Dear Mr. Kon
I need your opinions on this issue, so I wouldn't sound feminist on my advice
A lady friend has been in a relationship for almost a year with this lovely guy (according to her), due to nature of their jobs seeing is not often as it should but they make through phone calls. Which she is not complaining about as we all know the state of the economy.
But here is what is the koko; she has not ever gotten any simple thing from this lovely guy, not even a recharge card as a gift, to either make up for their long calls. On various occasions, on his own will he has promised he will send but my babe never see any 2 digit talk more of 12 digits.
She is wondering if they say you can't "love without giving" (though you can give without loving), those she read meaning into it as a Red flag as our lovely guy is hinting on building a future together.
please help a sister here.
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Kon: Whuh??? Recharge card??? As in.....recharge card?? Please! Stop it!
Firstly, I dont think women should ask their partners for anything, except its absolutely important and he is the only hope (where the independent women at?) When I say partners I mean boyfriend-girlfriend relationships, its completely different in marriage. I think - it is extremely be belittling for a babe to ask a guy for recharge card. How much is recharge card sef. If a chic asks me for recharge card its minus 50 points. To me, it means she is not willing to commit her resources to the relationship and is looking to me as a provider (Am I her father?) This is 2016! All hands must be on deck to make relationships work. Its also minus 50 points if a chic:
1. Wants to come see me and then says "you will pay for my cab o!" What?! Take a damn bus.
2. Always only buys boxers and other cheap stuff for me on my birthday
3. Never offers to pay for stuff when we go out and cant use her initiative to surprise her man by taking him on a date. Even when we buy fan yogurt in traffic she wants me to pay. WTF?!
If your friend really cant afford the long distance calls then she should reduce her calls to him. One day he will notice the reduction in calls and ask why (If he really cares). Then she can say the truth - which is that she doesn't have money for airtime. He will naturally use his brain and send some airtime to her. But a chic must never ever ever ever ask a guy for something as little as recharge card. Never disrespect yourself like that.
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