but all I can say is good morning sir! Kabuoy, Sunshine, Sasha, Memphis, Everybody come and see ooooooo! Sir Wale is here!

    2. As in, I just danced in my mind on seeing sir Wale. Welcome back. And to think it's my birthday. My birthday brings blessings.

    3. Welcome back Mr Wale, its so good to have you back, we missed you on the blog. #thatanonymousreader
      You just encouraged me to start commenting regularly

    4. oh my...Monsieur Wale,est-ce toi????

    5. #washingmyfacewithholywater#Welcome back mr Wale..Hope no more disappearing acts?TNHW

    6. Your point makes sense.


    7. I was really excited to see your comment, hope this isn't temporary.

      On the post, I feel every comment here is right. It's just a matter of perspective and the last time I checked, everybody is entitled to one as regards this.

    8. Nice thoughts there from Wale.

      By the way, welcome back (?)


    9. OH EMM GEE!!! Wale commented! I didn't even read the comment before commenting.

      Oga Wale!!! I kent believe my eyes. Its so good to see your name here. Please, biko, ejoo, don't disappear again.

    10. Thanks people, I missed everybody here! Can't even mention all the names. Trust you are all doing great.

    11. Am I dreaming 😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳

      Mr. Wale is back oooo πŸ’ƒπŸ½πŸ’ƒπŸ½πŸ’ƒπŸ½πŸ’ƒπŸ½πŸ’ƒπŸ½

      Waaawu! We need more Femi JacobS tweets ooo..

      I just said let me mark register today... Next thing... Wale😳😳😳

      How have you been sir... Good to have you back 😊😊😊

    12. I saw d comment scrolled down to see if it's a sign of the old or a new Mr Wale.
      Welcome back sir, Good to have you back

    13. Yay!! Oga Wale is in the house!

  3. TΓ΄t I was the only one that gets irked by motivational speakers and their quotable quotes. The one that gets me the most is "if u don't follow ur dreams,someone wld pay you to achieve his" or something funny. Before nko? Or u don't plan on paying the person or what?

  4. I also get annoyed with all this motivational speakers. Because most of the times they say things that work for themselves. That it works for Mr A does not mean it would work for Mrs B. I stopped listening to them at some point sef. Of recent I have picked up interest though but I listen to the ones I think reason like me.

    1. Happy birthday dear..Long life and prosperity.TNHW

    2. Happy Birthday Ibukunoluwa


    3. Happy birthday dear! God bless you!!! 😍😍😍😘😘😘

  5. Welcome, Oga Wale. Please, be back for good and forever. We missed you.

    Uncle Steele, Oya return too. You came back and made us all happy and disappeared again.

    Happy Birthday, Ibukun! Indeed today is a great one for us all. May lines fall for you in pleasant places.

    WHATSOEVER your hands find to do, do it well. Paid employment, entrepreneurship, whatsoever. Thanks, Mr M.

  6. Our preachers/pastors don't help either...they pray for everyone to be the 'head' and not 'tail'. My philosophy is, if you are a head, be a good one, and same goes for the tail and every other part of the body...after all, the body isn't made up of only a head or heart. We all need to loo inwards and be the best of what we were created to be. SBHM...

  7. I sight you Mr Wale.
    I'm an Executive Assistant to one of the Group Executive Directors at a States' conglomerate. Do I like my job? Not really, but the salary and benefits are enough motivation. Plus the re-assuring feeling that I'll be getting a certain stipend at the end of the month is cooling.
    If I've tried to start my own business? Yes, I used to have a noodles,chicken and egg space at a bar, which lasted less than 6 months cos of the management of the club/bar (hike in the price of drinks, hence less patronage, which in turn meant less patronage for moi) plus, dishonest staff and I was also combining the business with my Masters program and 8-whenever oga closes. I also design and sell clothes on the side.

  8. Thing is, not everything they(motivational speakers) say is for you, you filter their speech, pick the one that works for you and discard the rest. I knew a very long time ago that at this point in my life, entrepreneurship is not for me, I can't say what will happen in the next 20-25 years but for now, paid employment works for me and everyday I improve on myself and make sure that I am diligent, efficient and excellent at my job.

    I do understand Mr. Jacobs's point of view tho, you meet some of these entrepreneurs and they have this chip on their shoulder when they tell you "I work for myself" even if they don't make half of what you make in their business. They look down on those who hustle to work at 5:30am just cos they get to wake up whenever they I shake my head at them cos, ko ye won ni. I tell my friends everyday, not all of us can be entrepreneurs, its a good thing but not everyone is cut out for it.


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