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Dear Future Husband The Clock Is Ticking, It's almost 2017!

Dear Future Husband,
I’m still single and in my 30’s now. I am ready for us to start our family and make babies. I’m tired of being a bridesmaid and would love my own home. Do you know the last wedding I attended, the bride had to come give me the whole bouquet, she didn’t even bother throwing it sef, ha! I won’t make you promises or anything of that sort, but I am an amazing person, and even though I’m sarcastic sometimes, I have a good heart. Where are you? I’m hoping you see this and send me an email cos it’s not funny anymore. People think I’m picky, but won’t you be selective of who you’d spend the rest of your life with? Even the bible says, “Can two walk together except they agree”? I hope you come on this website so you’ll see this, if you do, please send me an email. I know a lot of people will also curse me out for this and say I’m desperate, I 
really don’t care at this point. Future husband, this is injury time, the clock is ticking, before you know it, it’s 2017. Let’s make this happen. Here’s my email, send me an email: thepin******

P.S: I live in the US currently, and work, but I’m willing to relocate if need be.

I wonder what uncle Wale would say to this... 😭.

I saw and responded to the above Bella Naija comment. Do I think she's desperate? Yes. Do I think that's a bad thing? NO. Maybe desperation is not always bad. Maybe what we call desperation is just an intense longing. Maybe sometimes we need that desperation to push us. Maybe she's not even desperate at all... Whatever it is, I find myself seriously rooting for this chic and I'm looking forward to the day she'll write to say its finally happened! She sounds like a really fun and cool chic. 

But there's something that nags me, we know how Nigerians and Nigerian men in particular think. I'm wondering how eligible bachelors would percieve this comment. I'm worried, is she setting herself up for a lifetime of emotional, possibly even verbal abuse 😨? Or could this turn out to be the best move she's ever made πŸ’‘?

Can we take a poll. Would men consider her

A) Desperate; a flight risk. A no-no!!! πŸ‘€πŸ‘Ž
B) Brave, quirky, a woman who knows what she wants and is not afraid to go after it. πŸ‘πŸ‘Œ
C) Others (Pls explain). 😊

Do share your thoughts

Ps; If you're a single man in your 30s and above, and interested, you can mail me for her email address. BUT please have a facebook account because I would like to first ensure that you're indeed single and 'unencumbered' and who you say you are. 



  1. Wasn't it Dominique that sent her own writeup and implied that she was also desperate? And she's 23. Is it a bad thing to be desperate? I think it is. A desperate 23 year old and a desperate 40 year old fall in the same category...afterall "Age is just numbers".

    1. ...but Dominique was jus just being sarcastic or not?

    2. Lol. They are both desperate but while Dominique was being sarcastic, this chicka is quite serious.

    3. Lol, I think she was being sarcastic too πŸ˜‚

      wait!!! I don't know again. I'll just ask her. #backtomybooks

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    5. I also believe she was quite sarcastic. Especially with her last sentence of 'at the old age of 23', like really?

    6. I hope she finds happiness and doesn't fall into the hands of fraudulent men. Godspeed.
      A girl

    7. Memphis. You single right? Please send a mail to the lady.


  2. Dear dream job,

    When would you locate me, I can't seem to keep my thoughts to myself because I can't wait to have you and all the good things that you will offer me!

    The exotic trips, conferences, colleagues and beautiful office.

    Oh God! Please pick my call, let people see me and envy me, I am gradually losing it.


    1. As in eh. I'm as impatient as you are o. Can't wait to be financially fluid and see the world.

  3. hmmmm. Dear matured husband.

    I am honestly tired of answering questions. People feel I am either engaged or married the way I carry myself but no. I am 100% single.

    Would prefer it if you are a divorcee or widower.

    Forget the curses that will follow this post for wanting you that way but guess what. I am 5.7ft standing. Fair and young. No baggage of any kind.

    1. Anon pardon my curiousity but please why would you prefer a divorcee or a widower? I have some notions but rather than speculate and be wrong, I thought I should just ask and hopefully you'll answer.

    2. "...the curses that will follow this post...". From SDK or LIB? Lol.

    3. "Forget the curses that will follow this post for wanting you that way"
      Nah... We don't roll like that 😊
      I'm also curious to know your reason(s)

    4. Anon 2:23 I'm curious too... though I'm patient enough to wait for a fresh young bloke... hehehe

    5. Who wan curse you? For ttb? Lol. We better than that please.

  4. If I were in her desired category, what I would simply do is try to reach her and see if things can work out between us. I do not see an expression of our yearning at any particular time as desperation.

    Times have changed; there are no hard and fast rules to some things.

    Expressing her innermost yearning does not in any way make her a bad person. Moreover, she is not jumping towards any man rather she is inviting men to show interest.


  5. Men, pls can u guys answer the question ...what do u think abt her move?
    I like to think that she's probably not serious posting this. So if a guy actually sends an email to marry u, u will accept and get married to him? Hmmmmmm

  6. Gone are those days when women have a long lists of suitors... these days it's the other way round...#sad#

  7. I think I would go for B.

    Besides, she's smart enough to identify herself as picky. Apparently she knows what she wants. She ain't falling for no one that isn't right for her.

    For wondering sake, why does she even think being sarcastic isn't complimentary. It shows high intelligence at the least.

    Hope she gets what she wants cos that's what matters ultimately

  8. I feel the babe is just realistic with what she wants.People meet and marry via social media so why is her own different?Mr Wale if you are seeing this,am still very much in I won't mind buying that drink..Not sure Thelma still has my number but I would send it to her..TNHW

  9. Desperado! Result of undue pressure from some silly folks including the bride that presented the whole bouquet. Whatever happened to being positioned where she can be located, but what do I know these days.

    Aunty Yetunde, will call as soon as Thelma send me your number. Thanks

    1. Oga Wale, the playing field has shifted o... it's not how it used to be anymore


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